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Hi. I have endo so I have had warm tingly pain in my legs and feet all week. Even in Brighton I felt unwell at night. How is your weekend however?
Hi wiserlady, I suppose if I had to pick one word for life right now, it would probably be unsatisfactory, but, on the other hand, there's no alternative, so it's all about acceptance, and I'm still doing OK. I hope you are too and managing to cope with all the changes we've had thrust upon us, to keep us safer. And I think that's the important bit; not to be lost sight of just because we are fed up. The pandemic is still here, still dangerous and our number one job is to try to be safe and to try to keep others safe too.
I hope you are having a good weekend, and staying safe and well yourself.🙏
wiserlady• in reply to
Hi there. It is good to be in touch again, am sorry have not been here for a while. I have been having a lot of building and decorating going on here, plus working. Am sorry to hear that things are not great there. Hope those are things which can change or improve with time. There has been good and bad. My partner moved in properly in March but it has been a strain for me to be with him so much when he has high functioning Aspergers so it has led to arguments. My little dog Strawberry was diagnosed with lymphoma and has to have chemotherapy weekly, its very distressing, she has been my constant companion for twelve years.
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So sorry to hear about Strawberry wiserlady. That's really upsetting. I hope you manage to find a way forward with your partner. I remember earlier in the year your saying he was moving in. It must be quite stressful, especially with the added bad news of your dear dog's condition. Take care and I hope everything works out for you all! 🙏
wiserlady• in reply to
Thank you.
It’s getting a bit old but I’m doing ok. I’m a bit of an introvert so isolating is not that hard but I do miss eating out with my sister and friends once in a while and going to church. I just don’t feel safe around a lot of people. I do work but thankfully it’s outside and pretty solitary.
Sounds so so? Lots of people are meeting up now can you not meet your people now?
It is so so. My closest friends have serious health problems so getting together for something is a no no. My sister and I do see each other infrequently as her husband has diabetes and congestive heart failure and is currently waiting for a knee replacement. My best out is the women I work with. We do little things like ice cream after work and drive thru lunches. I try to keep busy at home after work.
Good thing you have that friend. do you phone email or skype with them instead?
I'm doing OK thanks for asking.
At first when this started I was angry and resentful over things getting cancelled but I have accepted the situation now and have been getting out and about now and again and meeting up with friends again as well and I cook more at home now and save eating out for an occasional treat.
I am so sorry to hear about Strawberry.
Its awful when something like this happens to a beloved pet-especially when they have been with you for so long.
Thank you for asking how others are when things have been hard going for you.
Personally, shielding hasn't been too bad for me as I never went out much anyway nor did I see much of my family.I've rediscovered my love of classical music and crafting.
I have missed seeing my closest friend but hopefully I will have the confidence to meet up soon.I was initially angry that my holiday had to be cancelled but have resigned myself to it.
Wishing you and yours well xxx
Oh dear sorry that the holiday was cancelled, its happened to so many, where were you do to go? Will you plan to do the same holiday when it is ok?
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I was the same when this first started back in March as at first I was angry as wellwhen lots of planned events had been cancelled as its disappointing and my friends had said to me how it was natural to feel angry as its disappointing when you look forward to things and they are cancelled at the last minute and eventually I calmed down and over time accepted the situation and looked to do things that weren't cancelled and had gone from there and that I did!
Nowadays we cook at home most of the time and decided to put off today's Sunday lunch out for another time as its not like we are missing out on anything and most events can be rescheduled for another day and time as we looked in our diaries at the cancelled events from earlier on this year a few days ago and found most could be done on another day and time so we have pencilled in the cancelled events that could be rescheduled in the diary and dumped the one that couldnt.
wiserlady• in reply to
Do you do anything which is fun or good at home, so you miss the outings less?
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Nowadays we do after we looked at things that weren't cancelled say like reading and listening to music and watching films having games, music and film nights every so often and it has saved us money and so have the dinner parties via video call which have helped.
MadBunny• in reply to
I feel much the same. Most things can be rescheduled at some point. The holiday and a theatre trip was all we had booked- but we were planning lots of outings. As I'm retired I don't have a problem being at home- it's just the people I miss, but we've had lots of chats on the phone. I've gradually started to go out again but shopping's not the pleasure it used to be, and I've come to realise I don't actually need all the things I used to buy!
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I have been to the non essential shops as well and it's not the same is it so now I don't go there unless I really need to be there.
It's disappointing though when you have set your heart on things and then be told it's not happening especially at the last minute which had happened to me back in March when I had been due to have gone to London to the Saatchi gallery to see the tutkanhamun exhibition there and it was the Thursday night and the trip was due to go on the Saturday and I had received a call saying they were sorry but the trip had been cancelled and I had felt really cross as well as you can't help but feel disappointed when you are told at the last minute that something is cancelled that you were looking forward to.
MadBunny• in reply to
Yes I would have been disappointed by that. I didn't realise it was on-I'd love to have seen it as I was too young the first time round....
HI, Your question can be very simply answered....disconcerting! I find things very uncomfortable when going into shops. I haven't the patience to queue outside and often decide I don't really need those things and go home and buy on line. My food supermarket is better than many of the larger ones and I tend to go there now. I worry that shopping as we knew it is now a no, no and the High Street is definitely going to suffer. Yes, there is now more freedom but it's going to take a very long time to recover.
I'm so sorry you have so much to deal with at the moment. Your little dog is going to be a particular worry to you. I do so hope things work out better for you.
Thanks for your good wishes. I am sorry you struggle with things like shopping. Do you go shopping often or just once a week or so? Or is it all online now/
Having been shielding for so long I have been desperate to get out and about. I live alone too so now I do food shopping just once a week as I'm still nervous. I wanted to visit some shops, the bank etc. but my health wont allow me to stand for any length of time. I really feel it is going to be very difficult when the weather changes and the Winter will be here. It is still a very stressful time but realize we have no option at the moment.
Yes see what you mean. Its not easy. Health problems can make another problem even worse. But when you are out you can get happy or sad at returning home for ages soon?
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With me say if I see a queue outside a shop I ask myself do I really need to be there and usually the answer is no and then I jog on past and go home!
wiserlady• in reply to
sounds wise
RoadRunner44• in reply to
I think many of us feel the same way now catgirl. These are still difficult times.
I too find going into shops uncomfortable, I used to love shopping- particularly combined with lunch with my close friend. I have been shopping online but I still like to look before I buy. I don't like to buy clothes without trying them on and it's such a faff to return things. I worry about what will happen to the high street. I was up in London last week and it was so sad seeing the shops and cafes which had closed down. Although it was nicer to walk round without the crowds it just wasn't the same. No atmosphere or character. Yes, I fear it will take a long time to recover.
Hi Jerry, the thing with the chemo for Strawberry is that it will at best make it easier for her and give her a bit longer, but cannot cure her - and she is 12 with a bad heart anyway. Think if you can look at life from the point of view of how things are right now it is easier to deal with but some have worries about the future which will not go away. What is the AMA?
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Strawberry is an old lady same as our very spoilt ginger tabby baby who is 16!
wiserlady• in reply to
Ahh. Am sure you love your cat very much. Sixteen is a good age, is she healthy?
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Yes baby is in rude health due to the fact she gets everything she wants!
She has quietened down now after she drove us crackers last week with bad tempered meows over the heat!
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Think there were lots of bad tempered noises from humans too due to heat.
Today am sitting here thinking it very cold and put heating on.
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I have just taken things in my stride, it doesn’t mean I am happy about things though. I accept change and know things move on. I am so very sorry to hear about your dog Strawberry. It must be very upsetting for you. I hope the treatment is comfortable for Strawberry. 🌸🌺
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The only thing guaranteed to us in life is change.
I agree with you totally catgirl, the world is ever changing. 😊🌺🌈
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I didn't exactly like it myself but got used to it over time and I have noticed a change in my values as yesterday I was going to have gone to the city centre but then decided it was silly to go up there when I had no reason to be there so stayed in instead and had a walk to the local parks which I enjoyed.
I still can't get my head around the fact that almost 6 months ago everything was 'normal'- then suddenly everything changed almost overnight. It's certainly been a massive wake up call and made me realise how much we took for granted.
I think it came as a shock to everyone at the time. I have had a lot of change in my life so when it comes along, of whatever sort, I adapt quickly. I appreciate the things around me and the virus has made no difference to that. Everything in life is so very precious. 😊🌼🌷
wiserlady• in reply to
true but we bring some changes onto ourselves ...l i.e. if you dont pay your rent you become homeless.
The ama I found was great on Wednesday and it helped me to get things into perspective as well.
Yesterday I was thinking about going to the city centre but then I realised that I had no reason to be there so it seemed a bit silly to go that way when I had no need to be there so I stayed home and went out for a walk to the local park instead.
lol. I am a therapist who does CBT and hypnosis myself, so I do that for clients and am kept quite busy with it most of the time, if I want. Especially as I do it online. The virus made no difference other than more people asking for it.
one usually replies, fine thank you to that enquiry but .. I know, being a contributor on here, you really want to know. That means a lot. We have family members with issues such as broken ankle and two with colostomy so I tend to count myself lucky by comparison. I'm loving the distancing and masks which protect and help me get about and when I'm tired I nap. Pains? yes but pregnagablin is my friend. and how are you wiserlady ? x
Hi Patsy, you are not that far from me in Clacton on sea. Its been a horrid dark day today, we had so much sunshine and warmth before. Different people I know are struggling, my little dog is very ill with cancer and a bad heart, but I try to make the most of each day thanks.
bless you and your little dog xx
how are your family getting on?
having a garden visit to my stepson tomorrow if weather is dry .. he has bowel cancer and waiting to see if he needs more chemo. thanks for asking. xx
Oh I am sorry to hear about your stepson, must be a big worry for you. Its hard when you are having to be stuck at home a lot with mostly worries on your mind. Hope it all goes well. Have a nice day.
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