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Life is so unfair, my wife passed away yesterday we have been together for 59 years

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Koalajane

so very sorry for your loss

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Chocolate41

So sorry to hear that.It is so hard for you.I hope you have a family to talk to at this very hard time.

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annimills

Dear Doublef, I am very sorry for your loss and hope you have those who can support you through this terrible time. Xx

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DorsetLadyPMRGCAuk volunteer

So sorry to hear that, my sincerest condolences to you and your family..🌸

Do hope you have family and friends around to support you through this very difficult time.…too many of us have been there, so do please take all the help that is offered..it does make a difference.

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I am so sorry, I know exactly what it is like. We'd been together over 50 years. Hold on to the good times.

As DL says, don't refuse any help that is offered. I thought I was fine but bereavement counselling made such a difference.

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123-go

Sending my heartfelt condolences, Doublef.

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Rose54

So sorry for your loss

Sending you a big hug

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Fatsiajaponica

So sorry for your loss, 59 years is an amazing achievement, sending you a hug.

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Herman99

My sincere condolences ...

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cycli

That's a bitter pill to swallow Doublef. We all know that life is NOT fair but getting to this age has given us the gift of determination to get through the hard times however crippling. Take all the support offered to handle the grief. If the sun had a consciousness I wonder how it would reconcile the continuous explosions within. How ever, without it's turmoil and pain we would not be able to benefit from the warmth and life it provides us nor the welcoming sight each new day.

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Nextoneplease

Hugs to you Doublef 🤗

Such a shock for you after 59 years. As others have said, take care and accept any help that’s offered xx

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powerwalk

Oh im so sorry to hear. All best wishes to help get through this sad time. 💐💐

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winfong

I am so sorry

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jessiem

So sorry for your loss. Sincere condolences to you.

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Tinasleepyhead

Heartfelt condolences to you Doublef,

an unbelievably sad time for you, sending you virtual hugs 🌹

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Mimievie

So sorry for your loss, take care

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Downtime

So sorry to hear this. I know just how you feel. I hope you have some support . You must take care of yourself.

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sivas

Dear Doublef, I’m so sorry for your loss. Sixty years together is truly special, and losing her must be incredibly hard. It’s unimaginable to lose someone who’s been by your side for so long, sharing life’s moments, joys, and challenges. Please take things one day at a time and allow yourself to grieve in your own way. Love and Hugs.

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Lenore58

I am so sorry for your loss. What a long partnership you were blessed with. I hope you can rest in her ever-lasting love as you grieve her absence.

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Bothan

So sorry for your loss, may she Rest im Peace. 💔

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Angelsmummy

I am so very sorry for your loss.Hoping when the initial shock and sense of loss passes,you can look back at all the wonderful times that were special to you both .I hope you have loving support from family and friends to help you through this awful time.We may not know you personally on this forum,but we all will be sending you love and virtual comforting hugs.Xxx💐.

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Telian

So sorry for your loss Doublef. 🌺

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Den73

So sad to hear if your loss 59 years is a lifetime.Please take care and draw on the happy memories when you are ready , no one can take your memories away.

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Potemkin

I'm so sorry, you must be in bits. How wonderful to have had 59 years together. Life does feel very unfair sometimes, I hope you have some support - try to take care of yourself 🫂

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SheffieldJane

I am so, so sorry dear Doublef. Sending love and strength. 🫶

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Waverley63

So sorry for your loss, you have been blessed to have had 59 years together so many wonderful memories to cherish. Thinking of you at this sad time.

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Adults2Kids3

sending kind thoughts to you.

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JanetRosslyn

So so sad. Sending love and virtual hugs xx

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Jackoh

So so sorry to hear this. After 59 years that’s doubly hard. Praying you will find strength and peace during this time. Xx💐

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AmberGamble

Sincere condolences. RIP & God Bless your wife 💔

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TandemTime

59 years is amazing. The shock must be tremendously stressful. If you can possibly take a little walk outside each day, it might help. My Dad had a rule of no major decisions for 2 years after a breavement. Time puts things into perspective. Sending best wishes ..one step in front of the other. Routine helps.

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KingWilf

I’m so sorry Doublef. As has been said, accept all offers of help and look after yourself. Sending love 💕

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Bcol

Morning Doublef, so sorry to hear of your news and sending sincere condolences and hugs. Sadly, life isn't and never has seemed fair. If/when you get/need some help/counselling during your grieving please don't hesitate to accept or ask for it, it will help.

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GwenTheHen16

So sorry for your loss. Take care. Hold on to all your memories together.

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Jakey67

so sorry Doublef, A hard loss to bear.

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Ridge

I’m so sorry.

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Thelmarina

I am so sorry. Many of us share this pain. You will still be numb with the shock of what has happened. You clearly loved your wife very much and have got to that stage in a long marriage where you are so in harmony you can’t tell where the one begins and the other ends. It does get better but not yet. Sending you warmth and care ❤️

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Chiqui1950

So very sorry Doublef! Just know that you are not alone during this most difficicult time---take time to take care of yourself and continue to reach out to get the comfort you need---

Just know that your wife's love and wisdom are always within you--- sending you gentle thoughts of healing and peace----

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Poshdog

❤️😘😘🫂

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pmrdec112014

Look after yourself x

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Stills

my heartfelt sympathy to you at this sad time. How lucky you both were to have 59 years together. May your memories sustain you.

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Mack100

I'm so sorry for your loss and I understand your sense of loss, my first wife died at the age of 40 in 1991.

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Sweetpeasoprano

Sincere condolences, Doublef. 59 years is a long time together. I hope that you will eventually be able to look back on 59 years of wonderful memories.

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1602

All my love and understanding xx

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PositiveT

I do hope you have family/friends who can help you through this difficult period. Please take care.

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Bluey-1

So sorry for your loss Doublef. I hope you have the support of family and friends.

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Frewen1

so very sorry, can only imagine the sense of loss after so long a union

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purplesprouting

So sorry for your loss, my thoughts are with you 😘

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marrabone

I'm so sorry for your loss Doublef. Be kind to yourself and accept any help on offer.

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Miacaro45

My sincere condolences for your loss. Please remember to take of you first. Allow family and friends to support .You were most fortunate to have had 59 years together.

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Almostaweed

Deepest sympathy Doublef. Reaching out to you. This is a big shock. Be very gentle with yourself.

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Doraflora

dear Doublef. I’m so terribly sorry for the loss of your wife. 59 years is a long time.

Just take care of yourself and remember all the happy memories you have.

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Elsabounre

So very sad news..there are no words that can truly help at this time..but know that I wish you strength and courage to help you through this dark time in your life..and she is still in your heart and at your side..and will always be..heartfelt condolences...

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Firstviolin

Deepest sympathy. Unfair indeed, and such a wrench. Two of my best friends lost their partners this summer after 60 years of marriage, so I have a good idea of how devastating it can be. Take care and take help and above all, don’t give up. A time will come when you can look at life again. Sending you courage!

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RachelJDH

😮‍💨😮‍💨 such pain but how wonderful to have so many years together. Love never dies.

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TempleNI

Thinking of you so very sorry 🙏x

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1988jtb

You are in my prayers. Your loss is so much and I am so sorry for what you are going through.

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Glassmover

So sorry to hear about your loss. Look after yourself and take everything slowly. You have many friends on this wonderfully helpful site.

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Zebedee44

May your family and friends support you at this saddest of times Doublef. Loss of a loved one is huge, be sure to look after yourself and get help where you can.

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Purpleprimate

I'm so sorry, life gives & takes away. I hope you are able to hold on to all the happy times you had together & that you have family to be with you.

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Alazarin

thinking of you Doublef, it’s hard to get through, accept help as others are saying, look after yourself, and cry as much as you like. Hugs

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Numptybrain

Grief is an unbearable pain, I really feel for you losing your best friend, lover, soul mate and confident. You know she will always be with you in your heart and soul. Be kind to yourself, take support when offered and grieve.

Take care

Wendy xx

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Pixix

So sorry for your loss.

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S4ndy

So sorry for your loss. I lost my hubby of 43 years 2 years ago. Grief is such an individual process and each of us deals with it differently. I found the free Sue Ryder grief coach really good. I didn't want to see a counsellor or do group counselling so this was perfect for me. Really helped get through that first year. sueryder.grief.coach/

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Murphysauntie

I’m so sorry for your loss

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2013mayo

so sorry to hear your sad news.

😢🌈

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seamaid

I am so sorry for your loss, ssssstay close to family and friends they are a great help to have

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Hightower62

So sorry for your loss, take care.

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Headpain24

So sorry for your loss a tough and very sad time for you.

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Petros-1931

Sincere condolences, 59 years of happiness is wonderful. Now be sure to look after yourself,

Think about stress and perhaps upping your pred for the short term. All good wishes.

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Elispeth

I am so very sorry for your loss

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Waves2

Very sorry for your loss.

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Mashed

Hello Doublef I am really sorry. I can only begin to imagine your heartache. Grief is the price we pay for the love we’ve shared. It’s so very hard. Be gentle with yourself. Take one day at a time, one morning, one afternoon. Try and let others help where they can. Take precious care of yourself.

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Nightingales

I am so sorry for your loss. I understand as I have had a recent loss too. I try to concentrate on happy memories. 🌸

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York54

So sorry for your loss , sending condolences to you and your family .

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Missus835

My heart aches for you Doublef. 🫂

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ChoralG

So very sorry to hear this.

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Gizmo6

I'm so sorry for your loss its so hard losing loved ones. I hope you have the support you need

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Mumdadlove

so sorry for your loss, sending you love, really hope you have family or friends to support you at this sad time xx

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Orangecakes

Dear Doublef, So sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself.

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Countrykitten

Deepest sympathies..I hope in time you will be comforted by remembering your many happy years together.

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montebello

I join the others in this incredible outpouring of love and compassion for the loss of your life long companion.

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Leafsong66

Adding my condolences to all those already. Thank you for sharing your loss with us. Praying that you can take just one more step … and another. So sorry for your heartache.

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Smellydog9

So sorry for your loss.

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Tiggy70

So sorry for your loss. May the happy memories of 59 years together comfort you in the weeks and months ahead x

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Athas17

This is very sad! It was a wise move on your part to reach out to us. May you continue to gain support during this difficult time!

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Harrywogan

Soo sorry for your loss ,H

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Artnmusiclover

Sad news... sending my condolences 🙏💐

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Motida

Thinking of you Doublef. Once the funeral is over and all the admin tasks, do accept any offers to be with others. even if it is a struggle. Perhaps you have u3a groups in your area you could join. I always leave my radio playing when I go out so that horrible silence is not there when I come back home. Kindest thoughts.

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Hoofprints

So so sorry 💐

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readingbooks

I am so glad you told us all of your loss so we can support and try to comfort you. The value of our group clearly goes beyond sharing our experience of PMR and GCA and for that I am very thankful. We all know grief. Thinking of you.

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Viveka

So sorry to hear that, what a loss for you.

This is just my perspective, but I believe that only the physical body dies. The 'soul' survives in a lighter place, without the burden of illness.

I see my poor old mum who died at 99 now as a happy young woman enjoying herself with her friends.

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Pippah45

So sorry for your loss Doublef. Take care of yourself.

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Hunter134

So sorry for your loss.I will be married 55 years in Feb.and I can't imagine how I would live.Its so hard when most of our memories are with our spouses.I do pray you have family to ease your pain.

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Longtimer

Very sad news, we are thinki ng of you.....

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Smokygirl

So sorry for your loss. It is dreadful I know. My much beloved husband passed away nine weeks ago, 62 years married. Sending condolences. X

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luv2read

There are no words at a time like this. Please take care of yourself and continue to celebrate those 59 years of memories.

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autumnlass

Our hearts to you Doublef at this saddest of time. Your whole lives together have been intertwined with love friendship and memories. They’ll always be there with you. Stay strong, you’ll be cherished by those who love you. Take care and look after yourself. 🙏

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Vide

So very sorry for your loss Take care x

So sorry to hear, look after your self.

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Januzzi

After 59yrs your wife is part of you…she will never leave you she will always be there looking over your shoulder saying something that will make you smile🙏just think of all the good times and how blessed you are to have 59yrs together 🙏 ❤️

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Karenjaninaz

My sincere condolences. No words are ever sufficient.❤️

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Macas

Those we have loved stay forever in our hearts.

Sincere condolences at this very sad time🌹

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Saintmalo

I join with everyone in the PMRGCAuk family. Love & prayers So very sorry for your loss

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sondya

Deepest condolences. That is indeed a long, happy marriage and leaving you with many sweet memories.

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daisylazy

So very sorry for your loss .Keeping you in my prayers .

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Kiwisufferer2019

My deepest sympathy to you at this sad time, many of us here have been through this and know exactly how you feel. I lost my husband of 52 years last year, nothing can prepare you for the raw heartache you feel, as others have said I hope you have the support of family and friends to help you through. The pain does become less intense, but never goes away. I've found it helps to keep busy, I never turn an invitation down. I also got myself a little dog, and she has been a Godsend. And yes life is so unfair. Take care.Janis

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Louisa1840

Life is unfair Doublef. All our hearts go out to you with strength, courage and comfort at this time.

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Lynlea

So sorry for your loss

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Janetknit

remember all the lovely times and know what treasure you will continue to have as her spirit and love will always accompany you.

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Hankb

So sorry to hear of your loss Doublef, deepest sympathy to you and your family.

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Hankb

So sorry to hear of your loss Doublef, deepest sympathy to you and your family.

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msdale

I am very sorry for your loss.

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Orange_2022

A sad time - you'll miss her so much. I'm sure you have so many happy memories to think about. Look after yourself and I hope your loss becomes less painful in time.

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bluepuddy1

You have all my sympathy. It seems impossible now, but you will slowly recover and learn how to get some enjoyment out of life again.

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Predderman2020

I am so sorry. So hard. I am sure we are all thinking of you.

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Progfan

So sorry to hear your sad news Doublef.

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nissemor

so sorry, I hope you are surrounded by loving care.

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Booklover57

My deepest sympathy.

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Badlass

Heartfelt condolences. Lx

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whitefishbay

Dear Doublef, So sorry to hear it. Sincere condelences. Thinking of you. W xx

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Blackcat1M

so sorry to hear your sad news think of all the lovely memories you both shared together god bless you and your family

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