Dating & parkinsons

[mleec]

Recently started dating an old flame from 7 years ago. Interestingly, when I broke up with him, he had difficulty including me in his life. He pursued this recent reconnection. I told him about my PD. I work full time and have 5 grandchildren that I watch at least 2x a week and I choose to do so. I also must try to work out every day and I am doing well, if I get in 5 days a week. He is upset because he wants to see me more than 2x a week. I am lucky I can see him once a week. I am exhausted at the end of the day, and even an hour or two, takes a toll. He says he is trying to be understanding, but I do not think he gets it. I have already told him, if this is not what he wants, I fully understand. Just need a little validation. I know I have to take care of me first, but I do not want to hurt anyone. Thoughts?

[park_bear]

Absolutely you have to take care of yourself first. If you do not, you will not be able to be there for him or anybody else.

If it suits you to let him to join you with workouts or other life activities, you could offer him that - he can help out with the cooking or cleaning or whatever. If he is a good man he will be happy to do so.

[jeeves19]

Nobody gets it other than another PWP . You have to experience it to really understand it. Same with anything I guess.

[Motherfather]

well mleec if i was in your shoes i would tell him to be like the birds and flock off.better being alone.

[Pelley]

Shy of starting a 12 step program for PD.... You do you! Need to make it right for you and everything else will fall interlace if it fits!

[Joy-love-magic]

Wow, good for you for having such good boundaries !

Sounds like you are a strong woman that knows how to say what is best for you.

I say just keep doing what's best for you !

[Lionore]

If he cannot be a source of support he has to go, you have a very full plate. Is there any way that he can help you, by making dinner, errands, etc.?

[mleec in reply to Lionore]

That is certainly a thought. I need to see where it goes. Thank you!