Love at first site? Is it real, can it happen...

[Carolinagirl123]

Ok people, I need your input! Is it possible for two people with pd to meet and fall in love at a support group meeting? Two people who are the same age, and have so much in common. What do you all think? Could there be a future together for us?

[TheresaCurley]

Of course it is possible...as for a future together only the two of you can answer that question.

[Carolinagirl123 in reply to TheresaCurley]

Thanks! It is nice to be with someone who totally gets me! Plus, he is cute

[park_bear in reply to Carolinagirl123]

Well then, all signals go

[Carolinagirl123 in reply to park_bear]

That's what I am thinking

[Carolinagirl123 in reply to TheresaCurley]

Thank you!

[laglag]

Yes!

[Carolinagirl123 in reply to laglag]

Thanks!

[attyj]

I met my future wife in a French class in college. When she walked in the door I said that's the girl for me. That was 60 years ago. Still feel the same.

[Carolinagirl123 in reply to attyj]

wow, that is love at first sight! thanks for sharing!

[12stargate]

Carolinagirl123

Lucky you

Go for it and enjoy it!❤️

And have fun👍

[Carolinagirl123 in reply to 12stargate]

will do!

[horsplay]

I approve! Two nice people.

[Carolinagirl123 in reply to horsplay]

thank you for horsplay for bringing us together

[zawy]

Perhaps you're not asking because you need to know, but because you want to tell the world. I suspect it could slow the PD down.

[Carolinagirl123 in reply to zawy]

yes, i feel like telling the world, it may be just a nice dream, but i never want to wake up

[zawy in reply to Carolinagirl123]

It's not real and it won't last. But enjoying it while you can is the only way you can live. Wakefulness and dreams are both just electrical impulses in our brains. The love will probably last as long as you trust yourselves and each other. The PD might eventually make it end or make it irrelevant through hardship. Oxytocin in the brain creates and amplifies the feeling of trust which appears to underly most of the feeling of love. I think it could be a brain-healing chemical, especially for PD. There was a young PD patient who said "love saved me" and I got to thinking about my own experience. Dopamine is also probably important in love and PD reduces it. But maybe it reduces it only in parts of the brain that do not have anything to do with love, at least in beginning stages of PD. The forms of PD that lead to the lack of ability to enjoy things could hurt the feeling of love.

Learn to enjoy a lot of exercise together every day to make the dream last longer.

On the flip side, losing a love isn't going to be good for PD. But being worried about yourself for your own benefit isn't a part of love. Not being worried about yourself except to the extent it allows you to help others will lead to better health and happiness.

[zawy in reply to Carolinagirl123]

To amplify it, look up "36 questions to fall in love with a stranger", read the NY times article and follow the instructions which is followed by 4 minutes of staring silently into each other's eyes. Also choose adventurous/exciting/dangerous physical activities to do together. A competitive sport together would be good.

[Carolinagirl123 in reply to zawy]

who are you? you sound like you must have way too much on your hands

[zawy in reply to Carolinagirl123]

If you mean to say "too much time", then yes. Who am I? That's a big question. Male, 50, father, engineer, know-it-all?

[adrienneb]

Go for it, cg123! You have my vote!

[Hikoi]

Love at first sight, is it possible for those without PD? Certainly the attraction can be there, and thats good enough to begin i reckon! Enjoy! I have met pwp who are in relationships with other pwp - what could be more supportive than being with someone who 'gets it'.

[Carolinagirl123 in reply to Hikoi]

yes, it is nice to be with someone who understands why i look like the walking dead sometimes and it is fun to be able to laugh with each other and not at each other!

[Amazin]

I am doing that. We have been together going on 5 years now. At times it is hard and time consuming--the effects of Mr. P hit us at different times of day. But all relationships have difficulties. We are both over 50 and I think that can be challenging in itself

[Carolinagirl123 in reply to Amazin]

we like to blame all of all problems on pd, but i am 59 and he is 61. and we all know getting old is a bitch!

[Amazin in reply to Carolinagirl123]

...yeah, and when you both can't sleep turn it into a party with cognac and chocolate--makes me feel the wind under my wings..

[sjannie in reply to Carolinagirl123]

i think it is a blessing to fall in love aging 59!! enjoy

[Beckey]

Of course! Why not?

[Carolinagirl123 in reply to Beckey]

thanks Beckey!

[racerCP]

There is a present and a future

[Carolinagirl123 in reply to racerCP]

yes and tomorrow isn't promised too anyone

[whack-a-mole]

NO - absolutely IMPOSSIBLE! Never in the history of humankind have 2 people with everything in common ever fallen in love - PERISH THE THOUGHT!!!

(It's too early for April Fools... is today National Dopey Question Day?)

[Lynnie1 in reply to whack-a-mole]

Whack-a-mole 😆😝 Carolinagirl123: my boyfriend is a Parkie and, yes, as zawy said, both of you could benefit from being in love and being loved. And I recommend a 20 second arms-tightly-around-each-other hug as often as you can. Breathe deeply and relax. We do it, it works! Much happiness to you 🤗

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[Carolinagirl123 in reply to Lynnie1]

thanks, and you are right about the hugs!

[Carolinagirl123 in reply to whack-a-mole]

yes, it must be dopey question day, my daughter asked me the same when i told her about this!

[HealthSeeker7]

My English mum and American dad met at a dance at the end of the war, were married 3 months later and still are, 70 years on (now aged 91 and 98). Dad says when he saw mum for the first time, he KNEW that if he danced with her he would end up married to her. There have been plenty of ups and downs over the decades, but they are so glad they stuck together. (So am I!)

Listen to your gut instinct - you'll know if its right for you. Wishing you all the best and lots of love.

[movinngroovin1]

Yes---but keep watching--don't jump but do follow your heart. I did and it is nearly 14 years now with no regrets!

[Carolinagirl123 in reply to movinngroovin1]

yes i try to listen to my mind, but my heart is screaming that this is totally ok!

[Carolinagirl123]

ha ha, love that!

[movinngroovin1]

Ok then

[Lionore]

Go for it! Tomorrow isn't promised to any of us, PWP's or not. A happy relationship has to slow the progression, IMHO.

[Tmarsella]

Love at first sight is magical. Especially 2 with PD. It's good for each other. Possibly your pastor can help you keep it glued together.

[Noella21]

Of course it is possible. Time will tell if there is a future for you. Enjoy this special time of getting to know each other. Wishing you the best.

[mhrice1999]

Why not?