Sorry for your loss; been there, it sucks, but it does get better. Focus on the good memories and let your tears heal you.
I know what you are saying though; when my mum died when was young and a smoker and I pretty much tried to smoke 24/7, it didn't really help.
My brother in law died from cancer a couple of years into my quit, I'd visit him several times a week in the hospice in the months before he died and when I drove home I would be in tears, but smoking didn't cross my mind, when the end came again smoking didn't even cross my mind. When my dad died a couple of years ago year, like anyone I was devastated but smoking didn't even occur to me. Tonight I'm sat here missing my 4 year old Labrador like crazy, she died suddenly a month ago, just went to sleep one night and never woke up, although she was just a dog she was deeply loved so the shock was massive but again at no point did I consider smoking.
It simply becomes something we used to do, you don't forget it but it stops being something which defines you.
Anyway I'll just pop off and pour myself a whisky raise a glass to the memory of the man who raised a truly wonderful member of this forum.
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