Day 3 1/2

I've failed!

Had a few puffs and failed myself! It was horrible and I'm so disappointed I now have to start from the begining again!

I just want to go and but a packet now.

I'm on my own trying to look after two kids, trying to keep busy, stressed out over family issues as well as financial too. Worried about my hubby in a stupid dangerous country, on my own until June. I seriously can't do this, I really don't like me right now. I can't get anything right!

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  • I've failed!

    Had a few puffs and failed myself! It was horrible and I'm so disappointed I now have to start from the begining again!

    I just want to go and but a packet now.

    I'm on my own trying to look after two kids, trying to keep busy, stressed out over family issues as well as financial too. Worried about my hubby in a stupid dangerous country, on my own until June. I seriously can't do this, I really don't like me right now. I can't get anything right!

    Oh hun please don't beat yourself up!!

    You've done really well and OK you've had a slip but that doesn't have to mean failing :) you only fai if you give up now and buy that packet - else well, almost everyone here has done what you have in the past. As you said, it was horrible - you don't really want to go back to that!!

    You're having a really bad time, it must be really hard, but how will smoking help any of that?

    It won't - all it will mean is you have another expense (even though fags are cheaper it's still money you'd waste) it won't solve any of your other problems either.

    Can you maybe see your GP and ask them for something to help you cope? You can do this!!

    ((((hugs))))

  • Really don't beat yourself up - 95% of people on here have done the same as you and in a way you can use it as a positive thing. You had a couple of puffs - and they were horrible, you didn't enjoy them so there's no need to upset yourself and definitely no reason to go and buy more.

    Use the fact that you had a puff when you felt terrible and only felt guilt and icky to free yourself from this hun, you *can* do it!! :)

    If I remember right, you've got an 0mg e-fag - so if it's any consolation my nicotine levels (patches and gum) are vastly higher than yours - no probs, use it as a learning process and carry on.

    You're a very brave, strong woman!!

  • You guys are amazing! Thank you so much! xx

  • Don't be hard on yourself, quitting is NOT easy! At least you had the guts to a) post on here that you'd had a smoke and b) not wasted anyone's time with the "do I have to go back to day one?" stuff.

    You know what's required, as in "all or nothing" which is a great mentality to start with. To stumble after 3.5 days is better than doing it after six months. Look at what caused it, you obviously want to go again so go straight to it, don't buy a pack or set quit dates. The momentum's still with you.

    Life doesn't help at times but smoking changes nothing as you know....and seven posts? Post more! We're all here for you!

  • Ah, Gritty, you've not failed. You've just had a momentary slip but you've pulled yourself to your feet and now all you need to do is to brush yourself down and take another step forward. The path is rocky and it's easy to trip especially at first. It gets much easier underfoot further on I promise :)

    With a name like yours, how can you fail? True Grit- that's what you are :D

  • Hi Gritty,

    Very brave of you to come here and admit your slip up...big respect for that :)

    Failure itself isn't fatal, but failure to quit smoking might eventually be. So hopefully you're getting straight back in the saddle!

    Best wishes,

    Steve

  • I admire you for being honest and coming back on here. You can do this and we are all here to support you :D

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