my reason for quitting

My husband and I are due to have IVF in February and on the NHS they wont touch you if you smoke ( and rightly so) I have 2 wonderful teenage children from a previous relationship but would me and hubby would love one of our own :) there are all the obvious reasons aswell, health, cant afford it etc... but have to say thats the primary reason right now, maybe thats why I am finding it so hard? I HAVE to do it and be at least 3 months smoke free by Feb, good luck to everyone going through this horrendous journey xx

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  • Best wishes!

    My husband and I are due to have IVF in February and on the NHS they wont touch you if you smoke ( and rightly so) I have 2 wonderful teenage children from a previous relationship but would me and hubby would love one of our own :) there are all the obvious reasons aswell, health, cant afford it etc... but have to say thats the primary reason right now, maybe thats why I am finding it so hard? I HAVE to do it and be at least 3 months smoke free by Feb, good luck to everyone going through this horrendous journey xx

    I have just answered your other post. Well what a great reason for quitting. I think you have a point though about 'having to do it' possibly that is why you are finding it harder.

    Best wishes in your quit and your IVF and keep us posted on both fronts please:)

  • thankyou both the support means alot as you both know the early days are horrendous, my longest time quit is 7 weeks so need to surpass that and then just plough forward well done on your quits amazing achievements hope I can do the same :)

  • thankyou both the support means alot as you both know the early days are horrendous, my longest time quit is 7 weeks so need to surpass that and then just plough forward well done on your quits amazing achievements hope I can do the same :)

    You CAN do it Donna, there is nothing special about me and I was HOOKED believe me. I had a forty year habit and I quit! So it is doable. I wish you the best of luck:)

  • You CAN do it Donna, there is nothing special about me and I was HOOKED believe me. I had a forty year habit and I quit! So it is doable. I wish you the best of luck:)

    thankyou sooo much Hazel this really spurs me on 40 years? wow thats a loooong time but you still did it! amazing :) xxx :):)

  • Hi Donna :)

    Wow you certainly do have a great reason to quit and im sure you will keep it with that thought of a new life

    oh i do love babies keep wanting my daughter to have another one :rolleyes: but she wont she says she has enough with the two she has already hehe

    just remember to keep adding reasons to your list and reread them when your struggling also coming on here and posting will also help

    by taking one step at a time and one day at a time you will sail through and reach your goal

    onwards and upwards is the only way to go

    regards

    Carol

  • Yep it certainly is a good reason but with that comes the enormous added pressure!! My husband and I have been trying to quit for IVF for 5 years, ever since I started coming on this forum basically so I've tried lots and lots of times... If I was told "if u quit smoking and have IVF you will definitely get pregnant and have a baby" I would of been quit 5 years now since Jan 2008 absolutely no problem whatsoever...... It's the not knowing though I suffer with anxiety anyway and always get so low when I quit because I could go through all this agg and STILL not get pregnant at the end of it, I don't know if that makes any sense or not? I wasn't ready to quit I have been told for IVF purposes I have to be quit for 3 months to have treatment and I just can't seem to get there.... :( xx

  • :(

    i can only imagine how much stress you must be going through at this time hun a good friend of mine tried for many years ago with ivf and struggled especially with the hormone injections she had to take it really had a big effect on her emotions

    you mention your not ready to quit and are only quitting so you can have the treatment

    that seems to me that your putting alot of extra pressure on yourself with that mindset i know how a smokers mind works and i know that even though i knew all the risks to carrying on smoking that in some part of my mind i kept saying that wont happen to me and ignored all the signs my body was telling me and the side effects to smoking too

    it really gets you hooked into thinking you need a ciggie for any stressful situation or even that you enjoy smoking i remember i also used to think that it was a pleasure to smoke i didnt have many at the time but i know that if i hadnt found this place im not sure if i wouldnt have been tempted to give into those thoughts of just one as one wont hurt surely

    i actually quit when i got pregnant with my oldest daughter and managed to get away with being a social smoker for 12 years which didnt help as my mindset then was well i can control when i smoked which only really happened when i was out with my family who all smoked having afew drinks

    when i got hooked again after an upset i used to keep thinking well i roll my own they arnt as harmful and i wasnt a very heavy smoker but used to think every now and again i need to stop and did try on quite afew occasions to quit

    sorry im going on abit here basically and this is just my opinion and not set in stone but what i think you need to do is sit down and write a list of all the reasons to why you should smoke and what smoking did for you and ponder on at what point do you think you would want to quit or just carry on smoking till your dying breath

    then write a list of the benefits to quitting and the positives especially the freedom you will gain from quitting at some point very soon you will stop craving so much and will start having whole days of not even thinking of smoking and they will turn into weeks

    plus reading alot of the wonderful posts on here from the man himself Austin who def got me thinking about the whole smoking saga the whys

    and at the end of the day again gaining the freedom to owning your life without having to plan it around smoking

    when i made my final quit i had days when i kept thinking im not going to make it but i remember reading a post that said if you still want a ciggie in an hour then tell yourself you will have one and keep repeating that phrase

    it will get easier i promise

    coming on here and posting helps as everyone here knows what your going through i never thought i would beat it as like many here smoking was a part of my life from a very young age and grew up in a family full of smokers

    i really hope all goes well for you when you start your ivf hun

    sending hugs your way

    Carol xx

  • :(

    i can only imagine how much stress you must be going through at this time hun a good friend of mine tried for many years ago with ivf and struggled especially with the hormone injections she had to take it really had a big effect on her emotions

    you mention your not ready to quit and are only quitting so you can have the treatment

    that seems to me that your putting alot of extra pressure on yourself with that mindset i know how a smokers mind works and i know that even though i knew all the risks to carrying on smoking that in some part of my mind i kept saying that wont happen to me and ignored all the signs my body was telling me and the side effects to smoking too

    it really gets you hooked into thinking you need a ciggie for any stressful situation or even that you enjoy smoking i remember i also used to think that it was a pleasure to smoke i didnt have many at the time but i know that if i hadnt found this place im not sure if i wouldnt have been tempted to give into those thoughts of just one as one wont hurt surely

    i actually quit when i got pregnant with my oldest daughter and managed to get away with being a social smoker for 12 years which didnt help as my mindset then was well i can control when i smoked which only really happened when i was out with my family who all smoked having afew drinks

    when i got hooked again after an upset i used to keep thinking well i roll my own they arnt as harmful and i wasnt a very heavy smoker but used to think every now and again i need to stop and did try on quite afew occasions to quit

    sorry im going on abit here basically and this is just my opinion and not set in stone but what i think you need to do is sit down and write a list of all the reasons to why you should smoke and what smoking did for you and ponder on at what point do you think you would want to quit or just carry on smoking till your dying breath

    then write a list of the benefits to quitting and the positives especially the freedom you will gain from quitting at some point very soon you will stop craving so much and will start having whole days of not even thinking of smoking and they will turn into weeks

    plus reading alot of the wonderful posts on here from the man himself Austin who def got me thinking about the whole smoking saga the whys

    and at the end of the day again gaining the freedom to owning your life without having to plan it around smoking

    when i made my final quit i had days when i kept thinking im not going to make it but i remember reading a post that said if you still want a ciggie in an hour then tell yourself you will have one and keep repeating that phrase

    it will get easier i promise

    coming on here and posting helps as everyone here knows what your going through i never thought i would beat it as like many here smoking was a part of my life from a very young age and grew up in a family full of smokers

    i really hope all goes well for you when you start your ivf hun

    sending hugs your way

    Carol xx

    Thank you for your kind words Carol it means so much, I definitely need to change my mindset I feel like stroppy teenager being forced to do some thing I don't want to do, that's the problem with smoking and nicotine you make excuses for how badly it treats you... "I could get hit by a bus tomorrow" " as long as I social smoke it's better than 20 a day" etc etc the lost goes on and u try to justify it, I just want the day to come where I don't think about fags and don't spend most of my time sat on my bum dwelling on it :) xx

  • Thank you for your kind words Carol it means so much, I definitely need to change my mindset I feel like stroppy teenager being forced to do some thing I don't want to do, that's the problem with smoking and nicotine you make excuses for how badly it treats you... "I could get hit by a bus tomorrow" " as long as I social smoke it's better than 20 a day" etc etc the lost goes on and u try to justify it, I just want the day to come where I don't think about fags and don't spend most of my time sat on my bum dwelling on it :) xx

    and that day will come i promise you

    i know this is easier to say then do but keeping a positive mindset is one of the best things to help

    because i suffer with alot of health issues mental health and physical i do struggle alot but one of the things that helps me is keeping two journals going one i can use to list all the negative things but can only spend 30 mins a day to list and read before i have to close it and the other i can write in anytime i want and thats for positive things each day i will write a list of 10 things that i feel positive about dont matter how big they are its just a way to help your mood ive also started trying to watch silly videos on youtube mainly cat ones i have to say :rolleyes: last thing at night before going to bed and first thing in the morning with my first coffee and that too helps lift my mood

    yeah i still get really big dips but im def not having them as bad as i was and im not in them for as long either

    you will win this battle and once you get through it you will be feeling so much better in yourself

    :)

    hugs xx

  • oh and another thing

    how could i forget this one :eek::rolleyes::rolleyes:

    try putting some of your fav music on to sing along too or get up and dance or if your feeling really stressed switch it up really loud and just have a good shouting session :eek: but i certainly recommend the singing along bit best :D

  • ohhhh after i posted that i realised i had the house to myself

    whoop whoop

    :D:D:D

    so am blasting out abit of linkin park

    :D:D:D

    yeah yeah yeah

  • ohhhh after i posted that i realised i had the house to myself

    whoop whoop

    :D:D:D

    so am blasting out abit of linkin park

    :D:D:D

    yeah yeah yeah

    Hahahaha ACE!!! I loooove music and singing, brings out the best in me and lifts my mood no end!! As it goes I am still in bed with fibro pain and feeling down :(

    BUT after reading this I am going to stick a bit of Motown on and do a bit of housework or something ! :)

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