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Learn to be the non smoking YOU.

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You may find that there is a non smoking YOU buried in the back of our mind.

Try to associate yourself with this version of you. The more you think of yourself as a non smoker, the more you'll be detached from the addiction.

Rather than being a person who is 'giving up' or 'quitting' try to see yourself as having evolved into a slightly different you. ( Actually the you that you used to be )

What have you got to lose ? If my experience is anything to go by, you'll spend a lot of time thinking you're losing your mind anyway so might as well have a clear out.

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Wow - i've just seen the big picture

Sorry about the picture.

I think that is a mindset that quite a few are using at the moment.

This isnt a dating site so why the picture ? X

I Adblocked it :p

What does that mean Gem.

This forum is very odd x

It means I can't see the pic any more :p x

Why is there a huge pic of the OP in post one when it's the same as the one in the avatar?.

Did you know.....

Did you know you can attach enormous pictures to your posts ?

I've done mine and made myself into a laughing stock. Don't suppose I can interest anyone in piano lessons ?

Still prefer the Xmas tree beer pic :) No offense.

That is what you have edited out....... ah I get it now.

Ah be fair folks, he probably intended to have a little pic of himself as a sig, and it came out HUGE , and then looked a bit weird, but has explained he is a piano player,

Or else he is touting for business as all of us have lots of time with our free hands now.:D:p

Magic advice - I like it.

However, the old wives tale about packing in is true - you do increase in size - lol:D

More on the big picture

Dicko, you got it spot on - you certainly increase in size.

Thanks for all your kind words, what a supportive lot you are.

I think what I wanted to say has become lost in the big picture, or rather obscured by it. So I’ll donate my ten pence worth again.

After smoking for 27 years I’d learned to become ‘The Smoker.’ This label stuck in my head and only changed slightly to ‘The Ex Smoker’ when I quit.

In short, I found I was dragging a label around which wasn’t helping.

My point is this, our smoker’s chemistry is so squiffy that dark recesses of grey matter cling fiercely to the notion that nicotine may one day be re-introduced in vast quantities. It wants it bad and is capable of some pretty devious jiggerypokery to get you to think you could ‘just have one.’ We can’t control chemical jiggerypokery but we can control who we think we are, ‘our labels.’ We were all born ‘non smokers‘. So don’t give your duff chemistry a label or mindset any other toys to play with. Let go of that chemically altered you. Sever that connection and be the ‘non smoking’ you.

For me, thinking like this made a HUGE difference.

Any other thoughts ?

Regards

PJ

NicFirth
NicFirth10 Years Smoke Free

You are spot on, over years and years of smoking we have to learn to live life without a ciggy in our hand. For many of us we have been a smoker throughout our entire adult life so it is part of what defines us both to ourselves and to others.

When you quit there can be an element of excitement at the start as if at the beginning of a new journey but there can also be a feeling of being lost and not fitting in. You do have to learn to live life as a non smoker and learn to define yourself as one too.

When you truly feel that you are a non smoker it's a great achievement and you are pretty much there.

NicFirth, you've got it

When you quit there can be an element of excitement at the start as if at the beginning of a new journey but there can also be a feeling of being lost and not fitting in. You do have to learn to live life as a non smoker and learn to define yourself as one too.

You've got it sussed !

There are many freaky personalities in each of us, the non smoker is one we have to grow into. It requires a bit of rewiring and takes time. As the wiring becomes more substantial and dependable then decisions about smoking become more automated. That's when you sense 'a change of heart,' OR 'a different feeling,' OR 'a subconscious change,' OR 'the hand of God,' OR 'a new me.'

When this happens, you start to think like, and feel like a non smoking Bod.

Take pleasure in recognizing this process - Tis important me thinks.

You've got it sussed !

There are many freaky personalities in each of us, the non smoker is one we have to grow into. It requires a bit of rewiring and takes time. As the wiring becomes more substantial and dependable then decisions about smoking become more automated. That's when you sense 'a change of heart,' OR 'a different feeling,' OR 'a subconscious change,' OR 'the hand of God,' OR 'a new me.'

When this happens, you start to think like, and feel like a non smoking Bod.

Take pleasure in recognizing this process - Tis important me thinks.

That makes sense and I think it's where I went wrong with my last quit.

Never quite made the leap into feeling like a nonsmoker.

Next time however, there won't be a problem 'cos I'm going to smash it :D

Yes yes yes

I've noticed lately that I actually watch people smoking to try to come to terms with reinforcing the fact I no longer want to be one of them. Previously, I would avoid looking at smokers in case it led me to a relapse.

I know exactly what you mean, I didn't trust myself to be around smokers for months. For fear of a cigarette jumping into my mouth. It takes a while to trust the new non smoker, but it comes.

There are many freaky personalities in each of us, the non smoker is one we have to grow into. It requires a bit of rewiring and takes time. As the wiring becomes more substantial and dependable then decisions about smoking become more automated. That's when you sense 'a change of heart,' OR 'a different feeling,' OR 'a subconscious change,' OR 'the hand of God,' OR 'a new me.'

When this happens, you start to think like, and feel like a non smoking Bod.

Take pleasure in recognizing this process - Tis important me thinks.

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