Major lack of patience!

I am absolutely stopping smoking. Today was my first day. I have given up for years before, but only when essential due to pregnancy - which i somehow found really easy. I made it until dinnertime when for the first time ever I really felt like I was going to lose my temper with my kids. I have allowed myself a couple of roll ups once I really felt that it was better for them due to my grumpiness, to help my mood. I also suffer with bipolar disorder so the mood thing is a major issue for me. Can anyone advise about the mood factors? Should I just get through the disturbance or is it better to cut down and allow a roll-up when it really is too much - and, if so, for how long? I didn't find it that difficult not to smoke until about 6pm. :confused:

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  • well. rolling up whilst 'quitting' isn't quitting, so thats not the answer, if you feel the rage showing its ugly head, just walk away from the situatiion and do something else...I would also explain to the kids that mummy has stopped smoking and it can be difficult, get them involved with your quit-sit them down and explain what it can feel like-so they understand.;)

    you are doing great, don't give in it will benefit you and also the kids in the long run-you can always rant and rave on here too-we have thick skin xxx

  • Thank you. I am not giving in. I'm disappointed that I rolled up whilst quitting. I only have one child old enough to understand and she is amazing. The others, whilst very wonderful, picked up on my tension and played on it - can't blame them it's just normal for the very smalls! My friends Son, who has leukaemia, said to me yesterday - Sam you must not smoke because you will catch cancer like me. He is only 4, so obviously never smoked. But it broke my heart. I will do this, just hope the mood swings aren't going to have those around me begging me to have a cigarette! How long does it take for the irritability to pass?

  • Hiya :)

    Would maybe using some kind of NRT help? Stop you wanting to kill people and so on?

    It's better than smoking - so maybe a piece of gum when you get a bad crave

    Good luck!!

  • Haha my kind of post. Laughing at the temper, not at you...as I always say I didn't pick my name out of a hat, I was permanently furious for about a week, less so week two but still stroppy. Cutting down will not work, simple as that. If you want to quit it has to be stop, but for a little bit at a time, then a bit more, then it piles up. It can be done, many of us on here are testament to that :-)

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  • Haha my kind of post. Laughing at the temper, not at you...as I always say I didn't pick my name out of a hat, I was permanently furious for about a week, less so week two but still stroppy. Cutting down will not work, simple as that. If you want to quit it has to be stop, but for a little bit at a time, then a bit more, then it piles up. It can be done, many of us on here are testament to that :-)

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    Thanks, still determined. It's massively out of character for me to get angry so I find it pretty hard to cope with! Sky cig working well for me. What do you mean by stop a little bit at a time and then a little bit more?

  • Hello! I think angery bear means like when a real bad crave hits tell yourself 'i will not smoke today' and ride it out. This mind set really helps get through the early days defo!

    I can relate with the bipolar, i suffer with my moods. Be kind to yourself, like other say take time out even if its going to the toilet for 5 mins!! anything you need to get your head back together. good luck to you xxx

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