First challenge

Morning everyone,

So I'm going to a wedding today, will be really sunny and everyone will be outside and some of my friends will be enjoying their wine with a side of cigarettes... This is my first major social gathering since I quit and I'm a little bit apprehensive. Just wanted to write on here so I could get myself in the right frame of mind for later and not get drunk and think oh just one won't hurt :/

Kim

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  • Hey Kim,

    I am going through my firsts also and like you am not sure how i will get on. I guess try to remember the reasons you want to quit and the strength you have had up to this point. Keep the momentum going.

    I am trying to keep happy through this quit. Something i never managed in the past and never succeeded in staying quit. It seems to be working although i am only on day 5.

    I try not to mope and feel i am missing out on something. Everything enjoyable about the wedding and seeing the people you care about will still be there without the cigarrettes. Just keep a positive attitude and focus on the good things the day will bring and try not to feel deprived because you are not smoking. What does smoking actually do for you anyway? If you were to light a cigarrette now then you would have a smoke and i would not. In five minutes you would be right back with me not smoking. When you really think about it smoking actually doesnt give you anything.

    Pick a song that makes you smile (mine is right said fred too sexy) and sing it to yourself when you feel weak. If you are anything like me it will make you laugh and you can move on.

    Baby steps Kim. you can do it!!!!

  • Morning everyone,

    So I'm going to a wedding today, will be really sunny and everyone will be outside and some of my friends will be enjoying their wine with a side of cigarettes... This is my first major social gathering since I quit and I'm a little bit apprehensive. Just wanted to write on here so I could get myself in the right frame of mind for later and not get drunk and think oh just one won't hurt :/

    Kim

    Hiya Kim :)

    I hope you have a nice time - and do try not to stress too much about it!!

    It is a bit daunting though *but* just my opinion here, i think it's best to grasp the nettle and get used to drinking and seeing people without having a smoke!! Worked for me anyway :)

    Have fun, but don't drink too much yet, make sure you stick with non-smokers as much as possible and maybe take a lollipop to suck if you start craving hard?

    Hope you have a lovely day

    xx

  • Thanks for your suggestions Gemma and Jarvis, I am going to try really hard not to drink too much and keep a positive attitude! Now when I crave I'll get I'm too sexy popping into my head!

    X

  • It is a bit daunting though *but* just my opinion here, i think it's best to grasp the nettle and get used to drinking and seeing people without having a smoke!! Worked for me anyway :)

    I'm definitely with Gemma here - if you carry on with normal life as much as possible it will be easier in the long run as long as you don't let your defences down by becoming too drunk! Enjoy the wedding, have fun and think positively about such future events. Smoking is not a good thing! You have made brilliant progress!!!!

  • Thx Jarvis!!!! We are all going to have that song stuck in our heads now! ;)

  • Thx Jarvis!!!! We are all going to have that song stuck in our heads now! ;)

    My pleasure. Spread the love!!!!!

  • Thanks for your suggestions Gemma and Jarvis, I am going to try really hard not to drink too much and keep a positive attitude! Now when I crave I'll get I'm too sexy popping into my head!

    X

    And then you'll be giggling too much to smoke!!

    Ooh and ask some of your friends to help - mine were fab and when I looked dodgy they made sure I didn't cave :D

    I'm definitely with Gemma here - if you carry on with normal life as much as possible it will be easier in the long run as long as you don't let your defences down by becoming too drunk! Enjoy the wedding, have fun and think positively about such future events. Smoking is not a good thing! You have made brilliant progress!!!!

    What she said!!

    I think you can build things liek that up to be too big a deal and end up being really scared.

    Yes, drinking without smoking can be tough at first, but if I can do it, you can :D :D

  • I agree with the others - carry on as normal, eat drink and be merry. BUT try not to get *too* drunk because that can be a quit killer in the early days.

    Also, you probably will have a couple of 'moments' so prepare yourself in advance. Have a strategy, even if it's just a few stern words you say to yourself (I used to go around muttering 'not one puff ever' quite a lot in the first week or so!). One WILL hurt, and don't let the sunshine and champagne convince you otherwise!

    You can do it. And you'll be so proud of yourself! Have a lovely time at the wedding.

    Helen

  • I think I am probably late posting this... I am not sure why the time difference is between here and there. But one thing that has helped me in those situations is to just remind myself that I can't even have one puff unless I want to start all over again. I can't imagine starting over from Quit Day # 1. Hope you had a good time - and behaved yourself!!! :p

  • Thanks for all your posts guys they were very helpful :)

    I got through it and didn't have one but I got waaaaay to drunk because I had the mindset towards the end of well I can't smoke so I'll drink instead :/

    But apart from the very end It was a great day and I discoved how much people stink when they come back in from having one!

  • Thanks for all your posts guys they were very helpful :)

    I got through it and didn't have one but I got waaaaay to drunk because I had the mindset towards the end of well I can't smoke so I'll drink instead :/

    But apart from the very end It was a great day and I discoved how much people stink when they come back in from having one!

    Oh well done Kim :)

    It's even better if you got really drunk and still didn't smoke - sounds a weird thing to say, but it's true 'cos drink and smoking seem to go together!!

    Have you noticed less of a hangover than when you smoked? 'Cos I don't get them nearly as bad (am just headachey this morning, would have been awful before) and that's a real bonus!!

    Ooh and you're right, it's shocking how bad it smells - and how much people smoke when they're drinking. :eek:

  • Oh well done Kim :)

    It's even better if you got really drunk and still didn't smoke - sounds a weird thing to say, but it's true 'cos drink and smoking seem to go together!!

    Have you noticed less of a hangover than when you smoked? 'Cos I don't get them nearly as bad (am just headachey this morning, would have been awful before) and that's a real bonus!!

    Ooh and you're right, it's shocking how bad it smells - and how much people smoke when they're drinking. :eek:

    Actually yeah, apart from the cringe I don't even really have a headache just feel a bit delicate! It's great!

    I was talking to another girl who had quit but she said she'd had 2 last year and NOPE just popped into my head lol

  • Actually yeah, apart from the cringe I don't even really have a headache just feel a bit delicate! It's great!

    That's great :D It's another bonus of not smoking!!

    Although I don't usually get really drunk, I used to get a fuzzy headachey feeling a lot and now it's really rare, even though I'm probably drinking more :eek:

    I was talking to another girl who had quit but she said she'd had 2 last year and NOPE just popped into my head lol

    Good!!

    It has to be NOPE - the number of times my quits have gone because of "just one" grrrrr

  • That's great :D It's another bonus of not smoking!!

    Although I don't usually get really drunk, I used to get a fuzzy headachey feeling a lot and now it's really rare, even though I'm probably drinking more :eek:

    Good!!

    It has to be NOPE - the number of times my quits have gone because of "just one" grrrrr

    Ok now I'm feeling pretty low, I think I dislike the affects of alcohol on me almost as much as smoking...

    Also it's like my body hasn't forgotten that I used to smoke because it seems like I can taste them - weird

    Nope is the way forward :) this whole quitting smoking thing is a major battle isn't it, can never let your guard down in the early days

  • Ok now I'm feeling pretty low, I think I dislike the affects of alcohol on me almost as much as smoking...

    I hope you feel better soon - it is easy to overdo it!!

    Also it's like my body hasn't forgotten that I used to smoke because it seems like I can taste them - weird

    I got that a bit, isn't it odd?

    Think coffe set it off for me.

    Nope is the way forward :) this whole quitting smoking thing is a major battle isn't it, can never let your guard down in the early days

    It is a battle early on, but with a couple of months under your belt it gets to be really easy :)

    Keep going hun!!

  • Well done Kim ! You made it through one of the toughest challenges! I hope you are really chuffed with yourself.

    The score of this battle is....

    Kim 100 - Nic 0

    Yes you scored 100 for that one because getting drunk and not caving is FANFLIPPINTASTIC :D:D

    Hope the hangover stays away.

    Sarah

  • Well done Kim ! You made it through one of the toughest challenges! I hope you are really chuffed with yourself.

    The score of this battle is....

    Kim 100 - Nic 0

    Yes you scored 100 for that one because getting drunk and not caving is FANFLIPPINTASTIC :D:D

    Hope the hangover stays away.

    Sarah

    Thanks Sarah :) I'm very happy with 100 points by the way!

  • I hope you feel better soon - it is easy to overdo it!!

    I got that a bit, isn't it odd?

    Think coffe set it off for me.

    It is a battle early on, but with a couple of months under your belt it gets to be really easy :)

    Keep going hun!!

    Thanks darling, yup now I've survived the first outting future ones shouldn't be as hard :)

    I really do notice now how people that smoke don't really talk about the downsides or acknowledge when people quit - and I used to be just the same

  • Thanks darling, yup now I've survived the first outting future ones shouldn't be as hard :)

    It definitely gets easier!!

    And practicing is fun :p

    I really do notice now how people that smoke don't really talk about the downsides or acknowledge when people quit - and I used to be just the same

    Oh yes you're right!! Or if they do it's sort of a jokey way if that makes sense?

    Used to call myself a "dirty smoker" and things but never really meant it.

  • I just want to say that I, myself, had a wedding to attend yesterday, and before I left I read this thread and found it helpful. So thank you!

    It was a camp-out wedding and full of triggers--- old friends, campfire, and people-smoking-everywhere. Anyway, I made it through the night with NOT ONE PUFF, but it was really hard! In fact, I still feel like smoking. Every where I look and everything I see makes me want to smoke. so I feel guilty, even though I still haven't smoked. I still wanted to & want to.... I guess I need to work harder on being happy about my decision to not smoke cigarettes!

    Incidentally, if you ever go camping thinking that one embroidered throw blanket will be enough for two people, you may find yourself awake in the early june morning very very very cold! Just saying

  • I just want to say that I, myself, had a wedding to attend yesterday, and before I left I read this thread and found it helpful. So thank you!

    It was a camp-out wedding and full of triggers--- old friends, campfire, and people-smoking-everywhere. Anyway, I made it through the night with NOT ONE PUFF, but it was really hard! In fact, I still feel like smoking. Every where I look and everything I see makes me want to smoke. so I feel guilty, even though I still haven't smoked. I still wanted to & want to.... I guess I need to work harder on being happy about my decision to not smoke cigarettes!

    Incidentally, if you ever go camping thinking that one embroidered throw blanket will be enough for two people, you may find yourself awake in the early june morning very very very cold! Just saying

    Hiya,

    Well done to you for staying strong and not giving in! I prompted a whole conversation on my table about it and luckily there was another girl who had quit which made it a bit easier in a way. But I can imagine being outside in the sun with everyone around smoking must have been challenging so you should be very proud!

    You shouldn't feel guilty about wanting one, its fine for us to think about them, the main thing is we never actually have one ever again. I'm still in the very early stages but when I wake up now smoking isn't the first thing I think about or when I'm walking to work so my brain is already getting used to the idea of me not being a smoker.

    And thanks for the camping tip, last time I went we went surfing so I think I had hyperthermia the whole time which as you know is not fun :p

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