leaving today but thank you for getting me to day 44

[nsd_user663_54751]

hi just wanted to thank this site and a lot of positive people on here , it really did help reading a lot of your posts, knowing that your not alone in quitting was the push i needed, but just recently it seems a lot of people are saying they have quit , an hour later they have smoked , 2 hours later they are quitting again etc .. anyway its putting me off coming on the site to be honest , so im gonna quit the site while the going is good and thank you for getting me through the worst of it and good luck to all you serious quitters on here , really hope you make it

[nsd_user663_54554]

Thanks Net, appreciate the sentiment and wish you well, stay strong!

[nsd_user663_44862]

Well done on your quit and for being honest! Yep, i know exactly what you mean, was thinking the same. Good luck, i wish you all the best.

[nsd_user663_54305]

net,

Well done for growing a pair and saying what many clearly think - myself included. There is one quit smoking forum (as many will be aware) which requires all members to promise 'no nicotine' and if they break this promise they're out (it's self-policing but if you break the rule you're kidding no-one but yourself). On first sight I thought this was a bit draconian - now I'm not so sure.

The 'Never mind, it's OK, try again' attitude is largely well meant but at the end of the day failure is NOT OK - it's nothing short of a furkin' disaster. It's what keeps people trapped for years on end in a continuous cycle of failed quits - I know, I've been there:mad:

Quitting is dead easy - I've done it dozens of times. Staying quit is bloody difficult (whether by CT, NRT, Zyban, hypnosis, whatever) - by definition, once you've smoked, you will only ever have one successful quit in your entire life. How you get there doesn't really matter; staying there matters absolutely.

There is one common factor in every single failed attempt - 'just one'. Just one cigarette because it was a stressful time, life was throwing a load of 5hit you way, yada yada yada - that's life, life happened before, life is happening now, life will happen in the future.

I feel very strong in this quit for many reasons, one of which is that I couldn't bear to be back at day one AGAIN. I've been a smoker for many years - I can only ever have one successful quit in the rest of my life - I'm damned sure it's going to be this one.

Here endeth the sermon:rolleyes:

[nsd_user663_3607]

The 'Never mind, it's OK, try again' attitude is largely well meant but at the end of the day failure is NOT OK - it's nothing short of a furkin' disaster. It's what keeps people trapped for years on end in a continuous cycle of failed quits - I know, I've been there:mad:

All the more reason that we shouldn't drive people away that have this attitude - looking for the longer termers to educate them. Egg, you yourself say you used to be one of them - so looking for your wisdom to help them!

[nsd_user663_54958]

Every cigarette that any one of us didnt smoke...

- means less money for the manufacturers

- more non smoking, healthier people around

- less second hand smoke

- less tax payers money to fix smoking related illnesses

- etcetc

Keep on trying I say! Every cigarette you and I didnt smoke does matter.

Roosa.

[nsd_user663_54305]

Roosa,

I've read all your points and don't disagree.

I've also read your signature - 'quit at least once a year for the past seven years' - surely you'd rather it read 'quit seven years ago and never looked back'?

I really hope I don't hack you or anyone else off, but I think this is a question we should all ask ourselves from our own point of view - is failure OK? And if not OK for ourselves, then surely it shouldn't be OK for others?

[nsd_user663_54696]

hmmmmm

Well the choice is yours and i wish you all the look in the world, but to be honest without this site and the people on it (not everybody) i dont think id be were i am now.

Some people on here are not serious quiters but there are many many more that are and many many more that have successfully quit. Im one of those serious quiters and im staying here to help as many people, that keep failing as i can.

Please pop in and have a little nosy from time to time to see how many familiar faces are still here. I do wish you all the best with your quit and all the best to you :D:D:D

[nsd_user663_54958]

Roosa,

I've read all your points and don't disagree.

I've also read your signature - 'quit at least once a year for the past seven years' - surely you'd rather it read 'quit seven years ago and never looked back'?

I really hope I don't hack you or anyone else off, but I think this is a question we should all ask ourselves from our own point of view - is failure OK? And if not OK for ourselves, then surely it shouldn't be OK for others?

Oh yes for sure I would love to say I quit seven years ago. I have also been quit about half of the time during the past seven years and I think that too counts for something. I can not keep punishing my self for what has happened before, just learn from it and look forwards. My point was that all the ciggies we dont smoke are steps towards the right direction. Is it a failure, maybe. Is failure ok, perhaps not ok, but we should still be able to forgive ourselves and each other right?

I do looove the kicks on the back side too, so no chance to hack me off

Its a good debate too!

Roosa.