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Hi there,

My sister is a member of this forum and has been waxing lyrical about the support she is getting while quitting the cigs. <<waves to Calyx!>> I have decided to follow her example (and that of my DH, although he isn't on a forum) and quit too. I read Allen Carr in a oner over about 3 hours, and had my last smoke on 10 December at about 2pm. So I guess I'm technically into day 3 now already :D

I have read quite a bit from this forum but due to technical difficulties, haven't been able to post until today - it was frustrating! I am hoping the fact that I can post now means that I am properly quitting now :p (only kidding, I was properly quitting before too!)

I am doing reasonably well so far, I think. I have had to speak seriously to myself a couple of times today though. Just need to remind myself that this is easy and enjoyable ;):D

I am pleased to be in such fab company - you lot are inspiring. My problem in the past has been that I am not too bad at quitting...temporarily. But I have always gone back to the disgusting habit, even once after a year, blaming my DH smoking or whatever. I pray that this time my subconscious understands that it is final.

Thank you if you have read to the end!

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  • Welcome Nyx

    Well that's a positive start :D

    Doing reasonably well? ..... errr don't you mean very well?

    As long as you don't resort to giving yourself a slap in the mush then just having a talk a couple of times a day sounds pretty damn good to me :)

    Very best of luck with this quit,

    Hope this is the one for you

    Take care

    Greg

    :)

  • Hey Nyx, 3 days already on your own!! That's terrific. You've definately got what it takes! Great going. It'll be a week before you know it. :)

    Ollie.

  • Welcome Nyx,

    To reiterate, Day 3, on your own, bloody marvelous. Ollie is right before you know it, a week has gone and your well on your way to freedom.

    Don :D

  • Hi Nyx.

    Welcome to the forum and congratulations on your quit.

    If you have come for support and advice you've definitely come to the right place. This forum rocks and the people here are out of this world.

    Keep reading and posting, it really helps.

    All the best with your quit. :)

    Love May x

  • Hi Nyx, I found the first 3 days the worst and you are nearly passed that already. Well done and welcome!:)

  • Welcome to the forum Nyx and well done for getting through the first 3 days, now you'll have the support from this forum too xx

  • Thank you everyone, that is a lovely welcome! And for those who said the first 3 days are often the worst - thank you for that, I feel good about being this far in already. Won't be long before I catch up with some of you :D except of course you will still be ahead at that point...!

    Good night to all, I will check in again tomorrow to see how everyone is doing. :)

  • Welcome Nyx, and well done on three days smoke free

  • Hi Nyx.

    If you have come for support and advice you've definitely come to the right place. This forum rocks and the people here are out of this world.

    Second that!!!! Welcome to the forum and well done on your quit - keep up the great work :D

    Lucy x

  • hey hunni - pull up a chair and sit by the fire, youve had 3 days in the wilderness not let us give you a hug and a brandy, well done on battling through those tough times.

    As for getting 12 months into a quit then going back on the cigs, well we just wont have that! If you get an urge come on here post, rant, laugh or just lurk and read, its amazing how quickly you forget about smoking when your reading someone elses tales (not always of woe!)

    see you in your other posts!

  • Hiya sis

    <waves back> brilliant to see you on here :D told you they're lovely!

    Nearly past 3 days and I am SO proud of you, good vibes and positivity to you and my bro-in-law too :cool:

    Imagine - we are a family of nonsmokers! Can't wait for us to be a family of rich carefree nonsmokers but one day at a time eh ;):D

    Keep up the long relaxing breaths and see you soon xxx

  • Hi Nyx and welcome. You must be in day four by now - well done. :)

    Are there any more **yx siblings lurking in the wings?

  • Great thread, well done so far Nyx, and of course welcome ;)

  • Thank you again to all. I really appreciate that people are taking the time and effort to reply, i am very glad as it is helping me - especially today. Yes, day four now as of 2pm today! I will say though that I am struggling today. Very much so. It has been nearly a full on constant onslaught of cravings. Work today was very annoying - lots of minor and not so minor irritations - and secretly to myself I have been having 'the rage'.

    I really hope that this gets better - I am going on a Christmas lunch (read "all afternoon, free booze and food") on Monday and I am stressed that I will be stupid and want to smoke. I have to keep remembering that I DO NOT WANT TO SMOKE. It would be a VERY BAD IDEA. (Please forgive the shouty capitals!)

    Please tell me that this level of temptation is temporary :(

    If my DH wasn't doing so well with his own quit I would have caved by now. But he is amazing - no wobbles at all, cold turkey, no forum, or discussion even! His mind is well and truly made up that he is "no longer a drug addict" - in M&S earlier we were drooling over the fabulous food range and he said "excellent, now we're no longer drug addicts we can food shop in M&S soon" :D

    Thanks again for your kindness and support :)

    Whoever asked about more siblings - no, just me and Calyx (and the 'yx' thing is a bit of a coincidence really!)

  • Aw nooo

    Sorry you are having a hard time today. Read, read, read everything you can find about how to relax into craves, breathe your way through them, try the 'pretend you're smoking a cigarette' breathing and feel the wave of relaxation from the lower tummy, round the mid back and up the shoulders and neck with each long, slow breath.

    Take it a minute at a time and remember every time you beat a crave you are that much stronger sis <hugs>

    Xxx

  • Yeahh coincidence! right.....you're robots aren't you :D

    (good spot Biggrin!)

    It is temporary Nyx.....honestly.

    In the beginning I had day long craves.....I mean constant "smoke, smoke, ciggie, ciggie, smoke,smoke......ARGHHHHH" kind of craves..all day long.

    No colleague in work could look at me for fear of having their eyelids torn off by my teeth! .... and that was a good day! :D

    But over time it does get better..... A LOT BETTER (just in case you didn't hear me..hehehe!)

    The volume goes down and down, all of a sudden you find you can smile again, laugh again....hold a conversation without thinking "I'm going to kill this person soon if they don't stop parting their hair on the left!" .... hope you get the idea! :D

    Stick with it Nyx and come back soon to wup my A*s if this doesn't happen to you.

    As for the M&S bit .... oooooooohhh listen to her! :D

    Stay strong ... you WILL get there.

    Take care

    Greg

  • whyquit.com/whyquit/A_Sympt...

    I like this one (skim read and you'll find all the best bits before the length of the article makes you nod off :p) hope it helps sis xx

  • Thanks again people - Nifty, yes, we're robots, you got me :D

    Feeling better again now and am off to my bed. I will hopefully chat more tomorrow, and hopefully more cheerfully!

  • Well I'm round about the same stage I guess. Last cigarette was on Monday night! Apart from once when I stopped for a week in 2008, this is the longest I've quit for in 19 years and was up to a 20 and sometimes 30 a day habit.

    Have just taken two weeks off work to try and sort a few things out like finances, blah, and had a vague notion that I really ought to go to the doctor / nurse to talk about quitting.

    But on Tuesday morning i just thought, I'm not going to smoke today. This was after BF very gently pointed out that stopping smoking should be no. 1 priority overall. I knew that, somewhere in my muddled brain, but I suppose that was a prod that woke me up a bit and I thought "I don't want all this any more", i.e. the expense, the shame, the guilt, the smell, the worry about health, the financial hemorrhaging. And so I didn't smoke on Tuesday.

    Same Wednesday. Same today. I'm just past my worst time, late evening, when I start to get a bit anxious and I can hear a voice in my head screaming like a demon for a fag!! It's over for now ...

    Trying to be gentle with myself and let the whispers, pangs, and screaming cravings pass, eating sugarless sweets, bags of hula hoops ...

    Tomorrow's a new day.

    Back to work next week, which is daunting, but day at a time and all that.

    Night and good luck!

  • Wow - well done you!

    Hey fingers, welcome! Wow - you are doing brilliantly, I am very impressed. Thank you for the concise and timely reminder why we can't just cave in to a crave - "the expense, the shame, the guilt, the smell, the worry about health, the financial hemorrhaging" :eek:

    Goodnight and good luck for our day five!

  • Welcome. Take lots of deep breaths to help you through the craves. Read lots of posts and you will always find someone you can relate to. Well done.

  • Welcome. Take lots of deep breaths to help you through the craves. Read lots of posts and you will always find someone you can relate to. Well done.

    Welcome to the forum, we're not a bad bunch really and, as Una says, there's tonnes to read. Really sound advice that'll help no end. Well it did for me.

    Take immense pride in what you're doing, it's fantastic!

    Molly x

  • Welcom fingers

    Well done to both you and Nyx5697W (- android to the stars! :D)

    Fingers, why not annunce yourself on a new thread?

    Theres nothing like making a big entrance!

    Drum roll please...

    brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!

    So well done both

    Greg

    :)

  • A slightly belated welcome to both of you. You've come to the right place. Chin up, best foot forward, one day at a time!

    Helen

  • The volume goes down and down, all of a sudden you find you can smile again, laugh again....hold a conversation without thinking "I'm going to kill this person soon if they don't stop parting their hair on the left!" .... hope you get the idea! :D

    Greg

    LMAOOOOOOOOOO i had a thought like that but it was if she leaves her "£$%^%$£"$%^& (*&^%$%^&* foundation on this phone again im gonna *&^& ^%&^ ^&%^*(_))_ :mad::mad::mad:

    they hot you and hit you hard hun, its usually worse after an "easy" day but you cant enjoy the smoke free highs with out the low of the almighty craves, remember this feeling and when you feel a wobble think do i want to sink that low again.

    Then chin up

    deep slow breath

    SMILE

    you got this

  • Nyx and Fingers Crossed

    A very belated welcome to the Forum. Wishing you both all the love and luck in your quit.

    Fi x

  • ..........another late, but no less warm, welcome from me too. You've arrived at the safe house. The best quid aid on our big lovely planet. Hoorah. Keep up the excellent work. :)

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