Oh Help

Oh Help, I was so happy about reaching my three months goal and tonight at a party I just sneaked a cigarette out of my friends packet and had a few puffs, WHAT HAVE I DONE?? Well the good news I suppose was that it didn't make me feel any better and I threw it away but does this mean that I have to start all over again, so disgusted with myself !!!!!!

HELP!!!!!!!!!!!:mad:

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  • Oh Help, I was so happy about reaching my three months goal and tonight at a party I just sneaked a cigarette out of my friends packet and had a few puffs, WHAT HAVE I DONE?? Well the good news I suppose was that it didn't make me feel any better and I threw it away but does this mean that I have to start all over again, so disgusted with myself !!!!!!

    HELP!!!!!!!!!!!:mad:

    I did the same and it did nowt for me too.. Don't go back to day one as I didn't. H had a little slip and realised wot u did. No ones perfect and if they say they are there lieing.. As long as ur not gonna carry on stay where u are.. We all aloud a mistake

    U did 3 months and that's brill so don't let this slip spoil it

  • thank you so much Shelly, really am gutted I was doing so well and now feel really bad for a few puffs, but now I feel a bit better, maybe it was something I had to get out of my system,,,,,

  • Oh Help, I was so happy about reaching my three months goal and tonight at a party I just sneaked a cigarette out of my friends packet and had a few puffs, WHAT HAVE I DONE?? Well the good news I suppose was that it didn't make me feel any better and I threw it away but does this mean that I have to start all over again, so disgusted with myself !!!!!!

    HELP!!!!!!!!!!!:mad:

    It's entirely up to you. Only you knows how you will feel when you look in the mirror and tell yourself how long it's been since you (really) had a cigarette. If giving yourself a "mulligan" helps you stay off cigarettes, then chalk it up as a lesson learned and don't go back to day one.

    If it's important to you to be able to say without an asterisk in your head that you've been smoke free since (fill in the quit date) then yes, you must start all over.

    In my opinion, if someone is quitting smoking, and they take a few puffs, or have a couple of cigarettes, or smoke half a pack, or whatever, then they've quit quitting (however momentarily) and if they renew their quit, they are starting all over.

    But that's me. Your mileage may vary, and at the end of the day, the only thing that matters is what you think, and that you don't smoke.

    I'm this black and white about it (for me, not for anyone else) because it has helped keep me going time after time - knowing I had a streak of smoke-free days that I didn't want to break.

    End of the day you decide. There are no rules.

  • It's entirely up to you. Only you knows how you will feel when you look in the mirror and tell yourself how long it's been since you (really) had a cigarette. If giving yourself a "mulligan" helps you stay off cigarettes, then chalk it up as a lesson learned and don't go back to day one.

    If it's important to you to be able to say without an asterisk in your head that you've been smoke free since (fill in the quit date) then yes, you must start all over.

    In my opinion, if someone is quitting smoking, and they take a few puffs, or have a couple of cigarettes, or smoke half a pack, or whatever, then they've quit quitting (however momentarily) and if they renew their quit, they are starting all over.

    But that's me. Your mileage may vary, and at the end of the day, the only thing that matters is what you think, and that you don't smoke.

    I'm this black and white about it (for me, not for anyone else) because it has helped keep me going time after time - knowing I had a streak of smoke-free days that I didn't want to break.

    End of the day you decide. There are no rules.

    Excellent post!

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    Myself i wouldn't be able to live with the guilt and would go back to day one as a lesson to be learn't

    What's stopping you slipping again in the future Sabfrench if you are not strict with yourself ?

    It's your quit and only you can make an honest decision where you go from here.

  • Was it worth it? Man, I bet it tasted soon good!

  • I think you are being a bit hard, in the cold light of day I see it as a blip and nothing else, it doesnt mean that i am going to run out and buy a packet so as far as I see it I am still a non smoker!

  • Hi Sabfrench, the short version is that I agree with DGee. His post sums it up, only you can decide that procedure for yourself, as he has, and Rogue has, and Shelly has too.

    This subject keeps coming up and often doesn't end well in discussion terms on this forum; the only result seems to be the same, it's up to you entirely, it's your quit.

    But who's being "a bit hard"? You asked for an opinion, got some replies, DGee & Rogue (and me I suppose) were just posting as to what THEY would do? Shelly posted from her experience too. No-one's telling what YOU should do, they're just answering your original post.

    As far as I can see no-one who's posted here is wrong, they're answering your question as they see it....I just don't see who's been out of order.

    Hopefully you feel better today anyway, doesn't sound like you're planning to buy any today so keep on doing whatever you do to stay quit! :)

  • I think you are being a bit hard, in the cold light of day I see it as a blip and nothing else, it doesnt mean that i am going to run out and buy a packet so as far as I see it I am still a non smoker!

    If I'm the one you think is being a bit hard, then let me remind you what you asked in your original post: "Does this mean that I have to start all over again?"

    Maybe you don't like my answer, but if all you want is answers that agree with your own thinking, then perhaps asking questions on an internet forum isn't going to be your cup of tea, because when you ask strangers what they think, they're apt to tell you what they think, not necessarily what you want to hear.

    Second, in my answer, I was careful to say, over and over, that it was my opinion; that your "mileage may vary," and that the only thing that should matter to you is what you think. Re-read it if you don't believe me.

    If I didn't care how my response "landed" on you, I would have put it this way:

    "You smoked. You took a puff (or two or ten or whatever). You broke your quit. Because you're quitting again, you're back to Day One. You can't say you haven't smoked since your original quit date because you would be lying. Learn from this misstep and don't smoke again."

    But I didn't put it that way, because that sounds harsh. And I'd rather be supportive than confrontational. That said, at the end of the day I don't really give a flying banana whether you go back to Day One or kid yourself and tell yourself you've been off cigarettes for X number of days. It's your quit and you get to make up your own rules.

    But you asked us what we think. I told you what I think, and I went out of my way to make sure you understood I was speaking for what has worked for me, and that you might feel differently. If that's "being a bit hard," as you put it, then perhaps a public forum isn't the best place for you to ask questions.

  • There are mixed opinions on this there always will be

    But it's up too u what u do. If u go back to day one or stay where u are. I did take a week of my quit for a few puffs. I felt like I had to but I certainly will not go back to day one. I Wud only do that if I smoked more than a few puffs and carried it on untill the next day.

    But that's my opinion

    Don't feel guilty about it. Dust ur self of and carry on

  • Yeah Karri I agree....if you don't want an honest answer / opinion then don't ask the question! These threads often turn funny, but if you're going to ask a question then surely all sides of the response have to be given equal consideration?

    I had to do that (after a little sulk!) when I posted my rant about smoking areas weeks ago; imagine my surprise when the expected agreement was not forthcoming! :o

  • Well it was only a small one....I was more ANGRY back then remember :D

  • Sabfrench. I feel for you. 3 months and then a stupid moment. Arghhhhhh.... no wonder you're upset. I'm so glad though that you want to keep on not smoking. This forum is all about helping people to keep on not smoking. Isnt it? I say move forwards, not backwards. Keep on not smoking. You feel bad.....and that feeling doesnt need to defeat you....in fact.....you may find you are stronger for it in your decision to keep on not smoking. Keep barging on Sabby.....you are doing great. :)

  • Blushing now....but my kids would no doubt say differently :o

  • Hey guys, well Im so over the little glitch i had last Saturday night, still haven't smoked a cigarette, and have no desire to do so, so I think maybe the few puffs I had was something I had to do to get it out of my system!!

    Keep on going, no matter what people think and well done to everyone!!

  • Nice one Sab.

    It doesn't matter what day you are on as long as you are happy with your own situation. day 1, day 1m - who gives a monkeys chuff, just keep on trying.

    cheers

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