Dolly's Mixtures Quit Crew

Hold on tight Months 4 & 5 room, Dolly's Mixtures are in da house! :D

Rochelle and I moved in as of 11.30pm yesterday and the rest of the crew follow us in 4 days time.

I haven't posted much recently and the next 2 months are going to be manic as the college students scramble to get their assignments completed in time, so I will have my hands full and won't be posting as much until after 30th June.

On 4th July it's my 25th wedding anniversary and it will be the first one ever as a non smoker. How weird!

So, lots of new trigger points to negotiate, but I've got the perfect tool to do it with. It's called NOPE. It really is that simple.

I'm still trying to look in often but my students come first, particularly at this time of the year.

Great to see all the old forum gang still here and still quit so all of you keep it going. :D

Once the college year is over I'll be back posting with a vengeance, but make no mistake, I'm watching!

Shojam, PLL86, Toyah, Suze, Lisa, poppyseed, Scousemum, Helsbelles and all the others :p

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  • Polishing my halo as I write this:D, us women are great at multi tasking

  • Polishing my halo as I write this:D, us women are great at multi tasking

    Lol...me too!!!:D

    Congratulations to you all!!!!:D

    Will miss you Capitan...but as you say your students must come first... then you can come back to your other students..lol....Promise to behave whilst you away dont we Fred and Baldrick..yes dear xxx:D

  • :) remember when I first quit this room seemed so far away and now its here lol

    Obviously still trigger points to overcome for all of us, but we will fight through them.

  • Hello !!

    You lot !! dont take up too much space in this room !! make room Si and me are coming soon :))))

  • You lot !! dont take up too much space in this room !! make room Si and me are coming soon :))))

    Make plenty of room because Monday 30th is a busy moving day. Hopefully there are five of us moving into month 4 on Monday. Cant remember seeing Johnny around lately but hope he is moving with us.

    Aitch Jan 30

    Bec81 Jan 30

    Si22 Jan 30

    gina1506 Jan 30

    jonnynosmoke Jan 30

    Be just hanging out for a time on my way to the top floor

  • Calling all Dolly's Mixtures, calling all Dolly's Mixtures! :)

    Come in Si, Gina and Becs, your time is up (in month 3), come and sign in and join us in Months 4 & 5! :D

  • Wahoo I'm here dude. Month 4. Thanks for keeping my seat warm Gary.

  • Hellooo

    Aye Aye Capitan, i have come in to my new house for the next two months too !!

  • Welcome Si and Gina. :D

    Just waiting for Becs to sign in at some point. :)

    14 weeks at the end of tomorrow and 100 days at the end of Saturday! :cool:

    Still want to give a shout out to Dolly. Where are you Dolly? I look in the Day 1 section everytime I look in to see if you have started a new quit again.

    You can do it, give it another go! :)

  • Hmmm got a massive dilemma. Cousin who lives with me and I have had a massive argument as she smokes and she will light up, blow it out then open the back door so then the kitchen stinks of smoke and if I'm in the living room I can still smell it. Tried to explain I've only been quit for 3 months, I'm obviously gonna still get urges, so why is it too much to ask for her to get her lighter, go outside and shut the door then light up? Is it such an awful request? I put myself in her shoes, and yes, I would have respected this and smoked outside if it were me.

  • Hi Rochelle. Have you spoke to your cousin about this? Surely she would understand that you find that difficult. I dont think you are asking too much by the way I think you are well within your rights. I hope she understands and starts taking her smokes outside. Good luck!

  • Hi Rochelle. Have you spoke to your cousin about this? Surely she would understand that you find that difficult. I dont think you are asking too much by the way I think you are well within your rights. I hope she understands and starts taking her smokes outside. Good luck!

    Yes hun told her that's what the argument was about. Then she still doing it :( she doesn't understand its bringing cravings on and making me irritable. Its a bit disrespectful. Thanks for agreeing with me lol

  • Totally disrespectful to you Rochelle!

    Are you sharing or is she staying with you?

    Tell her to grow up and have a little respect for others. She's just being totally selfish and I don't believe she doesn't get that it will bring a crave on for you.

    I think she's fully aware that it will but is giving you the middle finger so to speak.

    Still, I know you're a tough cookie and will get through it and don't forget, in 30 mins we will have done 100 days! :D

  • Totally disrespectful to you Rochelle!

    Are you sharing or is she staying with you?

    Tell her to grow up and have a little respect for others. She's just being totally selfish and I don't believe she doesn't get that it will bring a crave on for you.

    I think she's fully aware that it will but is giving you the middle finger so to speak.

    Still, I know you're a tough cookie and will get through it and don't forget, in 30 mins we will have done 100 days! :D

    Well its my mams house, I still live at home. She lives here too. I feel as if she's sticking her finger up at me too, feel at breaking pount its not that its tempting me, its just making me irritable when she's out on a weekend its fine I can't smell smoke and no craves no irritablity, so I know its smelling the smoke all the time that's making me feel like that. She has started sitting outside today but still she will light up and take a drag before going outside.

    The annoying thing is she has tried to quit smoking herself before, and found it hard to be around our nana, so she knows how it feels!! Why are people selfish?

  • Hi Rochelle. She could be jealous of you quitting and she wants you to fail! A lot of smokers dont want to be alone in their addiction and will do anything to drag people back into the pit. Dont let that happen stay strong! You have done brilliantly!:)

  • I think Haze has hit the nail on the head. I can just hear her now saying oh never mind you tried with a smug grin on her face. You know you will be the winner in the end.

  • Morning Guys n Dolls , hmmm yes i agree with others , that is being a prat doing this too you knowing you are on a quit, and yeah jealousy did spring too my mind, im a determined cow lol, so if someone was disrespectin me like this and tryinta put temptation in my way , it would make me more determined too keep quit, its like they say too ya face ohh u quit oh well done , then pretend they love smokin too much too quit, then wen u fail ya can see the relief on their face and then they will quip awwww i didnt think u could do it , when you see her light up just go somewere else and stay away from her , keep up the good work , and too the rest of you too :D xx

  • Hi Rochelle. She could be jealous of you quitting and she wants you to fail! A lot of smokers dont want to be alone in their addiction and will do anything to drag people back into the pit. Dont let that happen stay strong! You have done brilliantly!:)

    I think Haze has hit the nail on the head. I can just hear her now saying oh never mind you tried with a smug grin on her face. You know you will be the winner in the end.

    Morning Guys n Dolls , hmmm yes i agree with others , that is being a prat doing this too you knowing you are on a quit, and yeah jealousy did spring too my mind, im a determined cow lol, so if someone was disrespectin me like this and tryinta put temptation in my way , it would make me more determined too keep quit, its like they say too ya face ohh u quit oh well done , then pretend they love smokin too much too quit, then wen u fail ya can see the relief on their face and then they will quip awwww i didnt think u could do it , when you see her light up just go somewere else and stay away from her , keep up the good work , and too the rest of you too :D xx

    Thanks everyone. I did get this feeling too. Gonna have to mention something later as noticed she's smoking the scruffy fags that you buy from houses, cheaper than the shops so they stink even stronger!!

    I wouldn't even care, she's got a lighter and its a dry day she could go right outside.

    Scousemum I'm a determined cow too lol proper stubborn. I will stick to my guns and she will smoke outside, just I can't be arsed with the arguments as much lol she is fiery and she will stand up for herself, she's as stubborn as me

  • Wahoo. Guys I'm on day 100. Unbelievable really. Hows everyone doing.

  • Well done Si, i cant wait too catch up too were u are , only u will be further away again hehe , keep up the good work mate :D x

  • Hi Si

    Doing just great. I hit 100 today at 8 am also, so I think its well done you and well done me.

  • Hiii

    Just checking in to see how everyone is doing .. just completed 105 days (3 and a half months ) !! cant wait to cross 4 !!fell sick with cold and flu and somehow cravings came back stronger for the past few days but its become very easy to say no to the mind and the mind to accept the fact that i will not smoke but craving are there for a few day nonetheless |

  • Well done Si and Gina! :)

    Sorry I haven't been on earlier to say that, but it's madness time at college now and will remain that way until the end of June.

    Hope everyone is doing fine and is staying on track. Despite the pressure and stress that always arrives at this time of the year, I've not considered smoking at all.

    Another possible trigger point gone! :D

    Keep on keeping on Dolly's Mixtures, we are all going to the Penthouse! :cool:

  • Good morning all. Just thought I'd pop in to say hello. Still stopped. On day 107. Cravings are still quite strong resently. Good days and bad. But only for a short while then I forget. Could have a cigarette very easily. But just have to keep telling myself I've done well over 3 months.why the hell would I want to waste all that effort for one fag. Focus is the name of the game. I'm not outta the woods yet. Keep it up folks.

  • Not out of the woods Si, but at least you can see the woods for the trees.

    A lot of people seem to struggle through month 3 and often months 4 & 5 too.

    You'll make it, just go and kick a few lamposts every now and again :D

  • Hi everyone all doing well I see :)

    I've been doing ok, plodding on as usual, still enjoying being smoke free sometimes forget about it and check my bag for a box then get that excitement thinking omg I don't even smoke anymore lol pleased its a happy feeling and not a depressed one though!!

    Si you will beat those cravings!! I do get cravings occasionly still like when I can smell someone smoking but no way am I throwing 3 and half months out of the window!! And you arnt going to either, because you've come too far.

    Keep at it mixtures :)

  • Wow, just finished 12 straight hours of marking and realised that Rochelle and I completed 4 calendar months today at 11.30pm :D

    The rest of the crew will be with us in 4 days too! :)

    I also believe that Shojam will be moving in with us having completed 3 months today! :cool:

    Hope everyone is doing well, I'm up to my neck in marking but non smoking is becoming normal to me now. I'm keeping vigilant but things are definitely going well. :cool:

  • Well done Gary. Its hard to believe we were all so stressed in the early days isn't it. I still think about smoking every day. Think it might be the old beer garden test. I've struggled this weekend,as I always on weekends. Possibly because of the warm weather. In fact I'm outside now and i could light a fag as the last 3 and a half months had never happened.

    I was talking with a relative yesterday who's a stop start smoker. One minute hes stopped. The next he's started. He says that when you start again after a period of being stopped that the fags don't taste the same as we all so loveingly remember. Id still give it a whirl I think One day. The only thing that's stopping me is the having the first one again and jumping back in to being a smoker. I want to but I don't in the same frame of mind.

    I've even kept away from here because of the negative thoughts I've been having a lately.

    I know in myself we've all done really well but are we all just prolonging the inevitable?

  • Hello all

    Today at 12 noon I will start my 120th day ... and tomorrow the same time will complete 4 months :)

    Si, to your post, i obviously cannot tell you what you should do but one thing i will tell you, i slipped once on my 10th day and smoked i guess two halves within two hours of each other because i was too drunk and it was too soon to take that liberty. The next day along with the hangover came the immense guilt of going through the mental battle, agony and torture of the first 10 days and succumbing to my dirty habit under the influence of alchohol. I have felt low before but i cannot tell you how low i felt that day of being a failure. I decided to get back on it again and never smoke another one.. and since then whenever i was tempted i somehow think of the feeling i felt the day after and it always stops me.

    Wanted to share this with you incase it helps.. i dont know if i will always feel that way about smoking an experimental ciggarette again (as like you the craving or the urge is still there on and off and i also think about it everyday) but right now i m just setting myself smaller targets, my next goal is 6 months :)

  • I realised yesterday that we'd completed 4 months! And it is feeling normal not to smoke. Definitley! I've been sat out sunbathing all weekend making the most of the lovely weather and not once missed the fags.

    Well done to all of us!!

  • Indeed well done to us all. Four months is a damn fine achievement. I passed the test of another weekend. Tough as they are. They don't seem to get any easier for me. That's what I ment about putting of the envitable. I suppose my goals are to get past every weekend forever. Tough game to play. But one day I might just win it.

  • Indeed well done to us all. Four months is a damn fine achievement. I passed the test of another weekend. Tough as they are. They don't seem to get any easier for me. That's what I ment about putting of the envitable. I suppose my goals are to get past every weekend forever. Tough game to play. But one day I might just win it.

    Well, you should because you deserve it ;)

    I'm kind of loathe to suggest deep αnalysis...if there is an issue recurring, if there are questions within yourself, if it's right for you, why not read in and find an answer. Often it's the simple things in life that provide the best solutions. Your quit, your route to success.

    Best wishes to all Dolly Mixtures :)

  • Indeed well done to us all. Four months is a damn fine achievement. I passed the test of another weekend. Tough as they are. They don't seem to get any easier for me. That's what I ment about putting of the envitable. I suppose my goals are to get past every weekend forever. Tough game to play. But one day I might just win it.

    Four months is bloody brill by any account. Why would you consider it as a game? I mean, what's holding you back from letting go of that smoke-filled past?

    Alex.

  • Indeed well done to us all. Four months is a damn fine achievement. I passed the test of another weekend. Tough as they are. They don't seem to get any easier for me. That's what I ment about putting of the envitable. I suppose my goals are to get past every weekend forever. Tough game to play. But one day I might just win it.

    It will get easier ya know Si!! Its got to. 4 months is a long time to have broken an addiction for, too long of a time to throw away. So just start enjoying it :)

  • Si, sorry to hear you are still hurting buddy. :(

    You've done a longer quit than this before though, so you know you can hang in there.

    If doing it 1 week/weekend at a time is what it takes then so be it.

    What I don't understand is what you think you are missing? :confused:

    The expense? yes, the smelly breath, clothes, hair, body, car, and house? yes, the inevitable toll on your health? yes, the shortening of your life? yes.

    I'm trying to think of something you are missing out on that would make it worthwhile to risk all of that. NOPE, I can't think of anything. Can you?

    Give it a whole 12 months to get through all your likely trigger points, then see how you feel.

    Man up big guy, we have a date with destiny in 8 months time. I've never been stood up before and at 50 I don't want to start now! :cool:

  • Brilliant post Gary !! We are all in the 5th month from today wooohoo !!

  • Karri so glad you put that last comment out. That is exactly how I feel. I'm so glad I'm not on my own in the weekend feeling. I honestly thought it was just me. Because no one else had ever mentioned that they struggle with them. If you read my posts going back to the early days. Weekends have always been my misery. I really struggle big time.I'm depressed. I'm miserable. I'm moody. And to top it I get bored of not smoking.

    I too have toyed with the idea of being a weekend smoker.

    We all know that it wont work. That by Tuesday we'll be back on 20 a day again. Probably enjoying smoking for a few weeks or even months but we will eventually be right back were we started. Wishing we'd not had that first fag again.

    I for one would love to start again. I think I'm at that bored stage. Wanting to start but knowing I shouldn't.

    The weekends mate. We'll try get through them together eh. Its a step. We have to win this game even of our hearts aren't truly in it.

    Thanks for posting nice to know weekends are tough for others.

  • Move over Capitan ;) do we have to share the bed :eek:

  • As of 11.30 pm last night I achieved 20 weeks (140 days) smoke free :D

    In 11 days it will be 5 calendar months :cool:

    All this from an unplanned quit which started as my own little tribute and moment of respect for a friend of mine who sadly passed away.

    1 day turned into 2, which turned into a week, then a month, and now here I am on the verge of 5 months.

    I definitely had a change of mindset after a week which is when I decided to join this forum. My quit went from a token gesture to a committed decision.

    This forum has been absolutely invaluable in consolidating my quit, particularly in the early weeks. Strength in numbers definitely helps and I will be forever indebted to many people, not least of whom are all my fellow Dolly Mixtures.

    We've been quiet of late so I hope everyone is still keeping strong and smoke free. Week by week I'm knocking down my trigger points and it's getting easier and easier.

    Confident? yes. Complacent? Definitely not. I'm an addict and know that one smoke is one too many.

    Dolly, I see you logged in recently. Any nearer to trying again? I'd be thrilled if you would and it's always seemed strange to have Dolly's Mixtures without the Dolly who the group was named after.

    Shojam, why not share a bed? We both smell lovely now!

    Anyway, with that I've got to get back to my marking. Roll on the end of June :)

    Good luck everyone and remember...Follow, follow, follow, follow, follow the yellow quit road. :D

  • what a great positive post

    so glad to see your still going strong Capitan school holidays next month yeah bet you cant wait

    this week has been soo good for them and for people quitting

    things can only get better :)

    follow follow follow follow

    follow the yellow quit road :p

    i always remember having to scrub my yellow fingers to get rid of the stains :eek: and i thought that was a normal thing to do :confused: and not even contemplating what colour my lungs must have been double yuk

  • Congratulations on reaching your 20 week point, excellent progress being made Captain xx :)

  • Thanks Carol & Dottie :)

  • Yep - a really fab post, inspiring and motivating. Gives me the strength to carry on when I feel jittery and wonder when it will ever end! :eek: :D

  • Thanks ShazzaH :D

    Where are the other Dolly Mixtures?

    Rochelle, Si, Gina and Becs if you are out there come and sign in. I think we are all on 20 weeks now and shortly we will have all completed 5 months and will be moving into yet another new room! :D

  • hello Capitan

    Still present and still going strong !!! 20 weeks over and done with .. in 10 days it will be 5 months wooohoo ... never thought i would achieve this on my first attempt to quit smoking after 22+ years of smoking !!! i m proud of myself and the others in this forum .. it takes a lot to be brave and to do this .. heres to all of us !!!

  • Wow, 20 weeks guys and girls, that is so absobloominlutely cool :cool: Well done :D

    Zoe xx

  • Still present and still going strong !!! 20 weeks over and done with .. in 10 days it will be 5 months wooohoo ... never thought i would achieve this on my first attempt to quit smoking after 22+ years of smoking !!! i m proud of myself and the others in this forum .. it takes a lot to be brave and to do this .. heres to all of us !!!

    Great stuff Gina! :D

    Over the next 7 days all the Dolly Mixtures will have completed 5 months and will be moving into the 6 months + room! :D

    Like you Gina, I never thought it possible, but here we are! :D

    Come on Si, Rochelle and Becs, sign in and let us know you are with us, packed and ready to move into the last room before the penthouse. :cool:

  • I'm here lol just not signed in for a bit. 5 months can't believe it!

  • I'm here lol just not signed in for a bit. 5 months can't believe it!

    Good to hear Rochelle :D

    I'm a little worried about Si, he hasn't posted for a while and I know he's been having a tough time at weekends.

    I hope he's ok and still smoke free.

  • Well, well, well.

    As of 11.30pm yesterday, Rochelle and I completed 5 calendar months free of the dreaded weed :cool:

    In 4 days we will hopefully be followed by the rest of the crew, Si, Gina and Becs, into the penultimate room before the Penthouse beckons.

    At the start of the journey, the 6 months+ room seemed but a distant dream, yet here we are.

    I'd like to thank all my fellow Dolly Mixtures and everyone on this forum who have helped me along the way. I couldn't have done it without any of you and for that I will always be truly grateful. :)

    Keep on, keeping on, down the yellow quit road. :D

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