Day 1 going badly already

Okay I did bring some of this on myself but I mentioned earlier that I was going to the dentist, well I got so anxious and scared about well so many things I screwed up the times, got there late and since it's public can't get to see one for almost 2 more weeks. I started to go through the usual emotions, sick of the pain, worried about infection if it got left, basically I've ended up feeling like a smoke and it hasn't even been half a day yet. I keep going through the feeling and I know it's the wrong way of I just need them until tomorrow, but I'm still here and haven't had any despite feeling like I'm constantly battling myself. Maybe this is more of a rant but I felt I needed to convince myself that I can experience all stressful things and still not smoke, I'm currently reading Allan Carr, I hope it helps. I suppose it seems when stressors come along we feel the weakest in our challenge.

Anyway I will admit the truth, I have only gone just under 3 hours without a smoke, I just hope I can look back in another 3 and so on and so on and say I got through more and more hours.

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  • Okay I did bring some of this on myself but I mentioned earlier that I was going to the dentist, well I got so anxious and scared about well so many things I screwed up the times, got there late and since it's public can't get to see one for almost 2 more weeks. I started to go through the usual emotions, sick of the pain, worried about infection if it got left, basically I've ended up feeling like a smoke and it hasn't even been half a day yet. I keep going through the feeling and I know it's the wrong way of I just need them until tomorrow, but I'm still here and haven't had any despite feeling like I'm constantly battling myself. Maybe this is more of a rant but I felt I needed to convince myself that I can experience all stressful things and still not smoke, I'm currently reading Allan Carr, I hope it helps. I suppose it seems when stressors come along we feel the weakest in our challenge.

    Anyway I will admit the truth, I have only gone just under 3 hours without a smoke, I just hope I can look back in another 3 and so on and so on and say I got through more and more hours.

    it is hard at the start no if's or but's but i can tell u from experience it does get easier just dig in and get through these tough times

    reading allen carr is a good idea helped me loads and read the posts on hear it helps u understand what you are going through

    hang in there u wont regret it

    boo

  • I hate myself but I only got to 4 hours and I gave in, I know I am going to try again, I know not every person succeeds on their first try so I haven't given up hope but 4 hours seems so lame. So tomorrow I'll be back at day 1, this time I'm coming more prepared, I'll go out, do something, anything to take my mind off the process. Or maybe I'll try again today, I just don't know.

    I am determined to stop, I just need to regroup and maybe prepare myself more.

    Okay instead of being stupid and deciding to start tomorrow, I'm having 1 more ciggy and trying again, I only lost a few hours and I know that when it gets bad to get out of my room because it's where I smoke the most.

  • Keep on quitting. :)

  • Hey chick, listen, don't worry. We've all been there.

    It seems to me from all your posts that you're just a mass of anxieties about quitting. It's understandable, especially if you have problems with anxiety anyway.

    But try to regroup and look at it rationally if you can. What you're scared of is craving - wanting a cigarette. It's not a nice feeling, especially in the early days, but ultimately a craving is beatable. It's just a subconscious prompt and it can't actually hurt you. 99% of quitting is in your mind, and if you can get your head in the right place - ie, "I know what this is and I'm going to stick it out", rather than "I'm craving, this is horrible, it's bigger than I am, I can't do it" - then it's much easier to tackle.

    I'm not saying this well - but I hope you get what I mean. Try not to let fear suck all your mental energies away. Try to focus instead on the positives, if you feel agitated or angry direct it at this horrible addiction - give yourself the mental fuel to fight it.

    You can do this. It is hard, but it can be done, and I promise you it's worth every bit of fight you can give it.

    Onwards and upwards!

    Helen

  • I'm not in a position to advise you - I am in a similar situation to you.

    But Helen's advice sounds spot on to me.

    All I can add is my sympathy, and to say we can both do this.

  • Danielle

    The first few days are by far the hardest when giving up smoking. I found that after the first week the craving ease off quite significantly.

    I am on day 28 today. I am on patches and i use an inhaler as my nicotine replacement therapy. I feel it is very important to attend a smoking clinic and see an advisor as they are there to push you along and encourage you reducing risk of relapse.

    On day 28 i am feeling good :) I am not going to lie and say that the cravings are none existant because i do still get them on a daily basis. The difference is that they only occur maybe twice a day rather than every hour.

    The cravings are much easier to manage, i think my brain is finally starting to understand that i am now a non-smoker.

    I only found out yesterday that stopping smoking is a 12 week programme therefore i am only a third of the way there, however i feel as though the hardest part is done and this is why i will never pick up a cigarette again...i never want to have to go through the first week again.

    To everyone who is on their first week, or has completed their first 3 days...WELL DONE!! You have done the hardest/ most intense part now...keep going as it is about to get easier...i promise.

    I could never see how it would get easier but it really does, as if it didnt i would be smoking againa s i wouldnt have coped.

    Good Luck Everyone, hope my post has been of some help :)

  • Hi Rockchick!

    You said there that you'd have one more and then try again, but I wouldn't try again straight away now.

    I know this maybe doesn't sound like the right advice, but your head needs to be in the right place before you quit, and with a "just one more" view, it's not the best sort of planning. The only thing likely to happen is that you'll cave in again, and end up thinking you can't do it.

    Read the book to the end (I know it's an annoying read), and make a firm date. Say 3 days from now or whatever, and then prepare for it.

    Sorry if this sounds condencending. It's not meant to. But I hope you manage to get there!! Good luck!

  • I agree with Barney, your story sounds familiar, it was mine 5 mths ago. the one more cigarette then i'll quit malarkey is a built in get out clause. Think of it as a parachute jump. the 5 mins before the jump is terrifying , what if it doesnt open. im not ready. i'll do it tomorrow.. best to prepare for it. plan what you will do to get you through the first hours craves and changes of mind. rehearse it all first. Preparation is paramount. and hopefully when u do jump. you can just keep falling knowing youll land safely. but where u are now sounds scary and you dont sound committed and i dont think you will be until your no longer saying just one more. there is no such thing as 1 more . but there is such a thing as my last cigarette. One more = 1 million more.Hope it works out for you.

    Mash x

  • yes, we've all been there. A cigarette after the dentist would definitely have made you feel better, for about 5 minutes. It wouldn't have changed anything else, though, the pain and frustration etc. Allen Carr is brilliant, and makes the whole viscious cycle of smoking clearly ridiculous, but he advocates 'no substitutes' and if you're weak, like me, the cravings are too hard to bear. So I've gone for patches (have tried cold turkey before and failed) and am now on, umm, day 11.....they work so well to reduce cravings but I'm worried about coming off them (does anyone have any advice about that???)

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