I am at trigger point

Day 122:

Ok forum peeps, I've reached a trigger for my smoking.

I had my appraisal at work last week, I don't get on with my manager. He's made a written comment about the way I speak to others in the office outside my team, it looks bad, like I'm some kindof batty looney tune.

I've spoken privately with a number of work colleagues in the office who say this is nonesense. I have relayed this back to my manager and now we are in a stupid playground spat and he refuses to omit the comment.

I now want to drag him across the table and punch is face into the middle of next week, I'm so angry :mad: I know I cant do this, in the past I would end up outside chain smoking, I want to do it right now but know it wont solve anything. I've informally alerted HR that there is another problem between us(Last year was similar).

I'm not looking for advice on how to handle my manager and I know smoking wont help but its close, closer than its ever been.

I think I'm just ranting away on here to let off steam. I have someone here at work I can talk to privately but he's really busy (who isnt?) and I suspect he's getting a bit pig sick of me yak yak yaking on about my manager being such a "C U Next Tuesday"

Done!!

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  • ahhhhh some people are right big ASS HOLES :mad: if you want i will come round and sort him out for you as your not allowed to smoke you will need all the money your saving to buy me lots of choccies :p

    just take deep slow breathes and try and focus losing your temper will not help as im a cheeky cow if anyone gets up my back and trys to wind me up which i do get alot from certain family members i just smile sweetly and walk away once in private i will punch the mattress and put some loud heavyrock music ((none of my family like that so that pees them of what goes around comes around)) on and scream into a pillow

  • I'm not gonna let this tit make me smoke. I'm not giving up a 122 day quit for him, the tosser!

    I'm still angry thou :mad:, nobody should be this angry at work, I have to just sit here and stew for a bit as making decisions when angry has always been my downfall.

    Calm down, think it through :confused:,

    a work colleague has just given me advice, she's pretty good, glad she's here. I hate being around people who press my anger button. I also know he just loves winding people up, he really shouldn't be a manager grrrrrr!

    I'm starting to rant again:eek:

  • Someone once said to me -

    "what people say and do is their choice. How we chose to react to peoples actions is our choice."

    So you have a choice - you can either sit there and stew, and desperatly want a cigarette or you can just think 'he's a complete cabbage and not worth these emotions'.

    You own your own emotions - no-one else, and it's your choice how you let other people 'push those so called buttons'.

    Just passing on words of advice that I received once - and they worked for me....but whatever you do - dont' let him get you outside shoving poison into yourself....

  • Someone once said to me -

    "what people say and do is their choice. How we chose to react to peoples actions is our choice."

    So you have a choice - you can either sit there and stew, and desperatly want a cigarette or you can just think 'he's a complete cabbage and not worth these emotions'.

    You own your own emotions - no-one else, and it's your choice how you let other people 'push those so called buttons'.

    Just passing on words of advice that I received once - and they worked for me....but whatever you do - dont' let him get you outside shoving poison into yourself....

    What an excellent posting of advice, Fellie!

    Other than that I would suggest that if we didn't come to trigger points then we wouldn't have the opportunity to test and strengthen our resolve thus actually making the journey better.

    Keep on keepin' on, Jimmer :cool:

  • Day 122:

    mmm lots of wise words.

    Thank you Cav/Fellie/Karri/Muddled.

    The overriding thought I have in all of this, is -

    I wont give up a 122 Day quit for a tit like him.

    keep the faith

  • All calm now karri thx. But not the end of i feel

  • Four months!

    Hi Jimmer

    Ultimately, a job is just a job. Managers come and go.

    Your quit, on the other hand, should be for life! Don't let it go over this.

    Really well done on staying strong.

  • Day 123

    Ok I made it through yesterday.

    When I see what other people are going through I begin to realise how fortunate I am.

    neva quit quitting

  • well done jimmer on make it through a tough day thats that trigger dealt with now next time it pops up it will be considerably weaker and easier to deal with

    boo

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