Whip me soundly please everyone? Why can't i give up smoking?? (well, why can't i give up and then never have another one? ) I do really want to, so its not that, or maybe it is???
For anyone who doesn't know me, I've been on the merry go round for two and a half years. Longest quit six months. I don't seem to be able to properly quit, and i'm not sure why i can't. Am i just cr*p?
Hey Jude 
Good to 'see' you
As for the rest....*sigh*....a person's quit is theirs. We've discussed this ad finitum and it comes back to you. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that you can't do this or that you're incapable. You can do this and you very much are capable. I used to say to one of our mutual friends, "I wish I could just do this for Jude"....I still wish I could, but I can't.
As ever, my best wishes and you have my email in a pm.
Cav x
Hi Jude, I'm sure you can do this. Have you asked yourself why you pick up that first cigarette after a period of being a non-smoker?
No-one said it's going to be easy and lots of people stop/start several times before quitting for good so you're probably no different to a lot of us on here.
Good luck
Marilyn
for me it all comes down to those crunch moments, when things go wrong and all i want to do is smoke - if, at those times, i can remember that just holding on for just an hour or two will see me through, well then i am still a non smoker. it all hangs on that,
if its any consolation the non-smoker me feels just as crap as the smoker me used to i wish you all the best in your continuing efforts to break free, if you want it you will make it and when you do you won't look back!
Hi Jude
I agree with the Cav man.
I am going to try to not sound too hard, I will adapt what I tell my sales people who aren't selling enough into something smoking related.
The internet, this forum and friends family ect can give you all the information / encouragement needed to get you on the way to quitting.
All of the above can then provide you with all the support you need to keep a quit going.
Problem is only you can stop yourself from putting a smoke in your mouth and lighting it, and unfortuneately that is where the whole quit process will fall down everytime.
Harsh as it might sound (and I am trying not to make it sound that way) you are the one holding the keys to the penthouse and you are the one that keeps throwing them into the sewer!! 
As for being incapable, that is just not the case. We all have it in us it is just an easy excuse to use (no will power etc).
Again please take this as it is meant, but the only reason you have not quit is because you do not want to for whatever reason, one day you will want it enough and guess what - you won't look back. 
for me it all comes down to those crunch moments, when things go wrong and all i want to do is smoke - if, at those times, i can remember that just holding on for just an hour or two will see me through, well then i am still a non smoker. it all hangs on that!
Couldn't of put it better myself.
When you REALLY want it you will get through that moment and not smoke. I could have easily smoked today, It is probaly the closest I have come to it. I just went and did something else instead.
You can do it !!
Sian x
sorry you are having such a hard time with it jude
the fact of the matter is that we have smoked for so long and have grown very reliant on it but we can succeed in stopping!! it is all up to us. its a hard road with or without smoking but either way we gotta go through the ups and downs!! i wish you the best of luck in your quitting and remember to value yourself and believe in yourself and if you do then the sky is the limit!! its hard but so worth it. take care
I feel your pain!
Hi Jude, in the same boat - except the most i have managed in the last 2 years is 2 weeks and lately only 4 days!
So jealous reading all the posts of people who have had bad days/cravings and manage to NOT smoke. That part where they somehow manage to say "no, i'm going to distract myself" or "i choose not to, i will be glad later"...that's where i somehow convince myself it'll be ok cos i'll give up tomorrow or next week. I dont have any answers for this i'm afriad - more here to sympathise - hope that helps a bit
On the upside, at least you keep trying, and at least you are spending some days/weeks/months NOT smoking. It's not perfect but it's definitely got to be better than choosing to smoke ALL the time.
If i find the answer, i'll be sure to let you know
That part where they somehow manage to say "no, i'm going to distract myself" or "i choose not to, i will be glad later"...that's where i somehow convince myself it'll be ok cos i'll give up tomorrow or next week.
Couldn't agree more.
Somehow, instead of remaining a non smoker, my response is to actually go out and buy cigarettes, because i can "give up" again tomorrow, for a few days, before it all happens again..... but Lulabelle, if i can do it for six months, so can you. and so can i , i guess
Thanks everyone for the replies
Drinking is a downfall. Smokes and drink just go together and i find it hard to do one without the other. I've beeen forced to question whether drinking is a problem (i don't really think so, but i end up "drinking and smoking", when i've said i'm not going to. ) Don't mean to sound like Amy Winehouse or anything, but while i can go for a long time without drinking , then i'll have quite a lot plus ciggies,
I don't know the answer. When i gave up for six months, it actually became quite easy, apart from a few monster cravings . But , umm, i still had a fag, even though it wasn't as if i really majorly wanted one.
Cav, been keeping my sorry arse from the forum because i want to come in and post at least a month of success, but, this hasn't been happening.:rolleyes:
but good to see you.
WILLPOWER, has anyone got any spare for me??
Hi Jude
No you're not cr*p so you can stop that straight away!
I'm a firm believer that things do or don't happen for a reason - you've just not found your quit yet but when you do it'll be yours for keeps
Other than that I hope you're well.
Pooks x
I'm a firm believer that things do or don't happen for a reason - you've just not found your quit yet
Hi Pookie, But i've been looking for it so long...where is it hiding? lol:eek:
Hi Pookie, But i've been looking for it so long...where is it hiding? lol:eek:
Obviously somewhere far, far away
It's there Jude - you've just got to claim it
Cav, been keeping my sorry arse from the forum because i want to come in and post at least a month of success, but, this hasn't been happening.:rolleyes:
but good to see you.
Maybe that's the thing, Jude. If you come back on a regular basis then hopefully the messages will stick that much harder in your psyche.
You know how we bang on about read, read, read? Well just as effective is posting to others about the messages when they are struggling....even if you are struggling. It's affirming...or a form of affirmation
You most certainly aren't carp, unable, or any other similar explanations. Chill a bit from the hang up of struggling and get your ass back here :cool:
It's either in Outer Mongolia. Or it's microscopically small, invisible to the naked eye.
It's either in Outer Mongolia. Or it's microscopically small, invisible to the naked eye.
What...you're ass :confused:
What...you're ass :confused:
Cav - I think jude meant her quit...as in it's hiding!
Jude - i'm just gathering some willpower at the mo...if i end up with too much i'll throw some your way Have you quit again now, or planning another one -if so for when? (and good luck)
What...you're ass :confused:
Unfortunately, no. My arse is not microscopically small, and nearly invisible to the naked eye.....It could fill up a large mongolian yurt by itself, lol.
Where is Miss Whiplash? I haven't posted a cat pic in ages.
Unfortunately, no. My arse is not microscopically small, and nearly invisible to the naked eye.....It could fill up a large mongolian yurt by itself, lol.
Whip me soundly please everyone? Why can't i give up smoking?? (well, why can't i give up and then never have another one? ) I do really want to, so its not that, or maybe it is???
For anyone who doesn't know me, I've been on the merry go round for two and a half years. Longest quit six months. I don't seem to be able to properly quit, and i'm not sure why i can't. Am i just cr*p?
Hi Jude,
Likewise! I dont however feel crap about it now.....I often think to myself if I wasnt ars*d anymore about quitting smoking then why would I waste so much of my time trying, learning & attempting, I do think that once someone begins to quit smoking at whatever point in their life...but fails!! The Knowing they can do it never leaves them! Quite frustrating in some ways but extremely positive in others.......I mean who would you rather be the Jude who was never interested in quitting smoking....who never thought she would do it ...and who never even tried too!...or the person you are today! ........I know which one i would choose
Be proud of how far you have come...... failing dosnt always mean failing!
In the meantime We could always start another storythread :D:eek:
Whip me soundly please everyone? Why can't i give up smoking?? (well, why can't i give up and then never have another one? ) I do really want to, so its not that, or maybe it is???
For anyone who doesn't know me, I've been on the merry go round for two and a half years. Longest quit six months. I don't seem to be able to properly quit, and i'm not sure why i can't. Am i just cr*p?
Jude! Always happy to see you on the boards Here's one just for you!
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Hey Jude girl..... this quitting game is all about timing.... when you are ready, you'll do it, just don't stress! I know when you really want this, you'll do it with ease. I hope though you get there sooner than later xxx bella
Day two today. Ok, fine, done it all before, know the score. Think I may be on course with this one, as I've never really said a final goodbye to the fags and never thought "that's it". I do know i can do it , that IS the thing. And it's cos i know i can do it, i go and smoke. Get the addictive logic in that one!
KK, we will start a story thread. Do ya wanna start it or shall i?
Bella, we need some wit threads to keep me on the straight and narrow.
Oh cwap .... 6 months -2 days to Roll Mop for Pol Day :cool:
I look forward to it Jude, in a perverse kinda way :rolleyes:
Whip me soundly please everyone? Why can't i give up smoking?? (well, why can't i give up and then never have another one? ) I do really want to, so its not that, or maybe it is???
For anyone who doesn't know me, I've been on the merry go round for two and a half years. Longest quit six months. I don't seem to be able to properly quit, and i'm not sure why i can't. Am i just cr*p?
I tried to quit for so long before I finally managed to. You are not alone; keep going
Hi Jude,
I waited up for you I was on the same merry go around for the past few months and decided to stick with it a little longer this time (like to day 2 or 3 at least). I am also on day 2 now so don't feel bad about the past you are not alone. Good luck and best wishes.
Nice one Jude! You sound so happy & positive :cool: ..... liking the story so far
Hope day 3 is going well for you Jude. You & I are serial quitters but we will get there & hopefully this is YOURS for the taking this time
Gaynor xx
Hi Jude,
I have been so near to failing recently, and as with you it is all down to the demon drink. Should I stop or at least cut down my drinking, hell yes, but I never do. Also for me it is not just the drinking, it is the drinking plus the opportunity, if I am at home (no fags) I can drink away, however at my friends house (OH smokes) I have ended up smoking :mad:.
Don't have any answers, but I do know that both you, me, Gaynor, KK and many others are all capable of this.
Wish me Happy Birthday for tomorrow and wish me luck with my birthday nights out (going out Thursday with OH, Friday with girls and Saturday with neighbours and going in the Priory on Sunday!)
Sending all my spare will power a huge hug and when I work out how to post pics on my Mac book will send some wit too.
Its good to see you again though Jude! Remember. You are giving nothing up, only becoming free xxxx
Happy Birthday for tomorrow Bev! And thankyou for the cat thread, i am truly delighted!!!
Sparky, I know the pain. Having said that once you get past a few months, it becomes much, much easier. At about six months, i can safely say i hardly thought about the blighters at all- conversely making me think that i was now "cured" of my cigarette addiction, and i could have just one or two.......
Fi, congrats on 2 years (not jealous at all!!!) you deserve a good celebration. Is Hubby still smoking? In which case you deserve a medal.
I do feel positiveish at the mo, KK and gaynor, we will manage to do this.
And Bless Pol, Pol is even prepared to eat a rollmop herring in my honour if i reach six months......
