been a pondering again

A bit down the line now and all the reasons I quit are strong still.

but been a pondering again on how I have got here after smoking soo long.

I remember my old dog preferring to lie in the sun -head on paws just thinking -and so I did the same today:):) better than the ironing I figured.

nobody in my adult life [apart from work when I never smoked ] has ever hugged me or been close without me stinking of smoke. that is appalling.

I remember my mum smelling sweet with perfume. My boys will remember me in years to come when they get the whiff of cig smoke .:mad:

very ashamed -and I cant change that now.

I admonished my younger son for spending ridiculous amounts of money on his future wedding last night . He always appears when I have done supermarket shop and thinks the bargains are buy one -give one to J free.

he looked at me and said -how much have you spent over 36 years on white cancer sticks mother?

I was quiet then.

hope this helps some of you young ones with families .

it shut me up for a while :(

but better late than never eh??

xx

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  • A bit down the line now and all the reasons I quit are strong still.

    but been a pondering again on how I have got here after smoking soo long.

    I remember my old dog preferring to lie in the sun -head on paws just thinking -and so I did the same today:):) better than the ironing I figured.

    nobody in my adult life [apart from work when I never smoked ] has ever hugged me or been close without me stinking of smoke. that is appalling.

    I remember my mum smelling sweet with perfume. My boys will remember me in years to come when they get the whiff of cig smoke .:mad:

    very ashamed -and I cant change that now.

    I admonished my younger son for spending ridiculous amounts of money on his future wedding last night . He always appears when I have done supermarket shop and thinks the bargains are buy one -give one to J free.

    he looked at me and said -how much have you spent over 36 years on white cancer sticks mother?

    I was quiet then.

    hope this helps some of you young ones with families .

    it shut me up for a while

    but better late than never eh??

    xx

    Great post Sky ....just brings it all home doesn't it ................... never too late to quit Sky .... So come on sky give us one of your big smiles your a non smoker now :)

  • Hello Sky my friend

    Great post and an even greater reminder of why we're doing this - dawned on me a while ago that everyone I've ever met in my adult life only knows me as a smoker - it's not a good thought. It's never too late Sky and now you'll be remembered for a being a sweet smelling lady :)

    I always thought that's what the bargains round my mum's were for too - buy one and pookie gets one free :D

  • a silver lining:D:D

    showed my long suffering oh these replies -and suggested I should have a nice new perfume for my pain.

    He is thinking body spray 2 for a pound in poundland:eek:

    I am off to house of fraser tomorrow and will enjoy.;)xx

  • a silver lining:D

    showed my long suffering oh these replies -and suggested I should have a nice new perfume for my pain.

    He is thinking body spray 2 for a pound in poundland:eek:

    I am off to house of fraser tomorrow and will enjoy.;)xx

    I like Mr Sky's way of thinking :D.............

  • Mr Skylark wants to meet you for a pint of real ale sometime:mad:

    you seem to have a lot in common.:eek:

    but his wallet is going walkabout next week regardless.

    cos I am sooo worth it.

    and we have new pc today -hurrah!!!!

    old dogs -and new tricks springs to mind ;)

  • Skylark, the smelling of smoke thing was really a big bother to me for ages. I just hated the thought of my little ones smelling smoke on me. I'd go outside for a ciggy and before any of them came anywhere near me, I'd scrub my hands and suck mints (while I was outside I'd wear an old coat). Of course, none of that stuff made much difference as you can never get rid of the smell. I was just kidding myself.

    My younger children are 5 and 3 and since I quit I haven't stopped hugging and kissing them! It's fabulous not feeling guilty about the revolting fumes.

    My daughter often remarks on how lovely Mummy smells too :)

    (I think new expensive perfume is the least you deserve ;) )

  • Mr Skylark wants to meet you for a pint of real ale sometime:mad:

    you seem to have a lot in common.:eek:

    but his wallet is going walkabout next week regardless.

    cos I am sooo worth it.

    and we have new pc today -hurrah!!!!

    old dogs -and new tricks springs to mind ;)

    Buy him a nice pint of Boddy's beer none of this lager girls drink Sky:)

  • Love that post sky.....youve made me :) ....on a otherwise miserable day....Inspired to keep on going, maybe ill just smell of chocolate instead :D

    Thanks mate , i like your pondering :)

  • Glad i read this. Made me ponder for a moment there too. My kids really don't like the smell of 2nd hand smoke, they have been quite honest and said 'it stinks really bad mum!' :eek::( Like you i can't change it and yes we should smell like a bed of roses or J-Lo 'still' equally as nice when our love bundles want a cuddle but it can't be changed. Instead what we can do is make up for it. Some parents not only smell but neglect their kids and deprive them of cuddles etc, better to have pongy love than no love! :o

  • Hi Sky,

    Sorry just have to say on this thread...........probably wont make myself popular......but hey ho!!

    Smoking does not make you a bad parent or leave lasting negative memories! (in my opinion)! For me personally the smell of tobacco on someone reminds me of holding my mums hand when I was a child or being with a loving relative, didn't hold hands often so its a lovely memory! Having grown up surrounded by smoke it didnt even dawn on me that people stunk, it was just normal!!

    OK, now I am more clued up I realise it's not a good tradition to continue but I would never feel bad for the times I did smoke, same for you Sky, love and good parenting isn't exclusive to non smokers!!

    Oh and by the way, hubby should be heading straight to the Chanel counter at house of fraser..............walk straight on by the poundshop!! :D You're worth it!!

    Shelly XX

  • thank you all for replies :)

    and you are right that smoking doesnt make you a bad parent. I still wish though that when I am gone:eek:--the lads wont smell smoke and think aww our mum:)

    I have got hubbys bank card hidden -and now am cruising Jo Malones website .

    then I will go to Poundland;) have a nice weekend all xxx

  • Hi Sky,

    Hope you treat yourself to something really nice & sweet smelling to celebrate your quit, and yes, YOU DO DESERVE IT :D

    Gaynor x

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