How on earth

.....did I get to day 3. I really need some advice as I am really struggling. I don't want a cigarette I'm just really missing the experience of having a cigarette. Going outside and having 10 minutes peace and quiet to myself. I shouldn't need to go outside and have 10 minutes every couple of hours, I should be able to cope with my own children and husband without getting so wound up by things.

I'm using an inhalator and patches so am still getting a continuous hit of nicotine so how come I feel so angry and tearful????

I AM going to get through today and I know these feelings will subside but I feel that my family are having to live with the queen biatch from hell in the meantime and that isn't fair!!!!

Help?!

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  • .....did I get to day 3. I really need some advice as I am really struggling. I don't want a cigarette I'm just really missing the experience of having a cigarette. Going outside and having 10 minutes peace and quiet to myself. I shouldn't need to go outside and have 10 minutes every couple of hours, I should be able to cope with my own children and husband without getting so wound up by things.

    I'm using an inhalator and patches so am still getting a continuous hit of nicotine so how come I feel so angry and tearful????

    I AM going to get through today and I know these feelings will subside but I feel that my family are having to live with the queen biatch from hell in the meantime and that isn't fair!!!!

    Help?!

    Morning Becca

    firstly well done on getting to day 3 great news :)

    Becca you are still in the very early stages of your quit and it will get easier i promise you that, remember the craving s only last three minutes so when you first feel them coming on do somethign to keep you busy and take your mind of them , dont sit around worrying about them they will come either way. You cant go outside why? course you can go and get the ten mins to yourself anyway in spite of the fact you wont have a fag in your hand ...it's only a habit Becca a habit that needs to be replaced to stop that oh god i am missing something feeling..... hang in there Becca stay strong and keep telling yourself this is the right decsion because it is........:)

  • Hi Becca,

    Please dont panic about being a right old cow at home, I had horrendous moments, luckily kids are very forgiving, so are dogs!

    I get what you mean that you are actually not missing the smoking itself, more the habitual thing of it being a 5-10 minute realease every few hours! Yes I found those to be the worse craves, child nagging constantly, grumpy cave man OH moaning for his dinner, I would normally have had a quick fag and thought 'to hell with em' but when you quit you have to deal with that alone, no nicotene fix :eek:

    I dealt with it in many ways, initially I would shout back at them, or I would go outside with a straw and take deep inhalations as if to mimik smoking, sometimes downing a glass of wine to try and get some sort of buzz.........I realised none of those things were helping so now if I am under pressure I just ignore the perpetrators and carry on calmly what I am doing and somehow everyone now seems to realise that mummy is not to be messed with :p

    You will get through this and every day becomes a little easier, hang in there and you'll be fine

    Shelly xx

  • Champix day 3

    Hi Becca

    Congrats on your third day, yes it is hard, my third day too but with Champix, the hardest so far (a few cravings today) but then I know even if I smoke they won't taste the same, plus all the hard work so far (Champix day 16) many side effects, depression etc...

    You had already today two people giving you great advice and encouragement, it is hard in the beginning but things will get better. I have beaten nastier addictions over two years ago, so I know that in the early stages is crucial to keep using whatever replacement/blocking method and start getting into the clean/non-smoking frame of mind and soon that's what we will be used to, at least was like this with the other stuff and I'm sure it will be with nicotine.

    Age 39 - Started smoking at age 9

    On 20 cigs a day at 13 and over 30 for over two decades now.

    Many failed attempts with: gum/patches/zyban etc

    Champix: 65 hours nicotine free now (My longest nicotine free period in the past 26 years, if not longer). Is it possible to be depressed and happy at the same time? Yes :-)

    Just registered, glad you'll here to help others whilst helping yourselves.

    Thanks for sharing, stay focused and CIG FREE

  • I really sympathize :) I found being moody about it just made me worse, drinking made me evil :p so the only option i had was to 'TRY' & remain positive & remember why i wanted to quit. I would take little breaks on the backdoor step but i found myself gazing into space like some sort of sick puppy & if anyone was to interupt me i'd be a right snappy mofo!

    Somehow it gets better, it's hard to believe but it's true. I don't miss it at all, that feeling came around very quickly for me. Just be strong! I'm very strong minded these days to the point where i can't quite believe it myself, the power of your mind is an amazing thing if you can tune into it. I don't know...i just can't be doing with any crap be it people or substance or dodgy looking letuce lol.

    Good luck keep strong :cool:

  • Becca, the first few days of my quit i felt exactly the same as you. I would go out and stand for 5-10 minutes outside but instead of cigarette smoke i'd inhale deep breaths of fresh air. I might of been tempting fate because that's where i used to smoke and where the smokers would still be sometimes but being around smokers did not bother me.

    I'm on the 12th day of my quit now and i don't feel the urge to go outside quite as often as i did before. The feelings will pass, you just need to give yourself time.

    And congrats on the quit. You are doing great!

  • dodgy looking letuce

    "I don't know...i just can't be doing with any crap be it people or substance or dodgy looking letuce lol."

    Lol Fallingangel, I couldn't put it any better growing increasingly wary of "dodgy looking letuce" and any other veggies myself.:rolleyes:

    Day 3 went well after all :D

    A little psychological trick around "trying", trying means very little if anything.

    I'm not trying to stop or staying smoke free, did that a few times and never worked.

    I have stop and am staying smoke free. Simply, trying means a decision was not made yet. Its like when I'm walking or driving if I'm trying to stop, I'm potentially on a collision course still.

    Thanks for all the insights shared on this forum.

    Stay focused and cig free :)

    ----

    Quit: 15/06/10 11.00pm

    Method: Champix

    26 years plus of 20/30 day

  • Hi Becca I am sorry that I missed your call for help and have only just posted, you are probably ok by now but why should you feel guilty for wanting a bit of me time, do you think none smokers are always happy to be with their kids 24/7 without a break, I dont think so and Im sure that if you found it helped to go outside and have 10 mins when you smoked why cant you do the same now even though you dont smoke, take time out for yourself you deserve it and it will make the habit of smoking which is what you are missing not seem so bad, when we quit at first we feel deprived which is what we are and it can feel realy bad but time heals and we start to except the fact that we dont do the cig thing any longer, I dont think I ever realy missed the nicco bit but I missed the actual process of rolling and lighting my cigs and the hand to mouth thing, make sure you keep hydrated and sipping iced water is good for craves, take care.

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