So my previous post was regarding to me and my partner quitting smoking cold turkey when I was 19 weeks pregnant (Im 31 weeks now) so we quit 3 months ago.
Anyway I caught him out wednesday just gone having 3 drags on a butt end I meant to have binned, he had recieved some bad news and caved and had. Feeling guilty he promised he wouldnt have any more and was still quitting because he didnt want to smoke.
Last night he was at band (his hobby) and when he came home I could smell smoke I went straight to his car and sure enough there was that familiar smell. He kept lying to me saying he hadnt smoked but I told him to give me some credit as I really am not stupid and just to come clean, still he lied.
I broke down in tears that he was lying (more now than what he had actually done) and then he confessed to smoking one in the car the previous night, thursday. He told me he bought a pack of 10 smoked 1, felt guilty and threw the rest away out the car window.
I now know he's smoking again even if its 1 a day he's smoking, he's lied to me about it when I thought we had an honest relationship, and I dont think he binned the pack at all on Thursday which is why I think he still smoked yesterday because his car stank like it was fresh (not from the previous day) and so he is still lying about that.
We argued all last night and this morning with me in hysterics and crying because I quit too and because Im pregnant its harder for me. He can smoke and only damage himself.
I am so upset now at the fact he was sneaky and lied about it and he seems kind of sorry but in other ways trying to blame it on bad news he had weds etc but when I turned it around saying I get stressed with the kids, work etc I dont go light up he knew he couldnt argue back.
He bought me flowers (as if that would make it alright) and has said sorry but him being out today I do in my heart of hearts know he will smoke even though he says I wont because I dont want to, and regardless of if I smell it or not he will deny it because he prooved last night he is capable of lying to me.
Ive told him I know he will smoke and rather than lie to just be honest and tell me because although Im still annoyed with him smoking again the lying and sneaking hurt me so much more that I asked him to just go do what he wants smoke but to tell me and be honest. He just keeps saying but I wont because I dont want to (which he said weds and then went and did it)!
I dont know what to do. I know I cant make him stop smoking if he is going to start again which I think he has, but how can I get him to be honest about it rather than lie to my face????