Emotional

Start of my 3 month today and I’m struggling badly with my emotions, not moody or angry just tearful, at anything, happy/sad/stressful. I started St Johns Wort last week hoping this would help.

I don’t feel I’m craving, just thoughts which I think I am controlling but the tears I can’t.

Any advice would be appreciated.

I have been browsing for a while and must comment on how supportive you all are.

Thanks in advance

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  • Not sure what to say Beth...I think a lot of us have (or have had) the same feelings a lot of late. It might be the "terrible 3's" it might be something different. I can't say much more than you should just stick with it, it will probably pass.

    This is a good article on your quit and why it might cause depression:

    fortunecity.com/millennium/...

    You're not alone in feeling down, although you sound like it might be a bit more severe than most. However, it's likely it will pass!

  • Welcome

    Well done on 3 months and welcome to the forum Beth.

    This is a great place to be for support or just to take your mind off things.

    Sorry I can't help with the tears, but check out the general forum and I'm pretty sure you'll find something to laugh at.

    Take care....

  • Hi Beth welcome to the tears, I too have been more tearfull since the start of my month 3 but into month four and things are picking up.

    I cant say I have ever been a cryer so found it a bit of a shock and thought it was depression but talking to others it seems its just a thing that affects some and not others, mine lasted about 2 weeks so hopefully yours will be about the same and you will come through and feel better.

    You are doing really well and should be feeling some of the benefits of quitting by now, are you exercising any more than before the quit? it is so much better if you can get fitter at the same time, my downfall at the start was the chocs and unhealthy eating which I had never found to be a problem for me so now on a diet as well which is getting me down more than the quit.

    If you need to chat there are so many on site and it makes a brilliant support system which you probably already realise with the answers and if you struggle pm people and will get help there as well .

    We are all quittings so anything you are suffering absolutely sure some one else will have gone through it as well.

    Good luck in your quit and again well done

  • Hi and welcome to the forum. Month three can be a bit of a pig in all honesty for some people. There seems to be a '3' sticking point! I would just advise that you try and go with it, your emotions can be all over the place, sometimes due to smoking, sometimes just from normal everyday life, However, I found out in June last year (4 months quit at that time) that I had forgotten how to take time out for myself. When I smoked I would use that time to take a break from my job, my noisy children and just life in general. Quitting smoking made me lose my way. I was told by a professional to do one kind thing a day for myself and it worked. Good luck and post on here. That can also help!

  • Thank you all for your speedy reply, I think I have just got bogged down with the negatives and I have forgotten the positive steps that I have taken.

    Munter SP - thanks for the link, made sense to me

    Aleksandr - I will try and laugh more, good tonic thanks

    jamangie - I have started going out for a walk which I would never have done when I was smoking - maybe I need to do more, will try, thanks

    fiona - Time out? what is that haha, probably whats wrong, no ME time and too much time to think

    The benefits far outweigh the negatives so "kick up the b*m" for me and move forwards into my 3rd month with pleasure instead of "in tears"

    Thanks all

  • Beth you are so welcome sweetheart and it WILL get better I promise, I dont know how old you are but I have always been a sofa bunny and at my age (over 21 LOL) found it hard to motivate myself to get out and walk but when you get used to it its great, but if you are not used to it take it easy to begin with and start by 15 to 30 mins a day and before long you will be marathon running like some others on here xx

  • hey Beth

    If you've just started St Johns Wort, hang in there, it takes a couple of weeks to work

    Vix x

  • Beth, I too felt very similar around that time and started taking Omegas and then St John Wort in addition and took up exercise.

    Whether it was one or a mix of those or just time I feel so much better now.

    Hang in there and stay strong, it passes :)

  • wow

    I dont think you are alone there. Maybe that is what im going through. I have been completely and utterly stressed out lately.. every little thing is setting me off at work. My boss says im like a time bomb waiting to go off.. personally i put it down to the fact that he is a tw*t and is stressing me out.. lol

    I dont normally get that stressed out but im at the end of my teather at work at the moment..

    Im sure it will pass.. hang in there.. we can get through it together xxxx

    I have not smoked for 2 Months, 4 Weeks, 22 hours, 12 minutes and 10 seconds (87 days). I have saved £311.90 by not smoking 1,055 cigarettes. I have saved 3 Days, 15 hours and 55 minutes of my life. My Quit Date: 03/01/2010 18:20

  • Hi Beth,

    Awwww, sorry you are feeling so emotional at the moment. Everyone has given you lots of good advice so I won't bore you & repeat it ;)

    Just to let you know we are all with you & always hear to help if you need to shout, laugh or cry. OK?

    Gaynor x

  • Start of my 3 month today and I’m struggling badly with my emotions, not moody or angry just tearful, at anything, happy/sad/stressful. I started St Johns Wort last week hoping this would help.

    I don’t feel I’m craving, just thoughts which I think I am controlling but the tears I can’t.

    Any advice would be appreciated.

    I have been browsing for a while and must comment on how supportive you all are.

    Thanks in advance

    Hi Beth

    I went through exactly the same my love, can I suggest you double dose the SJW for a couple of weeks, this should speed the process. I promise this depression will pass, but I know it is very difficult. I know it sounds silly but comfort eating does help (the quit but not the waist line:o).

    Let me know if I can help at any time.

    Big hug

  • Now I know I am not alone with the emotional problem (was beginning to think I was going loopy).

    Today I feel so much more upbeat (no tears yet), could it be the St Johns Wort kicking in (I have doubled up today Christine42 thank you) or is it the fact that I wrote it down and made it real and got really good support and advice from you all.

    I will try and post here often as I really appreciate the help I have got and hopefully I can return it

    Thanks everyone

    Well done on your own quits x

  • Glad you are felling better Beth

    Good luck and hope the SJW kicks in real soon...

    xx

  • Beth, i want to add that i also had some 'emotional' and depressed times around month 3-5, and it was indeed a help when i used the St. Johns Wort, there are many other different herbal treatments you can use too, but one thing i can add is that you should take more time outs for yourself.. time where you put on some of the most chilled out music you can and just relax and actually feel.. free.

    Life and all it chucks at us is stressful, and we as people don't take enough time out to properly relax.

    Find some chilled out music on youtube.. perhaps go on a youtube adventure finding all kinds of nice music.. just enjoy yourself, and you will smile again soon.

    j

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