Need all the support I can get right now!

Well tomorrow I am quitting smoking, have wanted to for a while just not had the guts.. scared of the first few weeks to be totally honest!

I really want to now.. n am as prepared as I can be for the upcoming challenges!


But I'm scared.. not worried.. just scared.. tried quitting before n got really emotional.. cried for hours on n off for days.. couldnt sleep, wouldnt talk to anyone.. but I plan on it being different this time, I have planned to go out tomorrow.. I just know I definately will crash n burn if I stay indoors!

I have tried quitting several times, the first time I had patches n I couldnt sleep on a night unless I took it off but I was prescribed the 16 hour patches n doc said best have it on at night, then tried the gum and thats just awful!

so this time im going cold turkey! Gonna be hard but Im gonna do this!!

Just had to write this somewhere so I can come back to it n read x

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  • You can do it!

    Hi Anna,

    Great that you have made the choice to try again ... keep positive and just ride with it.

    Alan Carr Book "The Easyway to stop smoking" will help you get in the right mindframe and actually understand what a ridiculous addiction this is.

    You will get plenty of suport on here ... I have found it fantastic.;)

    I too have gone the cold turkey route so please feel free to ask me anything you like along the way ... be prepared, it ain't pretty for a bit but worth it in everyway, everyday.

    Keep posting.

    Good luck on day one!


  • Cold turkey

    Hi Anna,

    Poor you, you sound desperate. I have also tried all the NRT available in the past to no avail. This time on Champix and I feel it really has helped, it takes the edge off the withdrawal but you still need the willpower. It suits me because the NRT did not agree with me and I always used this as an excuse to go back on the cigs. I am only on day 6 but feeling quite positive after communicating on this site.

    I'm sure you have already done so, but I found it really helpful reading the messages on the forum. Everyone is so supportive and really know what this addiction is like.

    Good luck tomorrow, hope to hear from you at end of your day 1.

    Maymee xx

  • awww thanks.. well everyone knows im quitting so they know what to expect! and I have been sat here reading away at all the threads which makes me even more adament to do it!

    I was searching google for forums.. so I can post how im feeling from day to day n if im struggling when a craving passes my way I can just come on n type the craving away - this is my plan anyways! plus thought it would be nice to have support and support other quitters :D


  • the road to smoke free is lined with non smokers

    Hi Anna I am glad you have joined this forum to help support you through the quit you will not regret it, I want give you loads of links to other sites you will find plenty of them on other threads when you are scanning through.

    I also want tell you that it will be easy because then you would become upset and think you were the only one who was struggling and yet we all struggle in different ways and to different degrees, your quit is yours and yours only so if you want to wallow in self pity then you go for it or if you want to fly a kite then that is also ok, see its what floats your boat and carrys you through to the other end.

    We will always be here to hold a hand out to pull you along the road to smoke free, and remember as we have all been on the road a couple more weeks than you we know IT DOES GET BETTER and you will feel better, smell better and look better.

    Have a good quit and remember the good and bad bits because you should never have to this again andyou shouldnt want to xx

  • hi Anna :)

    Welcome to your day one please don't be scared I promise it's doable for all of us if we want it enough

    Below is my standard welcome and advice post which I try and give all new members

    Welcome to the forum and well done on the decision to quit possibly one of the most important you will ever make and you will be losing nothing but you will regain control of your life and that has to be good

    You will find all the help and support you need on here as we all help each other just like a family we are here for you every step of the way cheering the good days and sympathising with the bad but the good far outweigh the bad

    Read the posts on here you will find a lot of tips and advice and in the signatures of a lot you will find links to other sites just click on them Here are 2 I find very good to start you off and Read, read and then read some more as the more you read and learn about why you smoked and about your addiction the easier your quit will be

    This link is good for the psychological part of quitting

    Post often to let us know how you're doing, to rant, rave have a moan whatever you like pretty much anything goes on here OK



  • this time im going cold turkey! Gonna be hard but Im gonna do this!!

    It’s truthfully only as hard as you intend to make it.

    Being scared too is a bit like fear of the unknown. Once you really know what you face then it becomes easier to deal with it.

    You can make it far easier once you really understand why you smoked.

    Slowly but surely the world will wake up to realise this sad, but never the less true, fact. It’s easier to quit when you know why you smoke and you don’t smoke for nicotine.

    If you believe you’re a nicotine addict and you’re going to suffer when you quit then it won’t come as a surprise then if you quit and suffer.

    If you think back to when you were a smoker I’m sure there were some cigarettes that you really smoked from tip to filter and others that burnt away in ash-trays or others you were keen to put out, ones that you forgot you were smoking or ones you lit up within minutes of putting one out. If you’re honest with yourself you’ll very quickly realise that very few fags were smoked to satisfy any craving for nicotine. Most fags just filled little holes in our lives, hid social embarrassment and eased a little boredom. Admittedly some were smoked to replenish your nicotine levels but the number was very few.

    Sure, there’s summat in tobacco that physically effects us so that when we stop there are physical side-effects but minimising those effects are not the reason we smoked. Like standing on a drawing pin and then having to remove it or taking off a plaster you have to tolerate a small amount of pain to get better and the fact that we’ve conditioned ourselves to tolerate a level of poison in our system means it’s slightly uncomfortable when we stop.

    That physical discomfort however can be pretty much erased over the course of a long weekend.

    That is fact. Your bond with nicotine is that feeble. The addiction you think you have is merely a level of poison flowing through your system. Unlike many true addictions you can just cease your intake at any point and suffer nothing more than a minor physical reaction. There’s no need to crawl the walls or suffer. The mental withdrawal is the bit you need to prepare for.

    The small print for all the smoking cessation stuff, requires willpower, is the bit that really matters and the more you appreciate the futility of smoking the less willpower you actually need. Willpower isn't gritting your teeth and dragging yourself through it but it's like that bit in Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade where he makes the 'leap of faith' over the chasm. Bowel looseningly scary unless you know there's a bridge under your feet!

    Stopping our compulsive habit can take years to achieve and that is pretty much what we battle with from day 3 onwards. That’s what taps us on the shoulder when we’re drunk or calls at us from the shelves in the newsagent when we’re stressed, it’s not nicotine. Lying in the continental sun with a beer in one hand just needs the balancing fag in the other but it’s not nicotine that wants the equation balanced, it’s just your head.

    It’s easy to keep smoking when you can blame a fictitious cause and easier to justify a slip too. Once you accept that smoking just fills little holes in our lives, and they’re holes that we create, it’s far easier to find something else to plug the holes or even eradicate them altogether.

    Cold Turkey quitting is straightforward and well documented, don’t be scared.

    You stop, suffer a weekend of feeling niggled, a week or two of flu like feelings and then a weird but constant feeling like something's missing out of your life for a few months as you get to grips with thinking you should be doing something else and it turns out the ‘something else’ is just the smoking you're missing.

    Yes the first weekend can be unpleasant but, and it’s a massively important but, the other quitters, on whatever drugs they choose to help, suffer the same unpleasantness or worse. Once your blood / oxygen levels increase you end up with a regular spaced-out feeling and bizarre dreams for a week or two. Expect them and they cease to be scary or an excuse for relapse.

    You will never be free until you accept that you had a nasty compulsive habit and the cure is already inside you. Educate yourself and flick your internal smoking switch to off. Support, advice and experience are the tools you need and there’s a big chunk of that here.

    Don’t be afraid, jump in, the water is simply divine.

    Stay strong. :)

  • Excellent post austinlegro. thank you.

  • austinlegro ty so very much for that post.. I have had a very long day... but didnt reach for a cig once am very proud of myself.. ! x

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