Day 12… not feeling too awful, although tetchier than I was in week 1, weirdly…. I suppose the novelty value is beginning to wear off!
I could really do with some advice on how to deal with my (smoking) other half. We started the quit together but he had a ‘blip’ (well, two blips) on day 2, then folded completely on day 4. He said it’s not the right time for him, and I have to respect that, but I feel kinda let down by him as this was a promise we made to each other – am probably being unreasonable, but that’s how it feels. I think he feels bad about it as he has not been very supportive (thank the lord for you lot! :D) – he tends to be like that when he feels he’s in the wrong!
There’s quite a bit of history to this – there have been at least three occasions where we’ve quit and he’s started again. In fairness, so did I, in time, but I wonder if it would have been different if he hadn’t started? I know it’s my decision, but I found it hard to be around him smoking and drinking, and the latter eventually led to the former.
It’s getting to the point now where it’s difficult to believe him when he says he wants to, as he doesn’t seem to prepare himself for it, so I don’t really feel that he means it. He’s decided to take the ‘cutting down’ route for now – fine, as he does seem able to cope like that, and only smokes about 5 a day. He has been good about not smoking around me so far, but I’m not sure how long this will last. He has also been quite pointed about how it was more important for me to give up than him, as he is naturally a light smoker, whereas I was a very heavy smoker.
Last Friday, at the end of my first week, I wanted to celebrate in any other way than the pub – but we ended up at the pub cos he wanted to go. Have to admit, I did find this unsupportive, but maybe I’m not thinking too clearly at the moment…
How can I make sure I succeed going out with a smoker?? Help!
Thanks for listening, over and out….