my girl is motivation

Hello to one and all!,

I'm new on this and would just like to express the reason why i'm starting to think that it would be the best thing ever, to quit!.

And that reason being, my 3 year old girl. I saw her the other day with a pencil in between her fingers and doing like 'mummy' does.

That really shocked me and and to be honest, freaked me out. I don't want my girl to grow up and smoke! i don't want her to smell like i do and wake up with a cough thats as nasty as.......well, you know.

And more to the point, i can't let here be around my smoke and in that envirement.

So, do u know think this is a great reason to stop?? so how come i'm still smoking??

I would love to read about what you guys think and your motivations.

Bye bye for now!.


13 Replies

  • hi mimi

    hi mimi, i just read youre post & yeah i must agree that i would too be horrified if my children did that with a pencil..i would feel ashamed & hearbroken & everything you have just said you feel -- but for me personally i would then probably continue to smoke in secret & not near the children or around them which in turn gives you reasons to continue (out of sight) .... personally that would put added pressure on a quit doing it for someone else .. but whatever works is good & whatever you feel comfortable with..

    i am doing the quit for me otherwise it would just cause resentment maybe? ...

    anyhow a big welcome & good luck in what you decide to do x

    ps try reading the allen carr book quit smoking the easyway even if you dont quit with it, it is such a great read & a great inspiration

  • Hiya mimi. Even starting to think about quitting shows that you're on step 1.. admitting there's a problem. I think your little girl and the lessons that you're teaching her are very important. I grew up in a house of smokers but I didn't become a smoker because my family smoked in front of me it's more about what friends do than family so don't worry too much.

    You've got to quit for more reasons that just your daughter, read up about nicotine addiction and like kitkat said Easyway is a good read to get you motivated. Nicotine is an addiction and that's why we've all smoked even though we know a million reasons not to. Smokers aren't stupid people we're just dependent ;) Good luck and I swear that all the trouble of quitting is worth it. I'm 28 days in and feeling fantastic :D

  • The gift of life

    ................Is what you have already given to your daughter. The gift of giving her a smoke free environment & a smoke free mum (&maybe dad) is now in your hands.

    THAT is your motivation ?????

    Love Gaynor xxxx

  • Hi Mimi :D

    Welcome to the forum and well done on the decision to quit possibly one of the most important you will ever make and you will be losing nothing but you will regain control of your life and that has to be good

    You will find all the help and support you need on here as we all help each other just like a family we are here for you every step of the way cheering the good days and sympathiseing with the bad but the good far outweigh the bad

    Read the posts on here you will find a lot of tips and advice and in the signatures of a lot you will find links to other sites just click on them Here are 2 I find very good to start you off and Read, read and then read some more as the more you read and learn about why you smoked and about your addiction the easier your quit will be

    That's a great reason to quit well done

    Post often to let us know how you're doing, to rant, rave have a moan whatever you like pretty much anything goes on here OK

    Best Wishes

    Marg xxxxxxxx

  • Hi Mimi,

    I think anyone with children has the best reason in the world to quit smoking. I grew up without a father (not due to smoking though) so I know how awful that can be. Please don't put your life at risk and leave your little girl without a mother.

    I don't have my own kids but I stopped almost as soon as my sister gave birth to her little boy - I knew I wanted to see him grow up and be there for him.

    You have the best reason in the world to quit - if I can do it anyone can!

  • Morning to you all!!,

    I really enjoyed reading yout thoughts and coments, thank you all for the support and i can feel that this is truely gonna help me!!! my girl and possative words from you all.

    Thankfully, my wee one does'nt see me smoking that often as i'm more of an evening smoker so she's either in bed or i'm hiding in the kitchen. But,, i think she may see her daddy smoke alot. That is,, when they see each other. Any how, if i can help towards her not seeing me smoke and giving her a chance to never even want to try, then thats a good thing but as many of you have said, it was'nt always down to seeing your folks smoke that gave you the idea and if i remember rightly, it was'nt for me either.

    I hope your all doing well and not letting the basta**s grind you down

    Thanks to all!


  • Oh I hear Ya!

    Hi Mimi, kids are a huge motivating factor as well. 4 boys 8 and under. We didn't smoke in the house or car but we did smoke in front of them. I quit during all my pregnancies.....only to start up again.

    Lets see....

    My 8 year old kept telling me how bad it was for me.

    My 6 year old kept asking why we smoked so much and then he would pretend like he was smoking.

    My 4 year old said he liked the smell

    and my 2 year old would smell the ashtray and say Yum.

    And if that isn't bad mom has emphesemia...she quit 16 years ago.....and My FAL died from pnuemonia...he had artery problems from years of smoking.

    I was a closet smoker and tired of hiding from 1/2 the people I knew.

    I hated the smell and I hated the way it made me feel esp.....when exercising!

    The list could go on!


  • Hi Hanna,

    I know it's not funny but i had a little chuckle when i read that one of kids 'smells the ashtray and says yum':D

    So what i'd like to know is weather you have stopped smoking or not? I still havn't!! how bad!:eek: But i have cut down alot. I know this deos'nt make things any better as the goal is to give up totally.

    I still need other motivations i think. Stupid is'nt is it? but hey, i guess time will tell.

    Please stay inn touch, i'd love to hear how things are going.


  • Hi Mimi :D

    Sorry you haven't managed to stop completely just yet but you've cut down a lot and that must be better for you

    You'll stop when you're ready just as we all did


    Marg xxxxxx

  • Hi Mimi,

    I listed my children as the main reason I was going to quit smoking. I smoked for thirty years and have three kids. They were forever at me about my smoking. My daughter especially, she’s ten, was very anti smoking.

    It was one of the driving forces that as seen me through the last six weeks. The delight on my daughters face when I announced I was quitting, is something I will never forget and something that I cherish.

    I hope your quit goes well, it can be done, I never thought I could make it this far. If I can so can you.

    Regards stateofgrace

  • Thanks Marg,

    I know, still havn't quit and feeling a bit shitty about it today, almost guilty you know?

    When i read about all the others that have started and getting there and feeling better ect..... i'm asking myself "why havn't i started, what am i waiting for?" I have been reading alot this morning and i think i will do this with champix, otherwise i don't think i'll ever start.

    How are you doing??


  • Hi Mimi :D

    All the reading you're doing will help a lot

    I used champix and found it really good and a huge help I'd tried before loads of times and nothing worked for me whatever I used until champix

    So go see your Dr/Nurse and lets get you started

    I'm doing just fine thanks for asking


    Marg xxxxxxxx

  • A blog!

    Hi everyone,

    And Marg, thanks for the advice.

    I just wanted to tell you all that i wrote a small blog on ''

    I would be intersted to know what you all think as you can leave comments.

    I will continue writing it once i have something to talk about hahaha!!

    Stay in touch and speak soon


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