I have given up smoking....again

On Sunday, this time cold turkey, the only reason I have not gone out and bought a packet is because i have felt so awful that it seems pointless to give up and have to start again at some future point.....

I have been having strange thoughts for example last night I had pretty much decided that as a person has to die of something I may aswell start smoking again so at least I will 'die happy'. My boyfriend who has given up with me thinks I have lost the plot, I cannot say I disagree with him....

I am 42 and have been smoking since I was about 16. Today my thoughts are: isn't it a shame that cigerettes are so bad for you....

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  • Hi,

    the clue to your thoughts are in the title I reckon. 'given up' . Allen carr would say that to say you have given up would show there is something worthy of giving up. There is not. Its not a precious thing. Its not something that makes your life more exciting or interesting. Look on it as choosing not to smoke and try to read some of information provided in the links. It helped change my view on quitting. Be strong and try to be positive.

  • Positive Thoughts

    Yeah Positive thoughts are the key to a sucessfull quit.....

    Take small steps and before u know it you will be counting in weeks instead of days... Good Luck Kaz :D

  • Hi Rivergirl :)

    Welcome to the forum and well done on the decision to quit possibly one of the most important you will ever make and you will be losing nothing but you will regain control of your life and that has to be good

    You will find all the help and support you need on here as we all help each other just like a family we are here for you every step of the way cheering the good days and sympathiseing with the bad but the good far outweigh the bad

    Read the posts on here you will find a lot of tips and advice and in the signatures of a lot you will find links to other sites just click on them Here are 2 I find very good to start you off whyquit.com and woofmang.com Read, read and then read some more as the more you read and learn about why you smoked and about your addiction the easier your quit will be

    Well done to you both on day 2, by tomorrow night the nicotine will be out of your systems for good just hang in there OK

    Post often to let us know how you're doing, to rant, rave have a moan whatever you like pretty much anything goes on here OK

    Best Wishes

    Marg xxxxxxxx

  • Thanks

    I have read Alan Carr and i did not smoke for about 3 months, stopped smoking on at least 3 other occasions for months using patches etc but have started again each time when i have let my guard down to have just a puff.....or just one cigerette...

    I call it giving up smoking because I am forcing myself to stop doing something (for the cost and the sake of my health) and I now can't stop thinking about it...not only that....I realise I can never let myself get complacent or ever, ever let myself smoke again or be around people who do...

  • Hi Rivergirl :D

    While very true that you should never get complacent and shouldn't have just ane pudd or one fag you may well suprise yourself

    It is after a relatively short time to be around people who smoke and it won't bother you, most of my friends smoke and it doesn't bother me in the slightest although it did for a couple or three weeks after that I only noticed the awful smell

    And like you I had tried and failed more times than I care to remember

    Love

    Marg xxxxxxxx

  • Marg, you are like a little positive beacon and I can see I am feeling a bit sorry for myself :D

  • Hi rivergirl your thoughts are normal hun, to me it was like losing my best pal. You'll soon get over them negative thoughts and yes you're right about our loverly Marg ;) xx.

  • Don't let Quit Mummy Marg hear you say that. She is known to have a very good aim with her foot. :D

    Tell me about it!!!!! She gave me a right kick up the back side a few weeks ago with her steel toe caps :eek:

  • Hi Rivergirl

    Well done for stopping smoking.

    You say you might as well die of something and die happy, but I can honestly tell you, you do not want a smoking related disease and it will make you very unhappy. You have made the right choice never doubt your decision.

    Good luck.

    Jackie

  • Don't let Quit Mummy Marg hear you say that. She is known to have a very good aim with her foot.

    Hi Caroline :D

    Well it worked didn't it :p

    Love

    Quit mummy Marg xxxxxxxxx

    Quote Mel<Tell me about it!!!!! She gave me a right kick up the back side a few weeks ago with her steel toe caps >Quote

    Hi Mel :D

    Sorry forgot I had them shoes on at the time and I did say I'd wear slippers if you needed another kick didn't I?????? ;)

    Love

    Marg xxxxxxxxxxxxx

  • Today my thoughts are: isn't it a shame that cigerettes are so bad for you....

    1st off congrats on the quit :)

    2nd Don't worry about it, just stay strong and before too long you will be thinking "Isn't it a shame that I let nicotine have such control over my life for so long" and "isn't it great being a non smoker!"

    All the best

    Nic

  • Hi Rivergirl

    Well done for stopping smoking.

    You say you might as well die of something and die happy, but I can honestly tell you, you do not want a smoking related disease and it will make you very unhappy. You have made the right choice never doubt your decision.

    Good luck.

    Jackie[/QUOTE

    I can honestly say no i do not want to get any smoking related disease or in fact any which end life before grand old age as from what I have seen anything which ends life early, ususally, to say the least is not pleasant.

    I was poking fun at myself for the ways my brain has been 'creatively thinking' of ways to 'get out of' not smoking - it appears addiction is a kind of madness.

  • Hi Rivergirl, well done on making the decision to quit, and as for all those thoughts your having, they are normal it is your addiction trying to control you when you have chosen to let go. Those thoughts off i "i might as well die of something" or "its not the right time" or maybe even "im not strong enough" these are all just thoughts and at first for some people including me, they controlled all of my thinking time, but as the days pass, these thoughts get less and less and are replaced by more positive ones like "i will not smoke today" "i can do this" "i am doing this", and you will begin to feel much better about your quit, but whatever your thoughts are come on here and posts and all these lovely people will be here to help and support you!

    take care, x

    tracy21

  • I was poking fun at myself for the ways my brain has been 'creatively thinking' of ways to 'get out of' not smoking - it appears addiction is a kind of madness.

    Addiction is a funny thing. People didn't believe me before when I said to them that my brain is trying to trick me into smoking. It uses all kinds of devices from flashing images of you sitting having a cigarette to doom and gloom you'll never be the same again type of things. I know exactly what you mean and those tricks suck. I'm on my first patch and can honestly say that my brain hasn't tried to trick me at all today (so far). Don't give in.. and do what I'm doing.. look around the forum and keep yourself as busy as possible and before you know it the hours will have flown by. All the best to you :)

  • Stick with it!

    Hi,

    I quit cold turkey last week, I've had peaks and troughs - really if you read my thread about last night when I had wine on it's own (in other words without the dreaded cig) you'll see!

    Stick with it, I know it seems so hard but it's the best thing you can do, first week can be a little rough but I promise (from experiencing it at the moment!) you'll feel 100 times better and ready for week 2 (which WILL be a lot easier!)x

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