Sunken feeling....

[nsd_user663_4025]

Hi all,

Crazy last week! My parents are over looking after the kids, so if I haven't smoked with my mother anoying me....reason why I haven't been able to post either!

Well ,start of week 3 today and no cigarrettes. The problems is that I have this feeling that has started and will not go away...My husband took me away for a night yesterday, lovely hotel, meal, drinks...big problem, the room had a balcony in which I would have normally sat down with a drink and smoke, that was on the back of my mind all the time, I wanted to sit there and make the most of the lovely room, how silly. We also had quite a bit to drink so the thinking would not go away!!So, as I know I could not smoke I was in a horrible mood with my husband, we ended up arguing all the time and I know it was my fault! What can I do about it??

Also, now that the novelty of being a non smoker is wearing off, I just have this idea of just have one, just have one...I cannot get it out of my head!!

I am very down and depressed and also I am not feeling any benefits as I have had a cold for four weeks, coughing all the time, lots of headaches, so it is not very good.

I am also eating lots of chocolate and have put on three pounds which I cannot aford to as I am already one stone too heavy after having my son a year ago, this is the worst as my self confidence is going down so my bad moods are getting worse.

Sorry for the long winded e-mail, as I don't know who else might be able to help.

Marta x

[nsd_user663_4082]

Hi

Sorry to hear your struggling. I felt like this a couple of days ago....thought I'd just light one up. I know what you mean you feel like you've given up, now you'll have one. Madness. This passed pretty quick for me, the next day I didn't get the feeling again. So try to ride it out.

As for the weight, I'm in the same boat...stone over my normal weight from pregnancy. I'm using this time to improve my eating habits & help my body repair itself! I know, sounds a bit hippy but working so far! I've started eating manuka honey, fruit, nuts etc. Taking vitamins as well. All part of the worship my temple mood I'm in. I have the odd treat as well, but if I go to the fridge I try getting something healty. Activia yoghurts good as it's fat free & tastes alright.

Have you read up on the psychology of smoking? It's all about the brainwashing monster. If you have, please ignore me, if not it might be worth a go. Explains how the addiction makes you feel how you are feeling.

Sorry I've no magic sentence to make you feel better. Not sure how Champix works so not in a position to comment.

Let me know how you get on x

[nsd_user663_4025]

Thanks, that helps. I need to go and buy a lot of healthy stuff and try to eat properly but as my parents have been here we have been eating out a lot and buying lots of naughty treats!

Hopefully it will pass as I cannot continue to eat the same amout of crap I have been eating.

Marta x

[nsd_user663_3707]

hi, sorry you're feeling the way you are , is it worth having a look at the champix side effects perhaps? i have read it can cause the feeling you are experiencing.

please dont give in after three weeks, you,d be so disappointed with yourself...is your husband supportive in your quit ?..... ask him to be so if he isnt already.........as for the weight , dont stress just yet, 3lbs is hardly a huge amount and think of the benefits to your health , not including your skin , hair , teeth etc....also just think how sweet you smell now !! :D.........tackle the weight issue later........

it may be worth reading suggested links here on the forum as suggested by wonderlung as it appears you are looking at not smoking as a sacrifice ( which i did also ) ....it also probably didnt help if you had been drinking, always a trigger for many ex smokers .........i wish you luck, let us know how you are feeling ......hugs carol-anne xx

[nsd_user663_3356]

Hi all,

Also, now that the novelty of being a non smoker is wearing off, I just have this idea of just have one, just have one...I cannot get it out of my head!!

I am very down and depressed and also I am not feeling any benefits as I have had a cold for four weeks, coughing all the time, lots of headaches, so it is not very good.

Marta x

Marta

dont worry about any of these symptoms. We have all experienced them one way or another.

Some of it is just your mind playing tricks on you. These "just the one" moments are what cause most people to start right back smoking again.

get through this and it will get a lot easier.

Surely a couple more weeks of feeling a bit "off" is worth it for the rest of your life as a non smoker.

Have a good read on whyquit about relapsing and then on woofmang for some inspiration.

Stay strong.

[nsd_user663_4025]

Thanks,

Yes, you are right, I think about the sacrifice, how enjoyable was a drink and a cigarette and now I haven't got it!

I haven't been very keen in reading the damages of smoking, it scares me, I know that is the idea but I am not mentally prepared for it, and I know I should

Marta x

[nsd_user663_4025]

Might be stating the obvious, but have you considered apologising?

No, I haven't apologised, which is bad!!! I think that he will not understand how difficult this is as he hasn't experienced it and that I am just making an excuse for being horrible.

Will go home and apologise, might feel better xx

[nsd_user663_4025]

Thanks,

I have got the message, as I was so wrapped up with my own problems, feeling sorry for myself about the smoking, eating too much, putting on weight I didn't stop and try to see it from his point of view.

A shame I ruined the perfect romantic getaway, which doesn't happen that often :mad:

[nsd_user663_3356]

Thanks,

Yes, you are right, I think about the sacrifice, how enjoyable was a drink and a cigarette and now I haven't got it!

I haven't been very keen in reading the damages of smoking, it scares me, I know that is the idea but I am not mentally prepared for it, and I know I should

Marta x

Hi Marta

whyquit does have a small amount of that on it BUT there is a huge amount more of information about helping top make your quit easier.

I dont like seeing images of the damage caused by smoking so i stayed well away from anything like that. But there is so much other stuff on whyquit that you dont need to see the bad stuff.

Give it a go.....you may find that it helps.

[NicFirth 10 Years Smoke Free]

Yes, you are right, I think about the sacrifice, how enjoyable was a drink and a cigarette and now I haven't got it!

Hi there, I can agree wholeheartedly that most of us have suffered similar worries and feelings of anger, depression, deprivation etc.

Some people will tell you there is nothing to sacrifice - there is no pleasure in smoking. There is a lot of truth in that, but no matter how small I do remember some cigarettes that I did enjoy.

However, the vast vast majority of cigarettes I smoked were to feed my addiction to nicotine. Enjoyment was of the situation not the cigarette.

The very very few occasions where I gained some small pleasure from the drug - the stimulant making my head spin for about 2 minutes - are so rare that they are hugely outweighed by the great increase in pleasure I have from not smoking, i.e. not being a slave to nicotine, not coughing my lungs up every morning, not stinking, not increasing my risk of a fatal disease, not sneezing while smoking and sending a lit cigarette onto my lap while driving :eek: etc. etc.

As John has said read through Whyquit, any bits that are unpalatable at the moment you can skip past you can go back to them later when you have the smug feeling of being a non smoker but just want to re-enforce your mindset. If your head is in the right place the rest will follow, I promise!

Best wishes

Nic

[nsd_user663_3728]

Hi Marta

I really can't add anything to what the others have said you have done really well to get this far, please don't give in now you would be so annoyed with yourself

But you really should read some of the stuff on here as both John and Nic have said Whyquit is a very good one and the more you read the better you will understand and the better you will feel and there are lots of other links at the bottom of posts all you have to do is click on them

Good Luck

Margaret

[nsd_user663_4025]

Thanks to you all, very helpful posts!!

Yes, I will give it a go and skip the bits that I am not ready about. I am sure it will help.

Been back home and cut lots of fruit and prepared a salad for tomorrow so I don't end up eating two bags of crisps and four (small) bars of chocolate as I did today, feeling much better, thanks to you all again

Marta xx

[nsd_user663_4026]

Hi Marta,

I read the woofmang.com link. There is a great article from a woman on a day 1 quit. It pretty much said welcome to hell. But in a truly positive way! I found that really good. The link is woofmang.com/tales/only_on_...

Keep going! You are doing really well and cannot give in, you are my day 16 buddy!! xxxxx