Moving on up! Who else with us on day 8, week 2!?

Hello there!

Calling all day-eighters. How are you all doing? We have made it to week 2! How great is that? :D

Hope you are all coping well. Yesterday was a pretty hard day for me as I went out to lunch with some friends (one of whom smokes, no smoking ban in Madrid!) and then in the evening out to a pub with others (both smoke). Drank beer with them and beat the urge to reach out and take one. In fact, because I knew that was going to be the situation, I felt it was under control, as if I was prepared for it. So it was hard, but tremendously rewarding afterwards :). Felt great about myself :cool:.

Back to work today!

Speak later, hope you're all doing well. Stay strong!

Elenita

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  • I'm here and feeling very proud of myself to have made it this far, I love my new smoke free 'sweeter smelling' life

    I know I'm still only at the beginning of this journey and I've got a long way to go yet and there's going to be bad days but they can't be worse than some of those last week and I battled through that and have come out the other side which has made me stronger, I feel confident I can fight off anything the Nicotine Monster wants to throw at me now

    Congrats to everyone else that's moved in to week 2 today.

  • Morning All

    Still here on Start of week two. Hope everyone is doing ok Linda xxxxxxxxxxxxx

  • Hey all you day eighters a big well done been following your progress and your all going great :)

  • yep here we are in day eight! who would have believed it?

    well done everyone - its an amazing achievement

    just think what we have cost the tobacco companies! ha ha

  • Im still here too :)

    Whatever we`re doing, we`re all doing the right thing so stick with it :)

  • I'm still here too. I am amazed at how many of us have made it. I do think its because we have each other and we are here talking and encouraging each other.

    I am ok. I dont want to smoke and I know this is what i want to do but i must admit i do feel pretty down:(

    My husband only made it to day 3 and i know this may sound silly but i feel like he is waiting for me to fail. He keeps saying he will try again when i have managed a year:confused: He even seems grumpy with me. So thats make me a bit miserable.

    Anyway i am back to work later today (i work in a special needs school) so that will take my mind off it for a few hours.

    Have a nice day everyone xx

  • Hey all still here

    Flippy course your husband wants u to fail - he cant be seen as being a feak and weeble man can he lol outdone by......a woman! gasp Keep goin girl superiority rules

    My hubby doesnt smoke cigies only cigars but dont get any well dones either would soon moan if i started again tho ;)

  • jo is so right! hold your head high and laugh in face of your mans failure x x had to giggle, during my nan's funeral, the vicar actualy said feak and weeble! rofl.

    I am still going strong too, actualy finding stress's distacting me from wanting to smoke atthe mo!

    my youngest has just started fulltime too! first time in near 16 years, I got the day to myself!

  • Hi Flippy,

    My BF only really made it to day 2, although did not start being open about it until days 3-4. My first reaction was to feel really angry and to think that I could never do it without him. I thought if he smoked I would cave in sooner or later. But then I realised I was just using him as a potential excuse and justification for failure. If I failed, I could always blame it on him or explain it by pointing to the fact that he failed. I realised that the whole point of this is that it's YOUR decision, NOT anyone else's. And you are in control, not anyone else.

    Sorry you're feeling down. And I know it may seem that your husband is "waiting for you to fail", but deep down he isn't really. He may be grumpy because he's angry at himself. Don't let your determination be affected!

    You are doing really, really, really well :).

    Hope you have a good day,

    Elenita

  • Hi all, haven't we all done well? :D Week 2 here we come. Bring on week 3. :D

    Josie

  • Thanks everyone, Your right he is feak and weeble.:)

  • Am so impressed with how many there are of you on day 8 - big congratulations to you all.

    I can remember being a bit narked when some of my smoking mates successfully stopped as then I had less excuses to use to convince myself that it was ok. Not that I'm saying it's ok for husbands to be unhelpful - just that I can see how it happens. Keep going strong and I bet he'll be so inspired it'll be less than a year before he joins you again.

  • I'm another one with a husband who fell at the first hurdle, I'm not sure exactly when he started smoking again but I first smelt it on him on Saturday (Day 5) I now suspect he was probably smoking earlier than this.

    We decided if we were going to quit we'd do it together, support each other through the hard times and congratulate each other on our achievements.

    And that's way I thought it was, that it was a joint effort so I was understandably shocked, angry, upset and sad when I realised that he'd made other decisions and had sneaked off for a fag and left me doing it on my own.

    I didn't say anything to him just pondered on what I should do about it. I must admit that my first reaction was .... to hell with it and if you're going to smoke then so am I .... then I realised that I actually really don't want to smoke and somehow finding out that he is and that he's 'feak and weeble' has made me stronger and more determined to beat it.

    I have decided not to let him know that I know because if his smoking is out in the open then it's going to make it harder for me. Although we haven't smoked in the house for several years now I would still have to contend with seeing him out in the garden lighting up, maybe I'd be able to smell it, I'd certainly smell it when he came in plus there's going to be ciggies around the house again, I'm feeling strong but not that strong, I'm not ready yet to have cigarettes and smoking in my face!

    So for now I've decided to not say anything, let him think I don't know and let him carry on being a secret smoker and having to sneak off to get his fix of nicotine, you never know he might get so fed up with having to do that he'll have another go at packing it in.

    Of course, Smoking Clinic on Thursday and the carbon test is going to be interesting, not quite sure how he's going to get round that one. It's in the morning and he's having to take time off work to go, I have every suspicion that something very important will come up at work and he wont be able to make it LOL

    So Flippy and Elenita lets show these men of ours who really is the weaker of the sexes. GO GIRL POWER !!!!!!!!!!!!

    My Quit Date: 01/01/2008

    I have been quit for 1 Week, 13 hours, 37 minutes and 9 seconds.

    I have saved £44.45 by not smoking 189 cigarettes.

    I have saved 15 hours and 45 minutes of my life.

  • So..... he doesn't know that you know he is smoking again:confused:;)

    I too must admit that when I have quit in the past with my wife, I was always the one who stumbled first and used to hide it from her.

    It was a case of tell her the truth and get a severe bollocking or.....

    Hide it from her until she finds out and get a severe bollocking.

    Hmmmm:confused:

  • Thats right dont let him know you know or he will start smoking infront of you and so smoking more. my hubby blipped big time at the works Xmas do. hes quit again now but back to square one. thats a place i dare not go. I know what your going through but be strong, show those men woman was built for endurance. xxx

  • Boudee, thank you, your words of encouragement really help. It's not easy but I'm gonna beat it.

    Barney, no he doesn't know that I know :) and I'm sure he's feeling the same as you about the severe bollocking, either way he's in big trouble :D

    dossydo, no, I'm not going to let him know, I think he's been really silly, he didn't try hard enough, he didn't really try at all. I'm just going to let it go and see what happens. I'm hoping he'll get inspired by my achievement and try again

  • Barney, no he doesn't know that I know and I'm sure he's feeling the same as you about the severe bollocking, either way he's in big trouble :D

    Hence why I haven't stumbled on this quit!;)

    Pure fear is keeping me from smoking again:eek::D

  • ROFL Barney :D :D

  • It never fails to amaze me that we can say bollocked but not ****yse. :rolleyes:

  • Ohh Angela your post did make me smile. Not because he has started again but because he will never get through doing that blow in the tube test. Please let us know what excuse he comes up with.

    My DH is a very stubborn man and i cannot tell him what to do he would get very stroppy if i tried. He is leaving his cigerettes laying around and even leaving half smoked ones in the ashtray for me to throw away. Its like he is puposely leaving temptation for me. But i will not give in this time. I was so hutted with myself last time i started smoking again that this time is forever.

  • Good for you flippy, you show him, tell you what, you get through this and your a winner. i know how hard it is wirh constant temptation. But we ca do it girl. xxx :D

  • OMG i am disgusted:mad::eek: I just went to my cup cupboard and i could smell stale cigerettes. I reached on the top shelf were he keeps his ashtray and he had only left half a cigerette in there. It had stunk the whole cupboard out. He is disgusting.:mad:

  • OMG i am disgusted:mad::eek: I just went to my cup cupboard and i could smell stale cigerettes. I reached on the top shelf were he keeps his ashtray and he had only left half a cigerette in there. It had stunk the whole cupboard out. He is disgusting.:mad:

    You must take revenge Flippy - that is not a good thing he has done, he should be helping you.

    A good kick in the nuts should sort him out!!

  • Ha ha ! dose he realy think you wont sniff it out ? duno about you but ive got a nose like a blood hound since i quit, can smell a stinky fag end a million miles away lol. hang in there girl your a toughie i can tell. xxx ;)

  • Its really not worth me having ago because he will get all shirty and sulk like a baby.

    He just dont think about anyone but him self. Selfish sod.:(

  • I'm still here and glad to hear that you all are. :)

  • Its really not worth me having ago because he will get all shirty and sulk like a baby.

    He just dont think about anyone but him self. Selfish sod.:(

    Just smile - dont forget u have the upper hand x

  • You must take revenge Flippy - that is not a good thing he has done, he should be helping you.

    A good kick in the nuts should sort him out!!Yes, l agree with sutty, preferably with hob nailed boots on. That'll show him! :D:D

  • hey congratulations everyone on reaching day 8! I really enjoy reading your register post everyday :D

    A special extra hug for Flippy and Angela. Be strong sweeties! Men...:rolleyes:

  • LOL i love our register post too it keeps me going.

  • me too! :D

  • Hello there!

    Calling all day-eighters. How are you all doing? We have made it to week 2! How great is that? :D

    Hope you are all coping well. Yesterday was a pretty hard day for me as I went out to lunch with some friends (one of whom smokes, no smoking ban in Madrid!) and then in the evening out to a pub with others (both smoke). Drank beer with them and beat the urge to reach out and take one. In fact, because I knew that was going to be the situation, I felt it was under control, as if I was prepared for it. So it was hard, but tremendously rewarding afterwards :). Felt great about myself :cool:.

    Back to work today!

    Speak later, hope you're all doing well. Stay strong!

    Elenita

    WOW! keep up the good work.What made you decide to quit?

    terry

  • Aye good luck all!

    Don't be too hard on friends / lovers that fail, I'm sure most of us know how soul destroying it is to smoke again.

    It doesn't matter how we get there, as long as we do , in my opinion.

    Its taken me months of lying to my girlfriend (& myself, "just 1 puff or 2, to take this feeling away, for this meeting at work and I'll continue to quit straight after" ) , disguising smoke smell, smoking butts etc.

    I doubt many people have been as low as I went (for some reason it was fine to smoke butts off the pavement, but not buy a packet) I truely believe if I can do it, we all can ;)

    I don't often sign up to forums, usually just a reader, but I'm sure most of us here are going to make it and there's a good vibe here.

  • Hi all,

    Mrs Terry asked what made me decide to quit. It's funny really, but I don't really have a particularly clear answer. I haven't read any books on the subject, and had never really given it much thought.

    I think the main drive was that I want to have children soon and I could not cope with the idea of having to give up because I was pregnant. I could envisage myself smoking in hiding while pregnant and I did not exactly like the idea. I said to myself that I preferred to quit while I was in control than to quit because of circumstances (pregnancy or whatever other circumstance).

    Also, the fact that my brother had a heart attack last year, aged 38 (fully recovered and fine, now) and that the only risk factor the doctors could come up with was that he smoked (he wasn't overweight, didn't have high cholesterol, had a balanced diet and exercised moderately, had a strong and healthy heart...)... must have affected me in some way.

    The thing is, I hardly gave it any thought really. Actually, (to be fair to men, who have been getting a rather raw deal here recently :)), it was my partner who said, on NY's Eve, I think this packet should be our last one. I was suprised, but said, ok... And here I am on day 9 (he's back smoking, but considerably less than before and none in the house). So I suppose I have to thank him for deciding to quit... as well as my own stubborness :D.

    Keep up the good work, all of you!

  • Morning to all you NY quitters - am so impressed with how many of you are still going strong. Just think of the party you have when you all reach the penthouse on the same day!

  • Morning to all you NY quitters - am so impressed with how many of you are still going strong. Just think of the party you have when you all reach the penthouse on the same day!WOW, l hadn't even thought of that hbav, maybe we should all start saving for the booze now. You know what that Boudee and Buffy are like when it comes to drink. ;):rolleyes:

    Josie

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