New here and not sure if this is the right place. Apologies in advance for the long post...
My grandmother is unwell in hospital. She's 79 and originally went in for a broken leg and fractured hip after a fall in February and was supposed to remain in hospital to receive physio to get her walking again. However, she's been unable to do any physio for a few weeks now due to her deteriorating. she's developed a hernia and has an infection of some kind. The hernia is quite big to the point she looks 'pregnant' and is causing her discomfort and pain. She's weak, constantly drowsy and can't eat properly. This has been a recent development as she has been in hospital since mid-February, and other than the broken leg/hip was happy and lovely (as much as you can be when bedridden). She's also developed a slight irregular heartbeat and been given a DNR order. The doctors don't seem to be telling my family much despite going to see her daily. They seem to be giving us mixed messages by saying they can't operate until her condition improve and then also saying that they might not operate on the hernia at all considering her age.
Considering her condition is unlikely to improve enough for them to give her an operation for the hernia it seems like we're just waiting for her to die considering the DNR.
Is there any advice anyone