I have now recurrently miscarried twice and consecutively also. My first was July 2019 and after trying for 15 months my second loss was October this year (2020). I found out 2 days ago that I am pregnant again but only with a very faint line. The line has got darker but I’m worrying which I think is just the anxiety from the previous pregnancies, should it be darker? I am roughly 4 weeks (last date of period 1/12/2020)
Also does anyone have any success stories they can share with me with successful pregnancies after a few miscarriages? I am really worried and the NHS offer no support to women like me at all, not at my hospital anyway. I’ve asked the midwifes to monitor me closely but they don’t care so going to try my drs today.
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Firstly Congratulations! I’m pleased that you’ve managed to get pregnant again, I miscarried at a similar time to you in October and am so happy to see your news.
Secondly, I mean this in the nicest possible way, you need to stop with the multiple tests. I feel your need for reassurance but it is anxiety. The darkness of the line can depend on how much you drank the previous day etc and won’t guarantee an outcome one way or another.
However, whilst saying that we all have our own ‘things’. I’m currently a day late and am holding out until tomorrow to take a test. I was trying to decide all night whether to do it this morning or tomorrow, and it won’t change the outcome, but I’m hoping if it’s positive in the new year then it’ll have a different outcome. (Which again I know won’t change a thing!) But whatever helps hey 🤷🏻♀️
I’m so sorry you’ve not found any reassurance in your local EPAU ours were great when we lost the baby and offered to monitor from 6 weeks if we got pregnant again (although maybe that will change with COVID).
It is soooo much easier said than done (especially with the state of various lockdowns) but you need to try and keep yourself busy or you’ll drive yourself crazy with worry.
Awww thank you for your kind words! So sorry that you have been through the same awful isn’t it - keeping my fingers crossed for you🤞🏼
What you are saying about the pregnancy test is actually completely true, I will stop now before I drive myself insane which isn’t what I want as I feel so calm this time round! When I fell the second time I was so stressed and anxious on top of being pregnant I was also in the process of moving house - don’t think that helped!
My hospital promised me when I miscarried for the first time I would be offered an early scan second time round and did they? Nope. I had to fight and fight with my Dr to refer me for one which they eventually did and got accepted but by then it was too late and I had already lost it. Going to speak with my Dr today and request to be monitored which I think I should be!
I am keeping myself busy and focusing more on the house we moved into (decorating etc) to keep me distracted and it’s working.
Thanks again and all the best with your journey. Baby dust to you & Happy New Year! Xxx
Firstly congratulations.My sister had 3 consecutive miscarriages 2 at around 12 weeks and 1 around 8weeks. She then had loads of tests and no problems were found. A few months later she became pregnant again and had a healthy pregnancy and baby. Try your Dr they maybe more helpful. I can't fault my midwife or the teams of midwives who cares for me. I know not all are as good.
Thank you very much & thank you for sharing your sisters story with me! Defo gives me a lot of hope. I’m feeling a lot more positive this time around no stressing just relaxing tbh.
I am waiting for my doctors to call me and see if they can help. Sadly my hospital really are rubbish! Wish there was more support.
Sorry for your previous losses and congratulations to you for being pregnant. Firstly after my experience with miscarriage I’d highly advise not taking multiple tests, I done the same and it wasn’t good for my mental health, I was panicking and worrying for no reason, once there’s 2 lines then leave it at that. Mine were very faint to start with in both pregnancies I had, the first ended up with a miscarriage but I am now 22 weeks pregnant and the lines were the exact same as before. Don’t worry. Stay safe and don’t over worry your self x
Thank you for sharing and congratulations! I’m not taking anymore I’ve accepted it and just trying to stay relaxed. Feeling really positive about this one! Good luck with everything 😘
This looks positive you have a gradual increase of hcg I think we all worry after a misscarrige I'm pregnant again after miscarriage last year at 12.5 week. I'm now 34 weeks congratulations and good luck !❤️
Think she was asking me but I think it's sensitive to ask on someone's post when they have misscarried it's your post after all not mine and it's important to think about the person posting.your line looks promising I didn't get any help from midwife for 12 week it was a very anxious time they said if I misscarried it was out of their control before 12 week but I hope thinks work out for you x
The worst thing is having no support from the midwifes.. if I could afford the private care I’d go for it in a heartbeat. But like you said keep a positive mindset. Thank you hunny xx
I had 2 miscarriages before falling pregnant with my first baby. Each time it took me awhile to conceive between each pregnancy. Anxiety is normal during pregnancy after a loss or multiple losses and don't be afraid to talk about your fears with your partner and midwife. I found just taking each day as it came and being thankful that for that day I was pregnant. It took 4 years to get my first baby and a lot of heartache. He's now a bright 5 year old who drives me up the wall but I wouldn't change anything because if I did I wouldn't have had him. We also have another little one and between the pregnancies of my two little ones I had another miscarriage. But I now have two lovely boys and I hope this is your take home baby! Good luck!
Hi there ❤️I’m so sorry for your losses. I have had 3 in the past year and a half.
I had a missed miscarriage summer 2019, an ectopic pregnancy in November 2019 and then another miscarriage (early) in May 2020. We fell pregnant the next month and are currently 34 weeks pregnant.
As we had 3 losses, we were referred to the multiple miscarriage dept, and had a meeting with a specialist there. We were already 11wks pregnant at that point but she did give us advice in how to cope mentally with the stress and anxiety of being pregnant after multiple loss, and that actually what we were feeling was expected and normal. Even at 34 wks I’m nervous and scared that something will go wrong!
One thing we have done differently this time is to stay off the internet. I found myself reading far too many articles/posts of what could go wrong, and what to look out for. Actually the best thing was to go with the flow and my mental health was much better for it.
Hi, congratulations to you. I had miscarriage last July and I am pregnant now. I think you can ring the mirrlees ward and ask for early pregnancy scan. Explain what had happened before. That's was what I did. After the miscarriage last time the midwife told me to have an early scan to make sure there is heartbeat in so I did and everything is fine at the moment. In that way I think you will stop worrying and try to get more rest just in case. Good luck to you xxx
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