so right now im in high school and as you know theres always the gossips and stuff but the thing is, i dont have real friends. is this ok?

[ainaa16]

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Hi there , I remember reading somewhere once that to have a friend you

Have to be a friend. Take control and join in stuff as much as you can.

Don't mind those gossips . They will gossip for maybe a day and

Then something else will turn up.

Could you try talking to a school counsellor or a teacher about how you feel.? I am sure that some other girls in your class feel the same.

Hannah

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I'm so glad to be many years beyond highschool.

Some people like and have lots of friends. Some people only have one or two. If it really is none, how can you change that? We need to be willing to get out and talk to others and to take a risk asking "would you like to sit together at lunch" to someone in your class who perhaps you've both found a classroom lesson hard or interesting or boring.

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I've spent my whole life without any real friends, but that's the way it suits me. I have friends that I can go with and I enjoy their company, but none that I would share my innermost thoughts with. People are dictated by what's supposed to be the norm. It's fine to be happy in your company. If you're not, then there are lots of things you can do about it, as Helen suggests above x

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Hi Ainaa,

Have you had friends before? I would not worry too much about this. We are

All so different. Sometimes if we are the extrovert outgoing type we thrive

With lots of friends. Whereas quieter types might not have so many friends,

I don't have lots of friends, try and just be yourself and enjoy the things you

Do. I am sure if you find you like Art or Music or Crafts or Sports. They will

Bring you together with people who have the same interests .

So try not to put yourself down over stuff.

Hannah x

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Hi

You ask whether it is ok not to have friends but the question is whether it is ok with you not to have friends.

If you are comfortable with not having any friends at high school then it is ok, but if you would prefer to have friends and do not then that is not ok.

If you are happy without friends then it may be because you are a loner by nature and content with that, as are some writers or scientists, etc, of alternately it may be that you have adjusted to not having friends and cannot imagine things being any different which is sad as you can be helped with that.

However if you would like to have friends then the question really is why you do not have them already. Perhaps you did not learn the skills for making friends due to earlier experiences, or perhaps you joined late or have interests that seem different to other people's? Maybe if you feel able to share your thoughts about why you do not have friends and how you feel about that we could help you to begin to make some?

Suexx