hi my friend is really depressed she wont even speak to me or anyone and she keeps pulling me about

[abergivinny]

she is anorexic

[Gambit62]

Really sorry about this - your friend obviously has a lot of problems. Is she being treated for her conditions.

With depression it is really difficult and I don't think anyone understands it unless they have actually been through it ... not something i would wish on anyone, but it can be really difficult when people around you are always asking you to explain so they can understand. You could try telling her that you know you won't understand what she is going through because you haven't suffered from depression but you are around to support her and listen if she wants to talk. It's the people that don't try to understand that are the ones that have really helped me.

Having said that though, at the end of the day you need to look after yourself so if it all gets too difficult to handle it don't be hard on yourself.

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Hi

You are obviously concerned about your friend and it must be difficult for you to feel she needs help but that she won't talk to you or anyone about her problems. You say she is anorexic but I am not sure whether you mean she has been officially diagnosed or that she seems to have that eating problem. If she has been diagnosed then her GP will be aware of the situation but if she has not then it may be more serious a problem at this point. Is there a trustworthy adult who knows her that you could speak to privately about your worries about her? It is always better to be able to talk things through with someone else who knows the situation. If not then I wonder whether you could talk through your concerns with someone from the local eating disorders service - they may either be able to reassure you to if they also feel concerned they could contact her GP. If you have serious concerns about her for example about the possibility of suicide then it would perhaps be best to contact your own GP and talk those concerns through with him or her - they could get in touch with your friend's GP if they feel it is appropriate.

I am not sure what you mean by pulling you about, do you mean emotionally?

Sue