Hello everyone , I'm looking for advice really .
My son is 8 years old he has high functioning level 3 autism , currently pre verbal ( he was non verbal) , has a global developmental delay and is a sensory learner .
He attends a local sen school which he will be in until he reaches 11 years old year 6. I have already got the next process moving and secured his next setting at another sen school from year 7 to he's 19 years old it sees him through secondary and college.
My biggest fear in life is what will become of him when I'm no longer here when we pass on. I'm still only 34 and his dad my husband is 40 he's currently our only child .
Our families are not in the right health to support us with him as they have their own personal health concerns .
How do we ensure our son has a future without us ? The future feels uncertain he is always changing gaining new skills and small steps of independence. Hes currently very much needing alot of support he is still a child so I am in no means writing off opportunities he has coming .
How do I make sure he gets his needs met when we won't be here ? What services should I be approaching ? Assuming as I'm his mum would I become his power of aterny and get him set up with life insurance and his funeral funds .
I do claim dla for him to support him financially. I don't claim carers allowance as I currently work as a teaching assistant in his sen school so I earn over the threshold. But I have previously claimed so I know it's there to reapply one day if needed .
I'm aware of respite care services he currently has a friend of ours provide respite who has the training in her job background. But as our son gets older I think we would need to reach out further as he's getting bigger and stronger . She I'm sure will one day have her own responsibilities of her own children she's only in her young 20's.
He attends a sen session weekly for swimming which he enjoys . I've tried looking for gymnastics and trampoline classes that could cater for his needs to no success. I want for him to get equal opportunity's and be given the chance to participate in social activities .
I do have a government gateway pass but I don't understand how to use it .
I'm feeling overwhelmed although I provide a fulfilling and loving life for him and teach him skills and independence. I'm terrified for his future and his mental health without us .
I pray he does get older meet a partner who will love him as much as we do and accepts him . I know some adults with autism do grow to do amazing things like education , work , build a relationship and family , have their own homes , drive etc .
I want to ensure he's safe going through life and plan ahead whilst enjoying the now and present.
I may sound way to premature in my planning but I can't bare to think if him lonely and left to struggle to survive .