"Booked visits"

[madswimmer]

Hi.

The Local Authority has asked that I give advance notice of when i want to see my 34 year old son.

He has is own flat + has care going into his home.

I visit once a week for 4/5 hrs. They say this "disrupts the smooth running of his care."

They have also stated that he is funded for 24hr care so i should not be visiting for this length of time.

He gets upset if i leave earlier.

Can they put such restrictions in?

Surely this is breach of Article 8 of The human Rights?

[Cakes2695]

No this isn't acceptable, do not accept it ! Care providers need to understand and accept the fact your son has family. Are you happy with the care/support received? Report this officially to the care team 's head office via a complaint & seek legal advice.

[TC65]

Completely agree with Cakes2695 , this is not acceptable unless of course this is what your son has asked for which from your post seems unlikely . Have the LA given more details re why they think this is necessary did something happen that prompted this ? I can’t help wondering if perhaps you have raised a concern about the care and this is a reaction to your complaint .

[LaVerite]

Shocking! It beats me how people in their ivory towers can force these restrictions on you. No doubt they will use the ubiquitous "best interests" card to justify their action. I bet they would think differently if their own flesh and blood was subjected to such authoritarian rules. Please name and shame the local authority in question 🙋🏽‍♀️

[SpeedyH]

You say that you visit once a week and stay 4-5 hours. Because they have asked you to let them know in advance when you are planning to spend the day with your son, I'm assuming that you do not have a regular reliable day each week that you visit him on. It must be very hard for your son and his carers to plan their week not knowing what day you might decide to spend with him.

I agree with others who have posted that you should be allowed to visit whenever your son wants you to, but good manners dictate that unless you are 'popping in' for a short visit and are happy to go away if they are busy/have commitments, then you should give notice and ask whether it fits in with their plans.

It might also be a good plan to start shortening your visits bit by bit to help your son get used to coping with visits of varying lengths. This would also help prevent the possible scenario of the LA reducing his care for the 4-5 hours when you are 'available' in their eyes.

[BenjiB]

I think a courtesy call to say when you’ll be going is a good idea in case there are other things going on that day. As for how long you spend with him that’s his choice surely!

[Bergersil400]

We have our daughter home most weeks for up to 3 days. We send them a list of dates when we are taking her home to us for a few days. We also inform them when we are calling to take her to a football match for a few hours. We usually do a month in advance & it works well both ways.We shall take her back today, after a 13 day holiday break & will take with us dates she will be with us for a weekend or few hours, taking us up to 2nd October.

We find this works well, as we were used to this when she was at home and going for short breaks respite.

Because it is a 10 flat complex staff could then be utilised elsewhere when not needed for our daughter.