Options to provide care for a loved one

[Cakes2695]

We are struggling to find the right carers to meet my daughters needs, she will be moving into a single occupancy home ( TBC) Care has previously failed. So i'm thinking how can i become part of her care team. ( This might only be needed temporarily until we have trust ) I can work with the carers show them how to meet her needs etc . Then this will be a more successful move for her future. Where can i go to find out what's available , my daughter has lived back at home for 12 months again now. I don't claim benefits i'm doing all of this without any financial aid . Social care just think it's family so get on with it but they haven't managed to help us find the right support team to meet her needs. Each time she moves out it ends the same . I want things to change i want more ownership /involvement.

Any advice or direction would be good at this point.

Thanks

[Jofisher]

I would highly recommend applying for a deputyship if she lacks mental capacity for financies and health and well-being. You can do it yourself on the gov.uk website. You have to prove nobody knows your daughter better than you and your her only constant and you have all her medical history etc etc. I hope this helps

[TC65]

Hello

Are you managing your daughters support via a direct payment ? Has your daughters social worker arranged a transition plan so that you can work alongside the carers in your home before she moves into her own home .

If you are managing via a direct payment it is possible with social care agreement for you to be paid and to be part of her care team . They don’t like doing this however if previous arrangements have failed then it would make sense even if on a short term basis .

Finding the right support is always hard , although deputyship ( if your daughter lacks capacity ) allows you to make decisions on her behalf it won’t help you in finding the right support .

My son has his own tenancy , I manage his care via a direct payment . When he first moved in 7 years ago I used a care provider . They advertised for staff I was included in the interviews and worked alongside them to train the staff . For various reasons this didn’t work and I now employ staff myself - don’t get me wrong it’s hard work but easier to find the right support staff .

I hope this helps

T

[Rupertthebear]

Hi Cakes2695,

Is she in supported living ? You say single occupancy house does that mean it’s a one bed flat or studio? Or a block with lots of other people being supported.

[Cakes2695]

Thanks for reply, 2 bedroom home 1 bedroom for her the other for carer to stay overnight as she needs 247 support. Council say's that the carers do not contribute to any usage in a single occupancy home ..

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To my other comment in your latest post.

The system is not only broken it is morally and ethically bankrupt. No exceptions when it comes to LD care implemented by statutory agents.

However, you can implement your plan conditionally on being ruthless in its implementation.

No one gives a damn and no pretence by all the fake care language will change that even when we have to endure it from those who appear to be mentally deranged in their optimism of delusional empathy - whilst simultaneously missing how the 'system' fails to connect things up properly.

YOU can connect things up as a parent and there is a clear path to doing so upheld in law and applicable.