Feeling Defeated

[Faithyjustice]

Imagine having a child who goes into hospital at 14 with cancer being a single mother for 10 years with no support from father and And then father takes son away and blockes the mouther from having any communication. Haven’t seen my son since been a year now. In that time I’ve struggled with justice and the laws and my rights and my son being 15 and me having no support . I have learning difficulties. And struggles trying to get what I need. It’s taken a year just to get a lawyer to send a later requesting contact. My ex replied my son doesn’t wish to see me😢 I don’t stop there I’m still looking and begging and trying to find away lawyer only just decided to apply for legal aid when I thought that was done a year ago. The lak of passion from her to fight for me to get justice is heartbreaking . I feel so defeated 😢I asked for emergency contact she said it’s to late for that if I had of send it when he left I would of got it😢 how do I know not to mention this is now maken me I’ll . How do I get support pls 😢

[Sarah_Mencap]

Hello again Faithyjustice

I am so sorry to hear about this.

This may not be the best place for you to get support. We can't help with anything legal.

We also focus on learning disabilities on here, and you mention that you have learning difficulties. These sound very similar, but they are actually different things (and many people get confused).

A few ideas of where you could get support:

>> talk to your GP about how you are feeling. They will be able to help you find support for your health, including your mental health.

>> get in touch with Citizen's Advice (citizensadvice.org.uk/law-a.... They may be able to help with getting better legal advice, and other practical issues you have. They will probably have a branch near you, and they may be able to talk to on the phone.

I really wish you the best with this.

best wishes

Sarah

[Faithyjustice in reply to Sarah_Mencap]

Thanks for the advice I’ve already done all these things and much MORE. As I have learning Difficulties I needed support with getting help while dealing with all these matters as I’m struggling due to my not understanding and doing things wrong as I struggle . I’m vunrabaule to not get justice or the help u need due to my words and explaining things wrongly .

[Sarah_Mencap in reply to Faithyjustice]

Hello

It is really good that you have done these things - I can see why it must be difficult for you. It sounds like it is pretty complicated.

Please do read through the other replies to you on here as they are very helpful.

You don't say what learning difficulties you have but you could see if there is support available for you.

For example, if you are dyslexic the Dyslexia Association may have a local group where you live, so you could meet other people with dyslexia. Find out more here -bdadyslexia.org.uk/contact/...

Legal advice is very complicated and this community won't be the right place to get support about this. Citizen's Advice would be the best people to talk to about this. If you have already talked to them, and you aren't happy with the legal advice you are getting, go back and ask them again. Tell them:

>> that you find it hard to understand things sometimes

>> that you need support

All the best,

Sarah

[learner01]

Dear Faithyjustice, I am so sorry to hear about your situation. It sounds as though your learning difficulties make things very difficult for you, and that you have language difficulties if you find it hard to express what you want to say or explain what you need. You might have word finding difficulties. A speech and language therapist would be able to assess you and suggest ways of helping and where you could get support. You may have something like dyslexia or dyspraxia that are affecting you so badly that they actually are a disability.

Have you ever been assessed for them? An educational psychologist would be able to. Your GP ought to be able to help you and refer you for assessments but you will need to ask them. If it’s easier to explain why by writing it down than having to speak to them, then do it that way and tell them why you need to write it down rather than talk. I think what you wrote above described your situation well.

Your GP or Citizen’s Advice should be able to help you or tell you about any advocacy service in your area that could support you and help you communicate what you’re trying to say. It sounds as though you might also need help from a domestic abuse support charity like Women’s Aid, you can find them online. There are people who are trained to support people in your position. Your local council may provide support too.

It does sound too as though you need a more understanding solicitor who understands about domestic abuse. The one you have should have told you about needing to apply for emergency access and should have applied for legal aid. It was not your fault. A different solicitor might be better. You don’t have to stay with the one you have.

Try searching online for solicitors that also understand about learning difficulties. They don’t have to be local to you to be able to help you because you can communicate online.

Disability Rights UK are a charity that might also be able to help you.

Try not to blame yourself. I know it must hurt so much not seeing your son. Do contact a domestic abuse charity because they will have knowledge and understanding about the situation you have described regarding your son and his father.

[Dolton]

I'm so sorry to hear what's happening to you. I googled and came up with this info re getting good legal advice for people with learning disabilities. It may apply to you.

localgovernmentlawyer.co.uk...

I'm thinking of you and am sending you all good wishes. Much love.

[Galwaybay2]

Learner01, (above reply), made a very important point. Please contact a domestic abuse charity. If a partner is behaving like this with your child now it probably is not the first time you have been mistreated. They will help you understand and make things easier to explain to others.

[rosie7007]

Hello @Faithyjustice

My heart goes out to you. It is a dreadful thing to be going through which is only made worse when you can't seem to get the help you need, when you need it. As you have said you raised your son as a single parent for 10 years, you must have been doing a pretty good job of it. Now to find yourself in a position now of not knowing how your son is doing health wise and not having any contact is disgraceful.

It doesn't sound like the lawyer you have chosen is fully aboard with your concerns and is doing very little to help you.

If you or someone supporting you could contact different organisations to seek advice on the best course of action for to take, that would be a good starting point.

It sounds to me like you may need a legal advocate to get your voice heard and hopefully start on a path that ends well for you and your son.

Try Citizens Advice Bureau, if you can't get through on the phone use email.

Look up legaladvocatesin ???????? (the area you live in

Try disabilityrights.org.uk

and of course Mencap may very well have some advice to offer. Today is my first day on here so I can't speak for what Mencap can offer you.

Please stay strong, you can only do your best. But a little support every now and again can go a long way.

Best wishes