Family members advocate

[Lewisgraham800]

Help!!!!

I’m 19 and my mums my advocate how can I remove this. She’s got control of my money and I live with my girlfriend until I go back to her she won’t give me my money

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Hi Lewis,

It clearly sounds like you are having some arguements with your mum. I think you need to sit down and calmly talk about the situation.

It just might be your mum has your best interests at heart, you may not want to hear this but she might be doing these things because she cares and can see problems with this situation. I know that you might not want to hear this. If this is the case, you need to talk to her about the problems she can see and put your views across. CALMLY. That way she will see that you have grown up. Also just remind her that how can you learn from your mistakes if you aren't allowed to make any.

I m not sure how you go about removing the advocacy, I think you could ask social services. I also think you are allowed to choose your advocacy. You could ask citizens advice about this.

Take care Lewis, don't do anything in frustration. Remember even in your 30's you will always need your mum for advice because she is older and wiser but equally she has to learn that you are an adult and even if she doesn't agree with what your doing it is your life. Talk to her CALMLY.

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Lewis you can get a different advocate you can contact your local advocacy program. But that advocate can’t help you with your finances.

If your mother have power of attorney or is the appointee you can’t have the money by yourself.

Now if you are able, say you have the mental capacity, and your mother has the either appointee or power of attorney, like deputyship wish is a document from the courts to say she says what happens to you , and you feel your capable you have to contact a solicitor to challenge that in court.

But one thing to bear in mind with that is , things can get worse if you do that. The court can then appoint a guardian to manage your money and your welfare. So not necessarily the right thing.

So I suggest you have a calm comfortable conversation with your mother, remember this. Mothers are always at the core of their children best interests, for instance if you have a social worker she and you and your mum can have a meeting and do what they call a best interest meeting, and from that you all can come to a best comm ground solution.

Your mother might be thinking at this stage your 19 and you have a girlfriend, she may be thinking that your girlfriend may be taking advantage of you.

There’s a lot to think of here, believing that what your mum is doing is on your best interests might help you to understand why she is doing this, and instead of getting angry at her it might give you a different feel for why and how she feels.