I’m back 😌

[ynkefan08753]

Hi all. I wanted to say a quick hello as I haven’t been here in a while. My brother passed away in December and ive been kind of laying low. I’ve dealt with quite a few losses in my life but this one hit hard. We were just a year apart and I’m not quite sure how to navigate through life without him. I guess since I was the one who always had something medical going on...I thought for sure I’d be long gone before him. He was only 52. Apparently lung cancer is easier to beat than alcoholism. I’m glad to be back and I’m going to go back and read some old posts to catch up with how everyone is doing 🥰🥰🥰

[Denzie Moderator Volunteer]

Welcome back. So very sorry for the pain and the grief your brother's death brought on. I can't imagine what it is to lose a sibling.

Helping others cope with their cancer issues may bring you a bit of healing of your own. Know that you've been missed.

[judg69]

Welcome back Yankee, and my sincere condolences on the passing of your brother. I know the pain only too well. I lost my closest sister at 52, and then horribly lost my oldest daughter at just 42 years. About all I can say is keep on keepin’ on , and you will eventually break through into the daylight again. Great to have you back and All Best Wishes, judg69

[JanetteR57]

Welcome back - hope we can be some support in your sad loss. It's still early days for you to be navigating and dealing with what him not being around means for you. As time goes on and different milestones are passed that you might have shared, you will adjust and hopefully remember the good times. In November 2001 I lost my younger sister at 40 and in March 2002 flew to New York having seen the twin towers twin beams of light tribute at Ground Zero on the news as I wanted to be somewhere where others felt loss too. Up to that point I'd held it together on behalf of the family who had fallen apart - registering her death, organising funeral, putting her house up for sale, sorting out her affairs, setting up a trust fund for her 2 girls etc. However keeping busy meant I'd avoided dealing with my feelings. It really helped me to read the messages/photos/tributes at firehouses, streets, churches etc and recognise many families lost several members suddenly, unexpectedly so surely I could deal with my sister's loss and help my family? The few days we spent there were more healing than anything I'd experienced - including bereavement counselling - but I guess we're all different. I was 52 when diagnosed with lung cancer in Jan 2011 but sadly in 2019 my late sister's eldest daughter died suddenly (33) from a bleed on the brain - to watch my parents lose their daughter and granddaughter seems so cruel. All these have taught me that life is too short and none of us know how long we have so making the best life we can for ourselves and others matters.... good luck as you reach out to others.... thinking of you..

[etpd2226]

So sorry for the loss of your brother. I’ve lost two brothers. One also died of alcoholism at age 42. Grief is a process. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers. ❤️

[Ncpoet]

So sorry to hear about your brother. Glad you are back.

[Kaylee20]

I'm so sorry to hear of your brother's death. Our siblings are our first best friends. They know us inside and out and love us. My only sibling Dave died of lung cancer at 44 years in 2000. I hate to say this but I have really never got over his death. My whole life changed this day and I have never been the same. I buried myself in other things instead of feeling my loss and I was wrong. Again I'm so sorry for your loss of your brother. Karen in Minnesota

[Jenniferroseolson]

I’m so sorry for your loss. Tragic. Take care of yourself please.

[Ncpoet]

So sorry for the loss of your brother. Grieving is never easy. When I lost my husband, I reached out to local Hospice and joined a support group. There is also Grief Share. I was participating in this locally but only made it through some of the sessions before CoVid shut it down. Thankfully, it is also offered on-line. Books by Gary Roe have also been helpful. You must be vigilant with taking care of both your physical and mental health during this time. My husband died in 2019. My grief doesn’t go away, but I have learned it becomes easier to deal with over time. Besides the stage 4 lung cancer which is in remission, I have recently been diagnosed with breast cancer. My husband and mother were my caregivers during my three years of treatment for lung cancer. My mother died in 2017. So this cancer I will be dealing without a caregiver. I received good support here and feel positive I will overcome this new cancer as well.All the best,

Judy