how do u put your self back in the world if u have no friends or means to get out?

[nick_01]

[formula]

a good question , im not local to where i live now .. i moved 274 miles from my parents family and friends , and a struggle to meet new people .. but in one sense im not looking to meet people but where there is a will theres away, look for local groups that interest you and build on that , so hopefully people you have met in those groups will include you in there personal lifes in sum stage of life things aren't going to suddenly happen , get involved in things which you share a common intrest ... you have met people on here go a step further and do it outside .. its the same principle

[nick_01]

thanks

[formula]

also nick if you have not got a car ! see if you can get the higher rate of motability if your limbs are able you to drive safely , there are a lot of adaptions they can do free of charge if you think a car would benefit you it would be a perfect realease for your mind to have the freedom to travel if you pass all the criteria ... people with motability problems or find it difficult to get about its a life saver ! i would apply as soon as possible

[bikerlifestyle in reply to formula]

i have a vw caravelle van from motability, which has a lift on the side, and is fully adapted with hand controls, electric doors and air suspension to allow me to get in and out.

it has given me a new lease of life, the adaptions available these days are amazing, and i would be surprised if there wasn't something available as they will design it around your needs

[ncmurphy1951]

hard one but headway run useful social groups or frequent a local cafe and build friendships with other patrons if you like sport follow a yeam watch them again build friendships or if you want to i found i made a lot of friends at my church

[bikerlifestyle]

i have been seen by a social worker the other week and they have said about a buddy system, i am not sure how it works yet but basically someone will come out and do things socially with me, to give me the help i need when out and about and doing things such going to the cinema or even painballing if i wanted to, (but i guess paintballing in a wheelchair would be like a duck on a fairground rifle range lol)

as i say i am not sure how this works yet because its early days

and i say again about this website meetup.com/

you choose your area (mine is birmingham) and then you look for meetups that interest you

i have cinema, photography and a few others) but you are under no obligation to go, you can just chat online and get to know people or you can go on meetups, but whateer yo want to do, its at your pace and to suit you

[bikerlifestyle]

but i think the biggest thing stopping yo from doing what you want is you (it is with me)

and we all need a kick up the arse

you need to decide what you want to do, what your interests are

do you live in a big city or are you more rural?

my biggest problem when it comes to social interaction is me, i want to do more, but find it physically and emotionally tough, i initially wasn't sure about the buddy thing when i seen the social worker as it meant getting to know someone new and trusting them, but the headway was with me throughout and pushed me into it (in a positive way, and do you know what, i am glad they did, its very much outside my comfort zone, but in one way i am a bit excited too)

but at the end of the day i is you who has to bite the bullet and do it, no one can do it for you, yes they can help organise it, but if you arent ready then you arent ready

[Danslatete in reply to bikerlifestyle]

Too true. I really had no idea what i wanted to do or where i would have gone given the choice though. That bit of me just didnt work. So i found it hard. But if the social worker gave me a timetable and told me that i would be doing 'x' on this day at this time, i never thought to question it i just did as i was told.

I knew i wanted more but i didnt know how to get it or even what it was i wanted.

I did the start art courses thru headway and really enjoyed it because you couldnt fail at it. It gave me confidence and helped me cope with the new people and places and activites.

Its easy to just slip back into doing nothing and seeing no-one, if it wasnt for the job centre needing to see me every 2 weeks then i dont think i would have spoken to anyone over the last couple of years because i had stopped going to headway, i dont know why i stopped, probably the weather in winter changing my routine and not changing back into the propper routine. Either way they told me to go ask at school if i could volunteer so i did and that has been my life now for almost a year, except now i get paid when im there.

[leeleeleelee]

well said bikerlife style

as above nick 1

bull bye horns

keep smiling

just asking things shows progretion

good luck

if i lived closer id take you camping an stuff

but who says you carnt anyway

pick sumat an have a go if not like try sumat else

so on so on some thing will fit an you will be happyer