what to do every day now i dont work am only 25 and feel life is over

[nick_01]

[TC1979]

That's a very tricky question and one which will probably answer itself over time. It may seem as though your life is over which in a way it is, your old life has come to an end but your new life is just starting. Unfortunately the pathway is unclear. Only you as an individual knows what you are capable of, start small and see how things go.

You could start to write a diary of your life so far and on into the future, you never know this could develop into a published book, you could write fiction.

Is there any chance of being able to talk again? How is the sided weakness too.

Good luck.

[iforget]

This a is another of those pretty impossible to answer questions...there are so many of them and we all ask them at some point... I can't tell you what you can/should do but I can share my experiences in the hope it may be of some help in some small way.

It is hard to come to terms with the fact that "life as we knew it " may indeed be over..but that does not mean there is not a bright new shiny life out there waiting for us to grab it! I would have to be the first to admit that I really struggled with this for a long time. It sort of felt to me that if I admitted life was never be the same then it was a form of giving up and I was not keen to do that...and then I realised that in order to move on I had to stop looking back. I had to find a way to work with what I had and not focus on what I had lost.

That said it is not an easy process and everyone does it in their own time and in their own way.

For me it seemed doubly difficult because not only did I lose my job (and that is one fast way to figure out how much of our personal identity is linked in to what we do) and all that went with it (lifestyle, social connections etc) but I also lost my ability to do the only other thing I loved...so like you, I felt very much cast adrift.

Again I will admit (clearly I have no shame LOL) that I was not the most pleasant person to be around at that time. I did not want to look for new avenues, I did not want to "find an outlet for my energies" and I did not want to be patronised by someone who thought they knew what was best for me (how dare they! LOL) I was stroppy and resentful and dug my heels in big time....and that was no pretty especially in someone of my age

And then as time passed I got really sick of the days just rolling on into another and I started to wonder what I could do to make them more interesting...and after a few false starts because I was still a bit stuck in the "I can't do" mode, I started to find things that interested me... and I began to look at ways I could adapt those interests into something that I COULD do and that I could enjoy.

It is still not easy, it was not an overnight thing or a sudden light-bulb moment of realisation, it took me a while and there are still some pretty spectacular glitches along the rather bumpy road, but I am more positive now . I am and probably always will be a work in progress... I will never be a poster girl for positive thinking though because I still have days when I want to rail against the unfairness of it all...but those days are less often now I have things to occupy me.

So Nick, I guess the question is...what interests you?

[Lubilu01 in reply to iforget]

What a lovely, honest positive reply x