Hi I’m Mel but I feel way older than I am in the way I am right now 🤨

[meljade]

I had a car accident 15 months ago , I was driving to work and there was black ice and I slipped on it and went into a brick barn and hit my head on my seatbelt holder and had to get taken to the hospital in ambulance but on the scene of my crash before they took me they had to put me in a coma to keep me alive then I got moved hospital then after I come out of my coma I had to learn to do everything like eat, wash, write, talk and walk so I’m not very stable at walking and I’ve got a brain injury so My life is crap at the moment

[DTBI]

Hi Mel, it is an uphill challenge for your body to recover from such brain injuries. As you no doubt know, TBI’s can’t repair, they have to redesign/reconstruct the brain. I had my TBI back in 2014, had a 2 week coma and half my skull is now Titanium. It took me 3yrs to fully recover, and I shall never be perfect, but I wasn’t before I bashed my head😄 I have to cope with the issues that can’t be replaced, but it’s no bid deal for me. There are millions of people, kids that are far worse off than me. Keep as positive as you can. x

[meljade in reply to DTBI]

I get told all the time to be positive about it’s hard luckily I’ve made some good friends from Tbi groups I go to which understand what I’m going through which is good because you feel no one understands you and say you’ll be fine when no not really you won’t!! They say you become a new you well that’s ok seen as I can’t remember what I was like before ha

[DTBI in reply to meljade]

Dare I say your TBI was only 15mths ago, I believe you’ll be a different fine in the next couple of years. Read ‘The Secret’ by Rhonda Byrne in the meantime👍🏻

[meljade in reply to DTBI]

Yeah I’m working hard to get there and I will do, thanks

[meljade in reply to DTBI]

Yeah I totally get that there is people that are a lot worse of than me which I have seen so in a way I feel lucky the way I am seen as the doctors expected me to die and be bed ridden for rest of my life so I’ve proved them wrong ha

[cat3 in reply to meljade]

It's like treading water for the first 2 - 3 years 'til your 'new' brain get's the hang of your new limits and no-go areas. I used to smoke and have a few drinks at the weekend but haven't been near either since my 'event' (bleed on the brain 6 years ago). But there are many everyday things which I've found ways to tackle which I couldn't contemplate in the beginning.

You're at a frustrating stage right now where it seems ages since your BI and you can't go back or forward. You're going forwards Mel but it's so gradual that you don't see it. But hopefully you'll look back one day and realise just how far you have come and start to feel more contented. I hope so. Take care m'dear. Cat x

[meljade in reply to cat3]

I can’t drink until January next year I got told to wait 2 year from my accident at least it will be really cheap to get drunk ha I can’t wait until I can dance properly because I used to love going out drinking and dancing but thanks

[Elenor3]

HiMel

So sorry to hear about your terrible accident. I understand how you might be feeling right now. I’m a bit further ahead than you in length of time since my accident. Some of the things you described have happened to me as well and all I can say is - at the time you think it’s never going to get any better but then (in my case in fits and starts) it does. Unexpected changes for the better will occur if you just keep on with it. I hope you’ve been in touch with the Headway Helpline- but if not - do give them a call x

[spideyman]

Your life is what you make it

[spideyman in reply to spideyman]

It will come back eventually but you’ll have different values than what you had before.

That’s how you’ll be different but the transitional period can take a long time