I recently reconnected with someone I've not seen for 30 years. He was my first boyfriend at school. We split up when I was 19 or 20 when I went off to uni and not seen each other since.
A few years afer we split up he had a serious accident and ended up in a coma and was written off by doctors as a vegetable (their words not mine). His parents then spent the next 10 years or so working with him to help him relearn how to walk, talk everything.... I've only just found out about all of this and went to visit him recently as I happened to be back in my home town for a week.
It was so amazing to see him and also so sad.
He has severe memory issues - can remember things prior to his accident, but mostly through triggers and prompts. He has trouble retaining new memories, so a few hours after my visit he had very little recollection of me being there.
I've written a few times, but he finds it hard to write back. One thing I've been thinking of doing is sending him something on a weekly basis as maybe the repetition and regularity would help his memory. I've been thinking about what I could send too - something to challenge him and get his brain cells ticking. His sister and mum think it's a good idea and so I'm looking for advice as I've no experience of brain injury and memory loss.
When I visited I played him music - songs I knew he loved when he was younger and seeing the recognistion in his face and him mouth every word was amazing and that brought back so many memories for him. So that's one thing I'm putting together at the moment.
Can anyone help with other suggestions?
I'd really appreciate some help.