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Thank you so much ๐Ÿ’“and Goodbye

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Dear friends,

As you all know my husband and I are going through a very difficult time after losing our baby at 10 weeks- after 5 years of IVF. After so many hurdles our dream has been taken away all of a sudden, and we donโ€™t know why. We saw our baby thriving for three times on scans, always measuring great and with a strong heartbeat. But life is unfair, we know that, now more than ever.

Your help and support has literally saved me, but it has become increasingly difficult for me to read news over here, both good or bad. Everything I read hurts me really badly, in one way or another.

So Iโ€™ve taken the decision to delete my account and try go back to โ€˜normal lifeโ€™, starting a new job tomorrow. Talking about everything thatโ€™s not IVF related. Talking to people who donโ€™t understand and donโ€™t go straight to my heart like you all do (which is an amazing thing!), will hopefully facilitate the healing process.

I donโ€™t know now whether Iโ€™ll continue the journey or not, Iโ€™m too hurt and scared to having to face many more hurdles to make a decision now.

Sure as hell though, I wish every single one of you beautiful souls ๐Ÿ’—to have your dreams of becoming a parent realised ๐Ÿ’—Iโ€™m 100% sure that you will ALL be outstanding mothers๐Ÿ’—with the biggest heart and caring skills.

Thank you again for everything youโ€™ve done for me, for us, and goodbye ๐Ÿ‘‹๐Ÿป ๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹

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Lowamh profile image
Lowamh

Good luck lovely x

Faith103 profile image
Faith103

Iโ€™m sorry to read this but you have to do what is best for your mental health. This is such a tough journey for all of us. I wish you all the success in life whichever way you and your husband decide to go. โค๏ธ xxxx

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Cinderella5

All the best Issy! You can always come back if you decide to............farewell lovely lady!!xx

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Mmmpudding

I totally understand where you are coming from. The forum will be a bleaker place without you and I will miss you enormously. I wish we could still write to each other as I thoroughly enjoyed our little chats. Yet I respect your decision and I am sure you will be just fine. Do come back and see us if you ever miss us ๐Ÿ’“. Love you lots and look after yourself. Big kiss xxxx

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ttcemmie

Hi Issy. Completely understandable taking a break from this (you are always welcome back though!!!), especially with everything you have been through, but I will miss you. Hopefully you can do some healing and thanks for your well wishes. You do have to do what is best for you and I wish you all the success and happiness wherever you go from here. Good luck with the stellar new job, also! ALL MY LOVE. xxxx

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Patches86

Thank you for being such a strong woman despite all lifeโ€™s unfairness, an example to all of us. Well done for putting YOU first. Wishing you so much success and happiness during your healing process โค๏ธ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผ

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Tiddly1984

Take good care of yourself Issy. Its very sad to see you depart but itโ€™s only right that you do whatever makes you feel better even if at times it makes only the smallest difference because it all helps little by little. Your post is touching and I hope that whatever next for you, that one day motherhood finds you along the way. You deserve so much happiness...x

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Nix321

All the best and take care of yourself x

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Lots8788

Lots of love Issy x take it easy and all the best for what your future holds x x ๐Ÿ’•

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Kurstx

Hi Izzy Iโ€™m so sorry to read this but I completely understand how you are feeling ๐Ÿ’” I am also struggling and feel your pain itโ€™s absolutely heartbreaking but you have to do what is best for you and your partner โค๏ธ I want to thank you for all your kind words of support during my hard time and I wish you all the best in the future you really are a special woman stay strong ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿผโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ xxx

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Corchi

I think itโ€™s probably a good idea to take a break from it all. Always here if you need us xxx

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hannahkc

So sad, Issy. You've really been through it. I admire your courage to move forward.and good luck X

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Hopeful20

I have just come onto this forum and read your post first..

So sorry for your loss and thank-you for sharing your journey.

God Bless, Jenny x

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KiboXX

Beautiful girl, have nothing but love and respect for you! โ™ฅ๏ธ xxx

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RhinoCat

I get it .

I havenโ€™t been on the forum much either.๐Ÿ˜ฃ

Think a wee break is much needed at times.๐Ÿ˜Ž

You do what you need most right now to survive the pain . ๐Ÿ’

Regroup.๐Ÿ˜˜โ˜•๏ธ๐Ÿก

Your warm heart will be missed but it is so important to โ€˜pull backโ€™ and save what is left of yourself. ๐Ÿ’–

It is hard to be the person who has hurt oozing out of every pore. ๐Ÿ˜–๐Ÿ˜”

Nice to have a new thing to be thinking about in terms of work . ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿป

We will be here if you need us, as always.๐Ÿ’

Much love ๐Ÿ’–

๐Ÿฆž ๐Ÿฆ ๐Ÿˆ

Tight hugs ๐Ÿค— ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’

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PenneyPots

You have been a pleasure to speak to on here.

I wish you all the best with everything Issy and Iโ€™m sorry for the hurt you are experiencing.

Bye you

โค๏ธ

Sammy xx

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CLDxxx

Iโ€™m sorry Issy ๐Ÿ’•

Will miss you and your positivity here but understand your choice especially as I feel the same right now xx

Take care of yourself and wishing you lots of luck & happiness ๐Ÿฅฐxxx

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Lilly321

Issy you are one of a brave women. If you have decided to leave for your mental peace then thats the best desicion. Do take care of yourself and never feel hopeless.

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PurplePiggie

Sending you lots of love and healing wishes ๐Ÿ˜˜โค๏ธ xx

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PurplePiggie

And good luck with your new job! ๐Ÿ‘

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FrancyItaly

Awww all the very best to you and your husband for the future ๐Ÿ’•

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Tigr

All the best Issy. I hope you can recover well away from all of this ๐ŸŒป

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franathy

All the best Issy, take care of yourself xxx

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amandac84

Iโ€™m so sorry to read this. Your hubby happiness and positive spirit on here has been wonderful and you have been a real contributor to this community. I am so sad for what you are going through, you will be missed but you are doing what is right for you and thatโ€™s all that is important. You look after yourself and stay strong and you know where this forum is if you need it again. Thinking of you and thank you for being wonderful. Wishing you lots of love at such a hard time xxx

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WinnieM

Lots of love to you Issy, take the time you need. You are a strong and special person. Iโ€™m sorry for everything youโ€™ve been through. Come back when youโ€™re ready xxx

Lots of love to you and wishing you masses of success in the future whatever road you go down. I often think about cancelling my account on here, sometimes its just too painful. I promise things will get easier xx

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MissSaoPaulo

Praying for peace of mind and serenity for you at this awful time and going forward, whatever you decide to do xxx

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Sunshine92

You are an incredible woman Issy. Who has been there offering comfort and advice to others when you yourself have been at rock bottom.

I wish you so much peace and happiness. I hope you can find it xx

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Sarah83ap

Wishing you lots of happiness and love xx

Will always pray for you โค๏ธ

All the best, Issy. Thanks for your lovely message.

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Picalilli99

Really sad to see you go Issy. But completely understand your reasons. It is so important to do what is right for you and whatever will best support your healing. Know you are always welcome back if this changes at any point in future. Wishing you the best of luck with your new job and in whatever you decide moving forward. Look after yourself lovely lady โค๏ธ Xxx

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Kwags

All the best Issy, May you have a wholesome healing and the very best for the next steps, whichever they may be x

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Janop79

I completely understand. My therapist actually advised me to do the same thing too.

Good luck with everything! Wishing you a bright and happy future xx

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Pinksunshine39

All the best xx I hope you find some peace x โค๏ธโค๏ธx

Iโ€™ve been offline only just seen your devastating news, I am so so sorry. I had a chemical pregnancy a year before conceiving my daughter the pain I felt was unimaginable. I also took time out from this site- I struggled seeing others news & scan Pics were )at that point) painful . You must do what is best for you. I wish you every happiness xxx

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Leesara

Wishing you well and sending hope love and positivity your way x

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Shelleybean

Take care Issy. Wishing you all the best ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’• xx

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sarahJE

Wishing you all the best and so sorry to read your story... it hasnโ€™t come to an end yet though. Do what you need to do, recharge and look after yourself x

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Georgie17

All the best wit( your new job and fresh start. If you choose to carry on with ivf, we will be here to support xx

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Kitty230515

Good luck my lovely. What is happening to you is truly heartbreaking. Just take some time you never know what the future holds. Good luck with everything you do, just take one day at a time.

Xxx

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WonderworldXx

So sorry Issy, I wish you all the best of luck with your healing process and new job. You need to do whatโ€™s right for you. Your mental health is so important. Sending positive wishes to you Xx

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Miracle43

Iโ€™m so sorry to see you go but completely understand.

You have been a huge support to me with what we have both gone through. Sending you love and hope we will spk soon โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ

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Tryagain45

We will miss you Issy....take care โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ

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peapop33

Iโ€™m so sorry to hear you are leaving โค๏ธ you are an amazing person and I will miss you on here. I want to wish you all the love and luck in the world for whatever it is you choose to do in the future.xxx โค๏ธ

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Core

You probably wonโ€™t get to read this but Iโ€™ll miss you and all your support. You have to do what is right for you though and while this site can be a great support I know it can also be tough.

Wishing you a happy and healthy future xxxx

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