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12dp5dt and we are out 😢

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Official test day is Monday but wanted to test over the weekend to prepare myself while not at work.

BFN this morning, and dreading breaking the news to hubby when he wakes up. Kind of expecting it but wow it hurts seeing that one line.

We are private patients so the thought of finding the money all over again, trying to go through a cycle without work knowing and the worry of this ever working have hit me.

I will pick myself back up and keep going 😣

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Noah1981

Sorry to see this it’s so bloody hard but I hope you find the strength in one another and wish you all the best in the future no matter what that may be big hugs xxx

in reply to Noah1981

Thank you. Well my bathroom has been scrubbed at 6am this morning. I am sad ams holding back tears but we will go straight in for another round. Im not going to let this beat us. Treat myself to a normal coffee at 4am and will be having a bath and wine tonight xx

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Sarah83ap in reply to

Sorry to hear this.i know this feeling it sucks. Pleased you are already focused on getting straight back into it. Enjoy your wine and and bath and a few days if eating and doing what you want! Xx

in reply to Sarah83ap

Thank you xx

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Fingerscrossed38 in reply to

So sorry. Ivf is so hard and it's not the needles it's the hope constantly being dashed. Would you request an ERA before your next transfer? Just to check the timing is spot on? Keep hope xx

in reply to Fingerscrossed38

Thanks. I will mention this at our follow up. We had such a good round, everything went really well so we are keen to understand what went wrong x

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Fingerscrossed38 in reply to

I know what you mean. We also had a perfect round with a pgs normal. Natural fet and it still was a chemical. It's got to be more than bad luck! I hope we find our answers

Rach82 profile image
Rach82

So sorry sweetie sending love xx

in reply to Rach82

Thank you xx

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Dreams1982

Big hugs being sent your way lovely xx

in reply to Dreams1982

Thank you xx

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Millbanks

Aww I’m so sorry. You still have 2 days but it must be very hard not to lose hope. Sending lots of love 💕

in reply to Millbanks

Thank you, not even the slightest of a line so i know the verdict. Just makes Monday a little easier as i have had time to process it x

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Millbanks in reply to

😢 you’re probably right that having processed it before will help a little with your strength on Monday. Will they do a blood test? Xx

in reply to Millbanks

Yeah im sure i habe to have one monday anyway. Feel awful hubby asking if theres still a chance and if its too early but im positive this wont change. Some people have OTD at this point x

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Millbanks in reply to

Yes but some don’t. Everyone is different xx

Jenny_ profile image
Jenny_

Sorry to hear that. I am suppose to test on Monday too and I am thinking about the same testing over the weekend.

Are you going to stop the cyclogest today? Remember you are testing two days early. It could be that your HCG is not high enough to be detected. I would test again on Monday as instructed.

in reply to Jenny_

I think i will carry on as normal since its only two days, i will still test monday but it would take a miracle to change xx

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Noah1981 in reply to

Miracles happen there’s living proof of it on this site alone your still in with a chance 🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞 believe 🌈🌈

in reply to Noah1981

Thank you. That would be amazing but im not hopeful xx

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Tiddly1984

So sorry Bluejeans83. I know how difficult it can be seeing that white line. Hope you and hubby can bring comfort to each other and once you both feel able to, plan your way forward. This journey throws us so many curveballs but in a moment it can all change. I hope you get to that moment...x

in reply to Tiddly1984

Thank you, he has just woke up and staggered past me. Felt awful delivering that blow while he was still asleep. We will be fine, we just need to process it and move forward xx

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Tiddly1984 in reply to

He will be fine just as you’ve told yourself you must be and you will be. Good luck, your whole story isn’t written yet...x

in reply to Tiddly1984

Thanks, my positivity will return quickly im sure xx

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Core

So sorry to read this BFNs are so devastating hope you get looked after this weekend xx

in reply to Core

Thank you xx

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Shirazlover2013

I’m sorry your first test didn’t give you the joy you were hoping for, you’re so right that single line really stings. But I love how you’ve turned the energy into something worthwhile and scrubbed the bathroom!! I hope you enjoyed your normal coffee, I’ve just had my fully caffeinated favourite coffee and am eyeing up my dirty dusty bathroom as I write this 🧐 we are stronger than we realise sometimes and despite the heavy blows to our hearts we somehow manage to stagger onwards. Look after one another and test again Monday just in case xx

in reply to Shirazlover2013

Thank you! I had to put the washing down to go comfort my husband 😅. Im trying not to let the result drag us down. We are going to have a day out together today and enjoy being normal xx

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LunaLovegood11

So sorry to hear this, it really sucks - and it’s damn expensive paying private! So much extra pressure. Thinking of you. Enjoy some little treats while you get ready for the next steps xxx

in reply to LunaLovegood11

Thank you. I know, already checking available space on my credit card 🤯. Hubby had a VR which was successful at first but as it healed it caused low count. So we are not entitled to any funding. The inly positive is we get appointments faster. Hard to swallow pouring £6k down the toilet with nothing to show for it. Hubby is feeling guilty about me having to go through all the procedures again. I told him that is the easy bit and i will do whatever i need to 💪 xx

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LunaLovegood11

Yesss 💪🏻 it’s so expensive but hey, if it works there’s nothing better the money can buy us! Xx

in reply to LunaLovegood11

100%! Im an accountant so very savy with money but when it comes to this im flashing the plastic like im Alan Sugar. We have had a discussion about trying naturally before the next go, i had irregular cycles which has been fixed with medication so we will keep a little hope at a miracle happening too xx

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Scarlett13

So sorry, it’s devastating to build yourself up and get a single line, but do keep going, keep positive, keep strong. It took me 8 embryos xxxx

in reply to Scarlett13

Thank you! Your story and strength is inspiring xx

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Lots8788

Sorry to hear that x we're all here to support you x big hugs

in reply to Lots8788

Thank you. This forum definitely makes a big difference x

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Squeak2

I’m so sorry this turn didn’t work for you, I’m very much stuck in that what do we do next thought ?! It’s just a horrid spot to be in... hopefully we figure it out!! Massive hugs 🤗 💕 xx

in reply to Squeak2

Hard isnt it. I feel a bit in limbo now until i speak to the hospital Monday. Nothing worth having is easy thats for sure. I hope you manage to come to a decision on your next steps. What doesnt break us makes us stronger (i hope!) xxx

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crisps88

So sorry to hear this, it’s heart breaking and no words can say how upset and disappointed you must be. Sorry for you and wishing you all the strength and hope in the world. Big hugs xxx

in reply to crisps88

Thank you, i really appreciate it. Getting my head around it now and trying to keep focused xx

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crisps88 in reply to

Be kind to yourself you’ve been through a lot Xxxx

in reply to crisps88

Thank you 😘 xx

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Coral86

Oh I am sorry so hope your ok 😞 like you say you have to pick yourself back up again and go at it again sending u my love enjoy the wine you deserve it xxx

in reply to Coral86

Ah thanks so much. I feel a lot of sadness but keeping in mind that so many go onto a successful round after a failed one. The support on here is amazing and once im ready to read posts of others again i will return that support xx

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Coral86 in reply to

Ahh I can imagine Hun it is true think of the first go as a trial run as hard as it is xxx

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