Why is it because my husband has a child from a previous marriage that I cannot get any help from the nhs with fertility? I am childless ?

[Sar75]

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Sar75. Yes, this all seems so cruel, but a child belonging to either partner is seen as “a child within the relationship”. As there are limited amounts of funding for infertility treatment, and indeed other areas of medicine, it is used when drawing up the criteria for selection. You could always try appealing against any decision, although chances of success are very slim. The only other way to get any funding is if you are under 35 years, you might be able to offer yourself as an egg donor in exchange for funding or part funding of treatment. Something you might consider. Kind regards Diane

[Sar75 in reply to DianeArnold]

Hi Diane thanks for your reply, I have never even met my husbands child as he lives abroad as the divorce ended very messy my husband doesn't even know where his son is. Unfortunately I'm now 38 so would not Beable to do the egg donar, it's so sad really as all I want in this world is to become a parent it just all seems so unfair

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK in reply to Sar75]

Hi. Then you must appeal and cite those reasons. Have a look at our website infertilitynetworkuk.com and go to the “NHS Funding” pages. Scroll right down to the bottom where you will see pink writing. One of those is a template letter of appeal to send to your CCG (Clinical Commissioning Group). Open it up and fill it out and send it – worth a try. You can find the address of your local CCG on the same page too if you don’t know already know it. Good luck. Diane

[Sar75 in reply to DianeArnold]

Thank you so much I will do it right away

[Eadie31]

What nhs region are you in? I think it's crazy that they do this to people.

[Sar75]

I'm in West Sussex and u?

[Eadie31]

I'm up in Scotland. x

[Sar75]

R u having Ivf then?

[Eadie31]

I'm on the waiting list, think I have about another 6 months left before I hear anything.

[Sar75 in reply to Eadie31]

Good news that you are getting help good luck with it all

[tazza_uk in reply to Eadie31]

Hi, I am also Scotland, may I ask which unit you are with? Hope you hear something soon. x

[Eadie31]

Thank you. I hope that you can get it to. I would fight them on this one as it's very unfair. x

[Sar75 in reply to Eadie31]

Thanks, I am due to go private to try and get clomid if that fails then Ivf is the only option so yes I agree

[Eadie31]

Well good luck and I hope all goes well for you. x

[acakegoddess]

I am going thru the process of appealing my CCG decision as my husband had children from a previous relationship and is infertile due to treatment for his terminal condition. It's so unfair I am penalised, as a childless woman. Apparently it's only in England that's this is the situation. good luck x