Infertility can only be comprehended by ones who struggle with it

[AmbK]

This is not a supportive post but more of an insight into my feelings or venting out the disappointment of persistent infertility struggle. At some point or other, all of us have to come across this situation where no one is able to perceive infertility as it is. Needless to mention assisted fertility is still scorned at by several be it openly or behind the back. No one truly realises that it's not something voluntary... none of us asked for it. It's just another medical procedure and the one suffering isn't so fortunate to happen to get pregnant naturally so they need it. It's even hearting wrecking that sometimes I see posts and journals talking about the irrationality of such process. Unless someone has been is the same shoes it's best not to try and judge people and their decisions.

This shamming needs to stop!

[Kempton]

It's hard. I was very critical of myself and the body I saw as failing, not being a real woman, unable to do the simplest thing that it was supposed to do. It's ridiculous and I feel so silly for thinking that.

There is a certain smugness that the fertile have. They're not even aware of it. But I definitely feel like people judge. Not everyone, but a lot of people. You are right though, you didn't bring it on yourself. Always keep that in mind.

Hope you get your miracle. I did and I was amazed that my body could do what it did.

[AmbK in reply to Kempton]

I can totally understand what you mean. Like I said all of us have been through this at some point or other. When something fails or just don't go as expected the first thing you do is look into yourself in the mirror than to look beyond or in surroundings. Then as usual the self blaming starts...been through it shortly after my MC in my early days of fertility struggle. Eventually you somehow learn to block this negative thought. ometimes when you get something so easily you get all filled up with smug to look the unfortunate lot with either overwhelming empathy or discreet disdain. I feel irritated with both attention as well as ignorance TBH... no sure if it's sensible but it just happens so. I think this is why all of find the forum totally helpful and supportive. I'm so glad that you could make it through... success stories always give me hope... no matter how far I am from attaining success. However, I totally belive I'll be there and hopefully early now.