disaster

[Rupa88]

after2.5 years of diagnosis my husband left me for a girl 20 years younger than him

I am hopeless, helpless

[LagLag37]

I’m sorry Rupa. Almost the same thing happened to me 20 years ago. Now I’ve been married for 11 yrs to a man that treats me like a queen. And, he knew I had Parkinson’s when he asked me to get married. So don’t give up. Things will work out for the better . 🥊❤️🙏

[bassofspades]

Sounds to me like he did you a favor. Your man was not a high quality person if he would do that to you. Selfish a55h01e. You deserve better.

[bassofspades in reply to bassofspades]

Still thinking about this and I want to say that I'm sorry that happened to you altogether and I know the pain is real. Hopefully it gets a little easier every day. His 30 something year old girlfriend is probably a loser anyway, because she is with a self centered cheater, and all she could possibly be interested in is his candy and toys. She'll eventually get tired of her 50 something year old man and cheat on him, dump his ass, and by then, you'll have a 25 something year old boyfriend. And remember, 25 goes into 50 a lot more than 50 goes into 30! Stay strong!

[Bolt_Upright]

I'm so sorry to hear this. Make sure you are protected as much as possible financially. Handshake agreements may not be a good idea. Instead of trust and verify, just verify and verify.

I don't have much good advice except to remind you that MBAnderson hosts Zoom calls twice a week and the people on the call are warm and friendly and will do their best to provide support and advice. You will be welcomed:

us02web.zoom.us/j/833522248...

Thursdays, 7 PM – 8 PM-ish, US Central Daylight Time (GMT–6.)

Sundays, 11 am – 12 PM-ish, US CDT.

[JayPwP]

Put up your picture where you can see it, and remind yourself repeatedly of who you are.

You are not Parkinson's, and it doesn't define you.

You are a beautiful soul who has lived a fulfilling life until now, and will continue doing so, no matter what happens.

You were / are loved by people around you, so enjoy each moment of your life, enjoy the love.

Life is too short to waste moments worrying of a future, which may never come.

Let bygones be bygones... including your husband...

To Hell with Parkinson's!!!

[Obiora]

First of all, your ex-husband is a piece of shit.

Lean on the people who love you, your friends and family, Parkinson's does not define who you are or prevent you from rebuilding your life with a better person, I know cases of relationships started after diagnosis that are going great.

A big hug and take care of yourself

[eschneid]

Really sorry to hear that Ru....As Bolt said above, come join our zoom. We will listen and support you. Maybe a therapist could help you adjust and find your equilibrium.

[Likii]

How old's your husband?

[Rupa88 in reply to Likii]

52

[Crollo1]

Don’t give up hope. I developed Parkinson’s after my first husband had several affairs. I was single for a long time myself with this. Two years ago I met my second husband. He also knew I had Parkinson’s. He is a wonderful godly man and I am grateful to have him. There is someone out there for you too . God bless 🙏🏻❤️

[Balahanda in reply to Crollo1]

Yes his bless him

[Balahanda]

sorry to hear that.it will ok do not warry. Just pray to god

[Rupa88 in reply to Balahanda]

I prayed to hod gor tears but I got PD, lost my job, now my husband ruined our life

So that is making me wonder where is this god??????

[Balahanda in reply to Rupa88]

I know sometimes you wonder where is the god. He will punish him. We are here to pay for our karma. I know . But please don’t loose hope. Just pray yo god he will listen to you one day. I know you will say it’s easy to say . But please please do not loose the hope .

[pdpatient in reply to Rupa88]

Good question and a very valid one. Unfortunately I lost my intense religiosity after my diagnosis. Now I wonder whether I should have kept the faith.

I understand your pain and empathize with you. I feel for you and can only pray for you from my heart. Keep the strength and hope and take practical steps.

Depending on where you are, immediately reach out to legal aid and social aid. They will have experience in these matters and will help you with the details. Do not feel embarrassed or ashamed to reach out to those who can help you with the circumstances and do it ASAP.

Life is not fair. It never was and never will be. It's up to us to get the best out of it. May God bless you and your family that you still have.

[MomoP]

Rupa, I am sorry to hear about your situation. I think similar situations happen more than we know. After 5 years of marriage, I find myself alone, recently having to move with family. He is with his ex wife. He didn’t want to deal with this. Neither your husband or mine took their vows seriously. They are selfish. It’s an unfortunate situation we find ourselves in but we must move forward with our lives even if it is baby steps sometimes. You got this! My heart truly goes out to you

[Balahanda in reply to MomoP]

Yes this is an unfortunate situation. But please do not loose hope they will pay for their deeds

[MomoP in reply to MomoP]

15 years, 5 was a typo

[TNCatherder in reply to MomoP]

Every ending means a new beginning! Be good to yourself! Some people have no inner strength and cannot deal with anything negative. He must have been one.

[pdpatient in reply to MomoP]

Still hurts, maybe more. May God bless you. Not everyone can live up to the marriage vows of "in sickness and in health". Good riddance right?

[Lovevirk]

such selfish people are better left. I wonder why you didn’t kick him out. Sure enough you must not have noticed due to being involved in PD management or you are too nice a human being who believes in people. Maybe it is good for you as God wanted you to take care of yourself fully. God bless

[Rupa88 in reply to Lovevirk]

I am not wirking now. Live in rental property with a kid, who is gonna pay for me, he just left

[Balahanda in reply to Rupa88]

Sorry to hear this again. Do you have any family member who can take care of you

[PalmSprings]

I am so sorry to hear this Rupa. This says a lot about him and from my perspective, he doesn’t sound nice. I know though when things are fresh the hurt can run deep. Know, that their are a lot people in this community that are thinking of you and pulling for the hurt to lessen. Trite, I know, but time heals. Join the Zoom for some support!

[faridaro]

Dear Rupa,

Please go to the following website: janetperezeckles.com/

You will learn about Janet who lost her eyesight at 30 due to a genetic disorder, then her husband walked out on her leaving her with 3 young children, later one of her children was murdered at the age 19. Just absolutely devastating story! Several years ago I've heard this amazing woman speak at a conference and got on her mailing list. She sends out weekly emails, this is the last one: janetperezeckles.com/blog/1...

Believe it or not now she is happily married to a wonderful man. There is always hope!