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Has anyone else had problems with there child being Bullied big time at school? If so what did u do?
When I was younger (im 21 now) I was bullied a lot at school, not by my friends but by people in my class or year group or school who were ignorant. It really used to upset me and get me down, p.e. Used to be the worst when getting changed and my scar was visible and my skin which was all cut because of my itching. The children used to call me all sorts of names,but one day I told them it was a shark bite. None of them needed to know the truth, my friends knew and they supported me. And as soon as the children heard it was a shark bite the bullying stopped ad the acceptance started. It was a long process and there were still bad days, but knowing that I had the support from teachers and friends helped me so much.
Thanks for taking the time to reply clarey91. I'm so glad that you found a way to stop the bullying. Just by saying it was a shark bite.
I have informed the school that I don't want it hid under the carpet any more. Everything crossed his yr head is putting together a power point that will b shown to the kids after half term
No problem, my pleasure, the incident before was at primary school but when i moved to secondary school, i was admitted to hospital and off school for about 8 weeks, but before i went in i was slightly jaundiced and was worried about what the children in my class would say when i returned. whilst i was away my form were given a talk from the head of year too, and the support they gave to me when i returned was remarkable. In secondary school, bullying wasn't an issue, and i think this was a lot to do with the fact that the other children had all been made aware, so i think the power point will really help 
While a Junior school his class was shown info & photos. Plus asked how they could help keep him safe. That did work
But when he went to secondary school only 1 person from his old school went to the same school as him. Only spent 6 wk there 2 yrs ago. Everything went wrong, class made him a get well card. But he only went back to school on a part time bases until the Feb half term. The special needs teacher told him he was unable to inform anyone why he had been away. She caused him major problems that I didn't want her near him again. His new year head has taken him under his wing & looks after him.
It doesn't happen that he has other problems due to development, meds & cheom.
I have everything crossed that it will work.
Thanks again for your reply
Sharon
I used to work for anti-bullying organisation. In terms of your child it can help to reassure them that the behaviour reflects on those involved and not them. Bullying often undermines young people's self esteem and so reminding them how much you love them and encouraging them to value themselves is important, as is keeping the channels of communication open and encouraging - not pressuring -your child to share their feelings with you or perhaps someone else they trust. Sometimes it can be helpful to point out that people who are involved in bullying often do it because they are unhappy in themselves and therefore it is more about them than the people they target. This might reassure your child that they are not to blame and it's important to reinforce this as well as acknowledging how they feel. It is not always easy for a child to open up to their parents and people who are closest to them - so explore other options with your child. Childline is a good source of emotional support that some children may prefer to use as it is confidential and anonymous.
As a parent you have the right to expect the school to address the behaviour and work in partnership with you to support your child. Ask for a copy of the school's anti-bullying policy - this should spell out what the school's commitment is to addressing bullying. Use the information here to communicate with the school what you and your child would like them to do to address the problem. A presentation can be effective for raising awareness - but how will your child feel about this? If they think it's about them they might feel embarrassed or ashamed. There are different ways to tackle bullying behaviour and you and your child should have a say in what will work for them as well as be kept up to date by the school about the progress they are making. Beatbullying and respectme are 2 organisations with good websites that you may find helpful. Most importantly your child has a right to be and feel safe and the school should leave you feling confident that they are taking sensible and effective steps to address the issue and work with you to support your child with whatever impact it has had on them.
Thanks for your reply.
My son's self esteem has been knocked big time & has not been a happy little boy. He has got better now that he is on half term. I will have a look on the website to see if I can find a copy of the schools anti-bullying policy. If it's not on there I will ask for a copy on Monday.
My son wants the yr group to know what is wrong with him. He said today when he heard that Dave from CLDF phoned up while I was out. I hope my yr head will show the power point on Thursday.
His PO at Cadets has informed him that he will write to the school if we wish. This has helped my son go on a large high. I will look at the 2 websites that you have given me the names of.
While a Junior school his class was shown info & photos. Plus asked how they could help keep him safe. That did work
It doesn't help that he has other problems due to development, meds & cheom.
I have everything crossed that it will work.
Thanks again for your reply & advice
Sharon
Sharyon,
I hope things improve for your son with the power point and talk with children.
I was punched in the stomach when I was about 8 and as I had had two surgeries my mother went to the school. I remember having to sit out side the class while the teacher said whatever she said about me, that actually made me feel worse. However, the headmaster was an idiot and took the view that it was all our faults, when in fact the boy who punched me had done it out of the blue--he had been arguing with my best friend while I watched and he turned and punched me.
When I was at secondary school I only had problems with the PE teacher as I wasn't able to join in at times when I had just been in hospital. I saw him a few years later in a pub and he asked if I still had the 'heart problem', I said nothing and walked on thinking he was an ignorant.It was said in a scaving manner. At art achool in my twenties I had to have a chunk of time off and came down one day after an offer to join the painting class for an hour. Well, the class didn't like it as they had let me join in with the class ahead of me. I spoke to a teacher about it sometime later and he said he would have spoken to them if he had known. I did have an ignorant teacher jump back when he saw me, I doubt I looked very well but I wasn't jaundice but I guess most people still think liver problems are due to either alcohol or catchy hepatitis. On that occasion I wrote to the staff and hopefully dealt with the situation in a light manner. I have had ignorance in the work place as well.
As an adult now that I am sick all the time, I restrict myself to people who are very understanding and have had to pull away from others particularly the ignorant. The current trend in alternative medicine has a lot to answer for.
I hope your son can restore his self esteem with help from you as he will deal with situations all his life. As a young person I never liked to talk about my illness but now I am a lot older I do explain to people if they are interested and would not hide my illness now as I believe that out side people need to learn about liver disease for the sake of the many people (adults and children), dealing with liver disease through no fault of their own. I think it is great your son is prepared to have the other children learn about what he deals with.
best wishes for the future
Vickie
