Mother cognitivie aftermath after stroke (vascular dementia)

[DiegoArgentina]

Hi. My mother (59old) had a stroke and ended up with cognitive aftermath. This was more than 10 years ago, so its not something new to me. She have short memory problems, she have compulsive hoarding (the house is messy), and lot of things, she cant do simple maths, she have a rare way to to talk with people, she is bad about having a normal conversation, she gets angry, etc etc.

Im here just looking to meet other people with parents with this. Im not looking to have advices, or any other thing. Just looking to meet other people who have dealing with a parent with this.

She is hard to talk with, its hard to just go and have a normal visit to her house. She gets angry, she criticize, and sometimes is just hard to feel ok with her. My sister just got tired of this. Im the only person who takes care of her, we dont have any other person to go to visit her or call her.

Anyway she is pretty fine. I can keep talking a lot about her, but i should have to write much more.

So, if anywants to chat, let me know, again, im not looking for advices.

[MAS_Nurse]

Hello DiegoArgentina,

Welcome to this very caring community. You're right, it would be very helpful for you to have someone to chat to in similar situations to yourself. It can be very hard to care for someone, especially if their personality has changed.

There are lots of supportive members on here for you to talk you, is anyone in a similar situation to DiegoArgentina who wants to chat and share experiences?

Wishing you all the best and remember to take care of yourself also.

MAS Nurse and Moderator.

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Hi DiegoArgentina,

A very warm welcome to you. We're very glad to hear from you. Thanks for sharing your history of caring for your mum. It sounds as if you are doing a wonderful job in some very trying circumstances. Sadly because of all sorts of conditions, our loved ones' personalities can change and leave us feeling as if we're dealing with a stranger, not the person we once loved so much.

The love goes on, but it can be very much altered when the person concerned has a disorder that changes the way they think and feel.

I had the same thing with my dear sister, (now, sadly gone), and I can't say I was never impatient, frustrated, annoyed and all of those other very human failings, but I always tried to remember that, underneath was the lady I'd once shared so many loving moments with and whom I'd laughed and cried with through the years. It somehow makes it a bit easier to bear.

Anyway, you've come to the right place. The best way to keep a conversation going here is to post here often and then we'll come to know you and your circumstances better, so whenever you feel like a bit of support or just an exchange of views, do post again.

Meantime very best wishes and, again, a warm welcome.