Hello

[Chrisi-]

Hi new to this. Have finished work to care for my 86 yr young mom who has moderate dementia and has just come back to her own home after 3 months in hospital. Any help and advice on anything would be appreciated.

[jaykay777]

Chrisi -- Welcome. People here will be glad to respond to you and share their experiences. I'm sure it was not an easy decision for you to leave your work behind and dedicate yourself to caring for your mom. Is mom's home near yours? Do you have anyone else in your home? I'm just trying to get a picture of what your day to day life is like. My primary advice is to keep a record of doctor's orders and appointments and questions you want to ask at mom's next visit. Keeping a routine will benefit her. If you can receive services from a social worker, it will benefit you and your mom. I didn't have that when I suddenly became my mother's caregiver in the late 1980s. I did have the support of a social worker when I was the caregiver for my late husband. I would have been lost without that help. You refer to your mother as your 86 year young mom, so I'm guessing that she is in fairly good physical condition. Is that right? I am 86 too. I live in an independent living facility where I share mealtime with my friend "Martha." She has early stage dementia that affects some parts of her life.

[Philip]

Hi, I'm sorry to hear that, I think one of the main thing is to keep your reassuring, also patience and self control at the more stressing time.

I have Dementia diagnosed in 2014 and from my experience I may come in usefull lol.

Philip

[Chrisi- in reply to Philip]

Thank you

[lharris]

I also think it is very important to allow time for yourself and have some time out. It may be worth looking up some respite care that will allow you to do this on occasion or maybe some local groups you could both join?

[Philip]

Oh most definitely, you need some rest bite, your local Alzheimer's Association may have a list of places and the mental health people, such as your mums CPN will know because some of my friends at my Dementia groups go into restbite for a few days and the carer has a well earned rest.