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Does this condition mean I should give up finding a partner

UniquePanda
UniquePanda
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Hey I hope you all are doing well...

This is slightly unrelated I don't know how to put this.. But basically I was dumped due to partly my illness..

I was looking to get married and I had thought I found someone that understands and accepts me... Illness and all

Now I'm trying to move on I have a date but I wanted to know would you disclose your illness at the very start as it would save you any long term heartaches or would you wait or how would you approach the situation

Although I feel like no-one will accept me with this illness so I have thought about giving up finding anyone.

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Mooka

I’m sorry you have been so badly let down. I’m sure there must be a kind considerate person out there for you somewhere you just have to find that person! I really don’t know whether I would disclose on first date or not. Personally I don’t like to be defined by my illnesses but I can understand that you feel that you may invest too much emotion if they decide they can’t cope with it later on and theres an awful lot of people out there who can’t cope but I have also found that when people do know you have problems they disclose they have had some too. I hope you can find that special person. X

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UniquePanda
UniquePanda
in reply to Mooka

I have found that a lot of people have said it's not what they need right now when they find out later on so I don't know if changing my approach is the best thing

I apologize for my late reply got pneumonia ATM... Thank you for the advice really appreciate it hope you are well

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Mooka
Mooka
in reply to Mooka

I am sorry to hear you are so poorly. I suspect that is not helping you mood either. Get plenty of rest and hopefully as you start to feel better you will feel more positive about everything. Guy_Incognito has struck lucky and shows that you shouldn’t give up. And yes we all understand on here most others find it more difficult. Take care xx

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Guy_Incognito

Hi, sorry to hear that. I certainly wouldn't give up. You just had a bad experience. I disclosed my condition to my then girlfriend after a few dates during a natural point in the conversation and she did some research herself to understand it for herself. She's now my wife. Everyone is different and I'm sure you'll find someone who accepts you!

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UniquePanda

I've seen with some men it causes resentment as they think you hide it.. But definitely I will keep trying maybe after a wee break I'll get back into looking thank you for your advice really do appreciate it as not many people understand in my family why I kind of am put off marriage ATM may God bless you and keep you in best of health

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